HELP! I just relapsed with alcohol, and I have a 7wk old baby....?!
Question: HELP! I just relapsed with alcohol, and I have a 7wk old baby!.!.!.!.!?
I dont have ANY friends since the baby and really need someone to give me some words of wisdom or SOMETHING!. I am so pissed off at myself, and I plan on getting the Vivitrol shot (naltrexone) which helps with alcohol dependence, next time I go to my doctor in a month, but I really need some people to give me some encouragement or just some words of wisdom!. I know I messed up and I am really depressed right now, so if anyone wants to cheer me up and give me some hope, I would LOVE to hear anything you have to say!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Darling,
For starters, I think you have just started your recovery again!. Day One!.
You must be experiencing a lot of guilt right now, but wait!
You are human (and a new mama)!
Please go to this website: www!.alcoholics-anonymous!.org and give them a call!.
They can connect you with women who have needed the same, exact help you are asking for right now!
They are very supportive, and will help you so much!.
You do not have to quit drinking alone!. In fact, I don't believe it can even be done!.
I was a young mother once!. I drank like a fish, and didn't have the courage to do what you just did - ask for help!. It took me the first 8 years of my two sons lives just to get so down I had to look up!.
I have been 'clean and sober' now for 14!.5 years!.
From the nightmare that I made of my life in the years before AA - the years since AA have made every dream in my life come true!
Every one ~ and then some!.
God Bless you and your baby!.
I am glad you asked for help tonight!
nurse_dee_2006@yahoo!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com
For starters, I think you have just started your recovery again!. Day One!.
You must be experiencing a lot of guilt right now, but wait!
You are human (and a new mama)!
Please go to this website: www!.alcoholics-anonymous!.org and give them a call!.
They can connect you with women who have needed the same, exact help you are asking for right now!
They are very supportive, and will help you so much!.
You do not have to quit drinking alone!. In fact, I don't believe it can even be done!.
I was a young mother once!. I drank like a fish, and didn't have the courage to do what you just did - ask for help!. It took me the first 8 years of my two sons lives just to get so down I had to look up!.
I have been 'clean and sober' now for 14!.5 years!.
From the nightmare that I made of my life in the years before AA - the years since AA have made every dream in my life come true!
Every one ~ and then some!.
God Bless you and your baby!.
I am glad you asked for help tonight!
nurse_dee_2006@yahoo!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com
You must contact your health visitor as by being back on the alcohol, I take it in a big way, your baby is at risk!. You have taken the first step by asking for help!. The thing is you really need to help yourself for the baby's sake!. Why don't you look in your local phone book and find a mother and baby group you can go to locally!. This will help not only with baby's development but will give you a chance to get out and meet other mums who are probably in the same situation as yourself!. You never now you might enjoy it and make new friends!. But you really must get help initially from the health visitor!. Good Luck I am sure you can beat this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First, your baby is so cute in the pic!.!.!.
Have you thought of finding AA meetings in your area that have child care (or better yet keeping baby with you in the meeting)!. Most people would rather have a young mom with a baby in a meeting than out drinking!.
You have a whole community of people willing to love and support you through this!. You are not alone!.
In the alternative, there are online meetings and support as well as telephone!.
Having a new baby and being new in recovery can be difficult due to powerful emotions arising as part of being a new parent!.
In California (and online) there is a program called the Life Model and or Thriving!.!.!. something like that, that I think you might be interested in!. As well as the book Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel!.
Best wishes to you, hang in there, there is hope!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you thought of finding AA meetings in your area that have child care (or better yet keeping baby with you in the meeting)!. Most people would rather have a young mom with a baby in a meeting than out drinking!.
You have a whole community of people willing to love and support you through this!. You are not alone!.
In the alternative, there are online meetings and support as well as telephone!.
Having a new baby and being new in recovery can be difficult due to powerful emotions arising as part of being a new parent!.
In California (and online) there is a program called the Life Model and or Thriving!.!.!. something like that, that I think you might be interested in!. As well as the book Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel!.
Best wishes to you, hang in there, there is hope!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Until you can get that shot, why don't try walking into the doors of AA and getting a bunch of numbers and inviting people out for coffee!? They have found a solution, they would be happy to share their experience, strength and hope!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ok honey calm down!.!.!.you will be ok!.!.!.you may want to try as hard as you can to keep alcohol out of your house!.!.if you are breastfeeding then this is not good at all for the baby!.!.more so if you are drunk then it definately is not good for the baby!.!.but ya know nobody should feel sorry for you b/c you know not to drink with a newborn baby in the house!.!.shame on you!.!.!.there are women who would love to be in your shoes and can't have a baby and would never do this!.!.so you might get some rude comments on here i don't know!.!.i am probably one of them b/c i think what you have done is thought of yourself and are selfish for not thinking of the baby first!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
listen to Quran
http://www!.quranexplorer!.com/
Sura al baqara the 2nd
recite sheik Ahmed- aljimi
will be recovered in Allah willing
read this Quran verse
And We reveal of the Quran that which is a healing and a mercy to the believers, and it adds only to the perdition of the unjust!. (82
other verse
O men! there has come to you indeed an admonition from your Lord and a healing for what is in the breasts and a guidance and a mercy for the believers!. (57)Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.quranexplorer!.com/
Sura al baqara the 2nd
recite sheik Ahmed- aljimi
will be recovered in Allah willing
read this Quran verse
And We reveal of the Quran that which is a healing and a mercy to the believers, and it adds only to the perdition of the unjust!. (82
other verse
O men! there has come to you indeed an admonition from your Lord and a healing for what is in the breasts and a guidance and a mercy for the believers!. (57)Www@Answer-Health@Com
As they say hun 1 day at a time! Don't beat yourself up too much as that will only make you want to give up and do it again, put it behind you and start again from today!. A young baby can be a massive strain but give you as much Joy as you get pain!. Focus on the lovely stuff you get from being a mother and breath through the waking nights!. You will be fine (hug)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Life is not always fair!!!You got to stick with it and do your best tough!!You more than most people because there is a baby also!!!Just be careful with every little step you take down the pathway to your life!. Also never miss the little things on the side because every flower has a story to tell!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
U can do it!. U r stronger than any weakness!. By poisoning ur self, not only does it hurt u but it also effects your child!.
I grew up with 2 alcoholic parents!. Neither remember too much about my childhood!. Because I tried to either stay gone or hide out in my room!.
Check out meetups!.com!.!.!. get out of the house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I grew up with 2 alcoholic parents!. Neither remember too much about my childhood!. Because I tried to either stay gone or hide out in my room!.
Check out meetups!.com!.!.!. get out of the house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
please try this, it helps you and the baby
Mediation technique
We experience life through our mind!.
Experiences are what they are, but the mind often puts a new spin on them, making them seem worse at times!.
This produces the pain we feel inside, and when it builds up enough we either hurt others or ourselves!.
Not because we are bad or evil, but we aren't sure how to deal with the agony inside!.
The longer it stays, the more dead/dull we feel inside!.
Meditation is all about controlling you mind rather than being controlled by it!.
It is difficult to directly approach the mind and tame it, so we start by approaching the nearest manifestation of it- breath!.
It can be seen that when we have tremendous concentration we are not breathing as regularly, and when upset breath shallow and rapid!.
How to do this!.
Begin by becoming aware of your breath!.
With each inhalation pay attention to the air entering you right nostril(air will enter both,but focus on the column of air in the right side)
Exhale and pay attention to the column leaving your left nostril!.
Inhale and pay attention to air entering the left nostril
Exhale and pay attention to air exiting the right nostril!.
Then breath deep and feel the air in both sides rise up to the tip of your nose(like an inverted V ),
and push it all out(feeling both sides)!.
This is one cycle, you can do up to 100 in a day!.
It is a simple game to keep the mind busy(if you loose track on count restart), and off the things it can't change with worry(realistically everything)!.
As you get better at this you'll be able to identify a space between your thoughts!. As that awareness deepens you'll feel a peace when it arises!. And soon you should be able to identify yourself as that peace rather than your mind!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Mediation technique
We experience life through our mind!.
Experiences are what they are, but the mind often puts a new spin on them, making them seem worse at times!.
This produces the pain we feel inside, and when it builds up enough we either hurt others or ourselves!.
Not because we are bad or evil, but we aren't sure how to deal with the agony inside!.
The longer it stays, the more dead/dull we feel inside!.
Meditation is all about controlling you mind rather than being controlled by it!.
It is difficult to directly approach the mind and tame it, so we start by approaching the nearest manifestation of it- breath!.
It can be seen that when we have tremendous concentration we are not breathing as regularly, and when upset breath shallow and rapid!.
How to do this!.
Begin by becoming aware of your breath!.
With each inhalation pay attention to the air entering you right nostril(air will enter both,but focus on the column of air in the right side)
Exhale and pay attention to the column leaving your left nostril!.
Inhale and pay attention to air entering the left nostril
Exhale and pay attention to air exiting the right nostril!.
Then breath deep and feel the air in both sides rise up to the tip of your nose(like an inverted V ),
and push it all out(feeling both sides)!.
This is one cycle, you can do up to 100 in a day!.
It is a simple game to keep the mind busy(if you loose track on count restart), and off the things it can't change with worry(realistically everything)!.
As you get better at this you'll be able to identify a space between your thoughts!. As that awareness deepens you'll feel a peace when it arises!. And soon you should be able to identify yourself as that peace rather than your mind!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com