I don't know how to tell my mother?!
Question: I don't know how to tell my mother!?
I've tried to tell my mother that I'm depressed!.And that I want help for my self-harming ways of mine
But I don't know how to start off the conversation about it!.
I dont want her to get weirded out at the same time while she is scared!.
I don't know what to do in this situation
Can anyone help me out with trying to start a conversation with my mom!.
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But I don't know how to start off the conversation about it!.
I dont want her to get weirded out at the same time while she is scared!.
I don't know what to do in this situation
Can anyone help me out with trying to start a conversation with my mom!.
Oh and I'm a girl,14 years oldWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
hi!.!.i'm and 18 year old female that thinks she knows what you are going through!.!.!.
when i was 12, i began having periods of very low moods and self-esteem, abusing drugs and alcohol, and injuring myself!. when i was 15, i decided that i had had enough and wanted help!. while you may not be going through the exact same experiences, i think that i might be able to offer some insight!.!.!.
i sat my mother down in the living room and told her that there was something important that i wanted to discuss with her!. being a mother, she immediately began thinking worst case scenarios!.!.!.!.
i eased into the conversation by stating that i thought i was suffering from depression or something of that sort!. (she was relieved to hear that i wasn't pregnant or wanted for criminal activity :) )
after i let her soak that up for a few minutes, i began to tell her about my symptoms and my self-injury (i saved the rest for a later time!.!.more on that later on in the post!.!.)!.!.!.
she began to cry and i felt pretty crappy about that, but it was more because she didn't pick up on it sooner and didn't exactly know what to do to help!.!.!.
well, she got me into a local psychiatric program where i saw counselors, nurses, and doctors regularly and i was put onto medication!.
the worst thing that someone can do after they have chosen to seek help, is to think that everything is going to magically get better!. it won't!. you will have to work at it and help your mother and your doctors decide which treatments are and aren't for you!.
i was one of the people that thought everything was fine after i got help!.!.!.when in reality, i stopped paying attention so closely and fell off the deep end!. i overdosed on large quantities of pills at the age of 15 and had to be rushed to the ER!.!.once stabilized and well enough to be on my feet again, i was put into the pediatric psychiatric unit!. it was there that i finally admitted to my family and doctors all of the issues that i was going through!. it was amazing!.
since then, i have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, beat self-injury, successfully completed drug/alcohol rehab, and am now attending college!.
I hope that my story helps you in your journey!.!.!.just remember: your mom loves you for you and nothing that you tell her is going to change that!. remember not to expect a magical cure and be proud that you are aware enough to know that you have a problem!. many teens ignore what they are going through and don't get help until their problem is much, much worse like i did!.
good luck and if you need anything, any time, email me or message me on yahoo!
take gentle care!Www@Answer-Health@Com
when i was 12, i began having periods of very low moods and self-esteem, abusing drugs and alcohol, and injuring myself!. when i was 15, i decided that i had had enough and wanted help!. while you may not be going through the exact same experiences, i think that i might be able to offer some insight!.!.!.
i sat my mother down in the living room and told her that there was something important that i wanted to discuss with her!. being a mother, she immediately began thinking worst case scenarios!.!.!.!.
i eased into the conversation by stating that i thought i was suffering from depression or something of that sort!. (she was relieved to hear that i wasn't pregnant or wanted for criminal activity :) )
after i let her soak that up for a few minutes, i began to tell her about my symptoms and my self-injury (i saved the rest for a later time!.!.more on that later on in the post!.!.)!.!.!.
she began to cry and i felt pretty crappy about that, but it was more because she didn't pick up on it sooner and didn't exactly know what to do to help!.!.!.
well, she got me into a local psychiatric program where i saw counselors, nurses, and doctors regularly and i was put onto medication!.
the worst thing that someone can do after they have chosen to seek help, is to think that everything is going to magically get better!. it won't!. you will have to work at it and help your mother and your doctors decide which treatments are and aren't for you!.
i was one of the people that thought everything was fine after i got help!.!.!.when in reality, i stopped paying attention so closely and fell off the deep end!. i overdosed on large quantities of pills at the age of 15 and had to be rushed to the ER!.!.once stabilized and well enough to be on my feet again, i was put into the pediatric psychiatric unit!. it was there that i finally admitted to my family and doctors all of the issues that i was going through!. it was amazing!.
since then, i have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, beat self-injury, successfully completed drug/alcohol rehab, and am now attending college!.
I hope that my story helps you in your journey!.!.!.just remember: your mom loves you for you and nothing that you tell her is going to change that!. remember not to expect a magical cure and be proud that you are aware enough to know that you have a problem!. many teens ignore what they are going through and don't get help until their problem is much, much worse like i did!.
good luck and if you need anything, any time, email me or message me on yahoo!
take gentle care!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do you have a open relationship with your mother!? If so then I would just go up to her and tell her what is going on with you!.
If you don't have a very open relationship with your mother then I would start the conversation some were long these lines: Tell her that you need to talk to her and that it is important!. Before you start telling her about what is going on, you should tell her that even though you and your mother don't have a very open relationship that you need her love and support through this hard time!. Then go on and start telling her what is going on with you!. I would start with the things that aren't that shocking and easy into the harder topics!.
Remember that your mother is your mother and that if something is wrong more then likely she will be there to lend you love and support!.
I hope this helps and that you get through this hard time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you don't have a very open relationship with your mother then I would start the conversation some were long these lines: Tell her that you need to talk to her and that it is important!. Before you start telling her about what is going on, you should tell her that even though you and your mother don't have a very open relationship that you need her love and support through this hard time!. Then go on and start telling her what is going on with you!. I would start with the things that aren't that shocking and easy into the harder topics!.
Remember that your mother is your mother and that if something is wrong more then likely she will be there to lend you love and support!.
I hope this helps and that you get through this hard time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi hon!.
I think that perhaps you can ask her to make a doctor's appointment for you!? If you are depressed, you have an illness which is treatable!.!.!. and your family doctor is a good place to start!.
You could also let your mom know you'd like to see the doctor ALONE at first (letting her come in after you've discussed your feelings with the doc)!. You do deserve some privacy, even at 14 years old!.
Your mother will ask you why you want to see the doctor!.!.!. you don't have to go into great detail about everything with her right away, but im sure that if you are depressed, you are very tired all the time, and not alert, feel hopeless and helpless and sad!.!.!. just tell her!.
If you still have issues talking with her, do you know an adult or school counselor who you respect and trust!? Maybe someone who you already know would be very helpful in this situation!.
sending hugs and best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that perhaps you can ask her to make a doctor's appointment for you!? If you are depressed, you have an illness which is treatable!.!.!. and your family doctor is a good place to start!.
You could also let your mom know you'd like to see the doctor ALONE at first (letting her come in after you've discussed your feelings with the doc)!. You do deserve some privacy, even at 14 years old!.
Your mother will ask you why you want to see the doctor!.!.!. you don't have to go into great detail about everything with her right away, but im sure that if you are depressed, you are very tired all the time, and not alert, feel hopeless and helpless and sad!.!.!. just tell her!.
If you still have issues talking with her, do you know an adult or school counselor who you respect and trust!? Maybe someone who you already know would be very helpful in this situation!.
sending hugs and best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Most schools have counselors too you could ask for advice on this!. If you go to church, a member of the clergy can also give you advice on this!.
Often you can write a letter if you are better at writing than you are at speaking!. That's me!. I'm very glad that you know you are depressed because it helps you have a name for it!. Often teenage depression is a lot harder than as an adult and it can often get better so there is hope!.
Your mom may be surprised but you are her daughter and her legal responsibility!. She will do a lot more than you now know to get you on the right path!. Insurance covers office visits but tell her now before things get worse!. Something simple like "I think I may be depressed and I want you to know I may be harmful to myself, could we make an appointment with a mental health specialist!?"
I like a psychiatrist cause they can prescribe meds!. You may need them but that's putting the cart before the horse!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Often you can write a letter if you are better at writing than you are at speaking!. That's me!. I'm very glad that you know you are depressed because it helps you have a name for it!. Often teenage depression is a lot harder than as an adult and it can often get better so there is hope!.
Your mom may be surprised but you are her daughter and her legal responsibility!. She will do a lot more than you now know to get you on the right path!. Insurance covers office visits but tell her now before things get worse!. Something simple like "I think I may be depressed and I want you to know I may be harmful to myself, could we make an appointment with a mental health specialist!?"
I like a psychiatrist cause they can prescribe meds!. You may need them but that's putting the cart before the horse!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've never really been in your situation!. So my answer may not be too great!. But here is what I think you should do:
Ask your mom if she has a minute to talk!. Sit down with her and tell her that what you're about to tell her is a struggle that you're going through in your life right now, and that you really need to talk to someone about it!. Tell her that you don't want her freaking out or over-worrying about it!.
And then from there, I think you should be completely honest!. Tell her you don't know what to do!. You should open up to her!. I'm sure your mom will understand, or try to understand your situation!. I'm also sure that she will want to do everything to help you!.
But remember that it is only natural of her to get worried for you!. Mom's usually embrace the situation twice as worse than it really is, since they want to brace themselves for the worst!. If you have a good relationship with your mom, I'm sure that things will work out!.
If things don't work out though, I would recommend seeing the school counsellor about it!.!. I wouldn't go to a friend!. Your friends may be going through the same thing you're going through, or maybe they never have!. The only way they could help you is by getting words off your chest!.
So!.!. good luck!. I'll pray for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ask your mom if she has a minute to talk!. Sit down with her and tell her that what you're about to tell her is a struggle that you're going through in your life right now, and that you really need to talk to someone about it!. Tell her that you don't want her freaking out or over-worrying about it!.
And then from there, I think you should be completely honest!. Tell her you don't know what to do!. You should open up to her!. I'm sure your mom will understand, or try to understand your situation!. I'm also sure that she will want to do everything to help you!.
But remember that it is only natural of her to get worried for you!. Mom's usually embrace the situation twice as worse than it really is, since they want to brace themselves for the worst!. If you have a good relationship with your mom, I'm sure that things will work out!.
If things don't work out though, I would recommend seeing the school counsellor about it!.!. I wouldn't go to a friend!. Your friends may be going through the same thing you're going through, or maybe they never have!. The only way they could help you is by getting words off your chest!.
So!.!. good luck!. I'll pray for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sure she wont get weirded out!. at some point in time in every ones life they get depressed!. try telling her when it just the two of you, like when your in the car, and that you have something important to tell her!. Tell her about the self harm you have been inflicting on yourself and that your thoughts have become suicidal!.!.
from there id seek help asap!. self harm is very serious!. And can end badly!. Id suggest every time you get depressed (and i no its hard) but take in a big breath and think about what would happen if you did die!. how much its gonna hurt the ones you love, its not just you that suicide affects!. i no this because my best friend was in the same situation, in the end she did serious harm to herself and now spends her days in hospital!.!.she's on her way to recovery but her and her family(or me) will never fully recover!.
hope that helps, I'm a girl also I'm 15!.
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
from there id seek help asap!. self harm is very serious!. And can end badly!. Id suggest every time you get depressed (and i no its hard) but take in a big breath and think about what would happen if you did die!. how much its gonna hurt the ones you love, its not just you that suicide affects!. i no this because my best friend was in the same situation, in the end she did serious harm to herself and now spends her days in hospital!.!.she's on her way to recovery but her and her family(or me) will never fully recover!.
hope that helps, I'm a girl also I'm 15!.
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Suicidal, atheist, depressed, and young!. just walk up to your mom and say somthing like mom can we talk or mom can i talk to you!. it will take some courage to do it, but help is somthing that you need!. your mom may get scared and worried about what you have done, but that is a normal reaction for a parent when they see and hear what there child has been thinking about and doing!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'd start by telling her you need to talk to her about something important, but are a little nervous about it!. This will set the tone for her to be sympathetic and listen!. Maybe you decide to do it on a car ride where there is privacy!. Tell her you think you are depressed!. Tell her you've done research and depression does not have to do with circumstances!. It is body chemistry and you'll like to make an appoint with your doctor!. Ask her if she would mind taking you there!. I think it will go over just fine!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just go up to her when she is just sitting down!.
Then say "hey mom, i need to talk to you for a little!."
then just go out with it and say mom" i didn't know how to come across you!. But i feel depressed!. And i just didn't know how you would react!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Then say "hey mom, i need to talk to you for a little!."
then just go out with it and say mom" i didn't know how to come across you!. But i feel depressed!. And i just didn't know how you would react!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your mom wont get weirded out!. Depression is very common and I am sure she will be glad you told her before you resorted to something serious like suicide!.
Maybe you should tell her you need to have a private talk and sit her down and let her know how you have been feeling!. Let her know you would like to get some help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe you should tell her you need to have a private talk and sit her down and let her know how you have been feeling!. Let her know you would like to get some help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well if ur not comfortable talking to ur mom, go to a school counselor for help!. I have depression, I'm 14 and have been suicidal like you!. Counselor really help so I would try it!
but sooner or later u should tell your mom
she loves you and cares about you and would do anything for you
good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
but sooner or later u should tell your mom
she loves you and cares about you and would do anything for you
good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
U have to calm down,mutter some pray to God, and confront ur mother!. u have to tell her what u really feel from A to Z!. She will understand ur problem, trust me!.it's better than just sit back and wait until it get worse!.Just know that every problem has its solution!.God bless U!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You could leave a note telling her these things, that yu are depressed and want help!. Sometimes note writing is easier to do!. Or write it in your diary and leave it out where she can see it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would first think about what you are hoping to gain from this conversation!. Do you want your mom to help you find a therapist!? Do you want her to listen!? Do you want her to sympathize or offer advice!? Knowing what you want and need beforehand will help ensure that you get it one way or another (even if it's not from her)!. It will also help your mom out if she gets thrown off track and overwhelmed -- you already know what you want and need! You just need her help!. That said, maybe start off by honoring how this will affect her (NOT that this dimishes the pain you are in at all)!. Maybe saying something like "Mom, I know what I'm about to tell you may scare you or make you feel uncomfortable, but this is about my personal safety!. So, I need to talk with you!. I appreciate that you're the kind of mom I can open up to, so that's why I'm coming to you!." Words similar to these should disarm her and she will be more likely to let her guard down and let you in!. Then, comes the time when you can talk more about yourself and the pain you are experiencing!. If the conversation gets derailed and off-topic in any way, try to steer it back by saying "Mom, I know you're trying to help and I really appreciate it!. But, I what I need to discuss here is my safety!. And I'm concerned for myself!." Even if the conversation goes horribly awry, remember that you can stop it gently ("I think we need to take a break and pick this up tomorrow when we're both more calm") and talk more later!. If talking to your mom goes really south, I would advise you to continue seeking out help!. Go talk to your guidance counselor or another trusted, responsible adult (your best friend's mom, a soccer coach, etc!.) the following day!. If you are suicidal, you need to take this situation seriously and seek help!. You're strong and brave for already reaching out to the online community!. So, I know you can be strong and brave in talking to your mom and getting professional help!. Good luck to you! P!.S!. If you are physically self-harming (i!.e!. cutting, burning, etc!.) you might want to consider finding a DBT group or a therapist who specializes in DBT counseling!. DBT stands for Dialectical Behavior Therapy!. It was created by Marsha Linehan for people with Borderline Personality Disorder!. While you may not have BPD, one of the hallmarks of that disorder is self-harming behavior!. Learning the skills sets of DBT will not only help you learn to control those behaviors!.!.!.!.they will also help you navigate your personal relationships (like that with your mom)!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Start out calmly telling her that you have something important to talk to her about!. Make sure that it is a time of day when there is plenty of time and there won't be a lot of interruptions!.
Then explain to her that you are depressed and suicidal and feel that you need professional help!. Make sure to let her know that you don't want to scare her, however you really feel that you need help and would like her assistance in getting it!.
I have included some links in source that can help you by answering questions and they can identify that you are depressed and need help!. If you think it may be helpful, you may want to print a few out and fill them out and show her the results!.
Your mom loves you and I'm sure that she wants what is best for you and will assist you in getting the help you need as long as you ask!.
Good luck and take care,
Michelle
BA in Psychology
30+years depression treatment (therapy, meds, hospital)
8+ years anxiety treatment
Counselor at a drop in center for mentally ill
Peer Mentor
Board Member and group member for local mental health organizationWww@Answer-Health@Com
Then explain to her that you are depressed and suicidal and feel that you need professional help!. Make sure to let her know that you don't want to scare her, however you really feel that you need help and would like her assistance in getting it!.
I have included some links in source that can help you by answering questions and they can identify that you are depressed and need help!. If you think it may be helpful, you may want to print a few out and fill them out and show her the results!.
Your mom loves you and I'm sure that she wants what is best for you and will assist you in getting the help you need as long as you ask!.
Good luck and take care,
Michelle
BA in Psychology
30+years depression treatment (therapy, meds, hospital)
8+ years anxiety treatment
Counselor at a drop in center for mentally ill
Peer Mentor
Board Member and group member for local mental health organizationWww@Answer-Health@Com