If you are compassionate, can you help me?!
Question: If you are compassionate, can you help me!?
I am a person you know!.!.!. I am the fun person in your life, I laugh easily, I make you laugh, I am your insightful, spontaneous and loyal friend!. But behind today's closed door I am so down, I can't get out of my own head!. I'm sitting here just sobbing!. I feel utterly powerless and out of control!. It's not just one thing, it's a culmination of things, with the addition of not being able to conceive, feeling like I can't control my own life, my feelings, or my behavior!. It's not always like this!. Do I just wait it out!?
On a side note:
I don't want to seem rude, but I see a few really insensative responses in the Mental Health section, and really, if you don't have any genuine compassion, I truly don't want to hear your response!.
I beleive that your compassionate thoughtful response will help me more than you can imagine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
On a side note:
I don't want to seem rude, but I see a few really insensative responses in the Mental Health section, and really, if you don't have any genuine compassion, I truly don't want to hear your response!.
I beleive that your compassionate thoughtful response will help me more than you can imagine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hi there,
I agree with New Running Shoes, TC and guy, and I have nothing BUT compassion for you and your perdicament!. Feeling hard/painful/uncomfy feelings is hard!. Our instict is to avoid it!. But sometimes, in order to let go of those feelings, you just have to let yourself feel them!. Feelings are not right or wrong!. They just are!. You don't have to justify them!. There are no wrong emotions!.
As you can see by most of the responses, you're not alone!.
I also agree that it sounds like you might be the entertainer/the show to outside appearances, and feel isolated when you're not "on"!. Maybe you don't think you can show the range of your true self to include the more vulnerable!. I don't blame you!. But isolation can be worst enemy when you're feeling down!. The best thing to do to get out of yourself is let yourself feel bad, but put a boundary on the time you let yourself do this!. Then make sure you aren't alone!. I know it's hard when you feel more safe to feel crappy when alone, but it really will help - even if you're watching a movie with someome else!. It can help!.
I think, given your typical optimistic self, that this will pass!. You can wait it out!. But you don't have to suffer long!.
The very best way to handle it when you're feeling down, is to be compassionate towards yourself!. Treat yourself the way you would if you had a friend feelings the way you do!.
I know what it is like to not be able to concieve!. Don't underestimate the legitimacy of the pain that causes!.
And feeling powerless is the absolute worst!. It can be the root cause for many addictions, and other problems!. To get in touch with your own genuine personal power, set a small goal you can obtain, or meditate!. The feeling of powerlessness is just that!.!.!. a feeling!. It is not the truth of who you are!
Take courage!. I feel like you do once in a while, and no one amoung us has the perfect remedy - else we'd all be shiny happy people all the time!.
Be kind to yourself!.
ErinWww@Answer-Health@Com
I agree with New Running Shoes, TC and guy, and I have nothing BUT compassion for you and your perdicament!. Feeling hard/painful/uncomfy feelings is hard!. Our instict is to avoid it!. But sometimes, in order to let go of those feelings, you just have to let yourself feel them!. Feelings are not right or wrong!. They just are!. You don't have to justify them!. There are no wrong emotions!.
As you can see by most of the responses, you're not alone!.
I also agree that it sounds like you might be the entertainer/the show to outside appearances, and feel isolated when you're not "on"!. Maybe you don't think you can show the range of your true self to include the more vulnerable!. I don't blame you!. But isolation can be worst enemy when you're feeling down!. The best thing to do to get out of yourself is let yourself feel bad, but put a boundary on the time you let yourself do this!. Then make sure you aren't alone!. I know it's hard when you feel more safe to feel crappy when alone, but it really will help - even if you're watching a movie with someome else!. It can help!.
I think, given your typical optimistic self, that this will pass!. You can wait it out!. But you don't have to suffer long!.
The very best way to handle it when you're feeling down, is to be compassionate towards yourself!. Treat yourself the way you would if you had a friend feelings the way you do!.
I know what it is like to not be able to concieve!. Don't underestimate the legitimacy of the pain that causes!.
And feeling powerless is the absolute worst!. It can be the root cause for many addictions, and other problems!. To get in touch with your own genuine personal power, set a small goal you can obtain, or meditate!. The feeling of powerlessness is just that!.!.!. a feeling!. It is not the truth of who you are!
Take courage!. I feel like you do once in a while, and no one amoung us has the perfect remedy - else we'd all be shiny happy people all the time!.
Be kind to yourself!.
ErinWww@Answer-Health@Com
All people go through something like this in their life!. You need not be ashamed and know that you are not alone!. If you find the courage you should talk to someone you trust, if not you should do something you enjoy to get your mind off of things!. Exercising is proven to help relieve stress!. I know that you will not remain like this forever!. I am sure that you are a good person with a great life!. Tell your self that you are very lucky to have all the advantages you do!. I hope that you will be able to solve your problem!. JUST HAVE FAITH!Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you were my friend I would wish that you could talk to me!. I dont' like talking all the time to shells!. When I get close I can see it!. I go to the theater when I want to watch people acting!. Friendship is more than about fun and laughter!. It's sharing your feelings!. It can also be about 'trust'Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi Colleen, Please don't give up!. Life can be very difficult at times!. If you believe things will get better they will!.I have lots of faith and yes,I too get down!. It gets better,but there are always going to be rough patches!. Please hang in there!! There are lots of caring people here and some not so nice ones too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well its sounds like ur not quite emotionally sound right now i think the best help u can find is with ur therapist
but i know how u feel i live in a white rich family where it seems as if my life is already planned out for me i have 2 older sisters who have been following my parents plans done to the very last detail and it makes me disgustedWww@Answer-Health@Com
but i know how u feel i live in a white rich family where it seems as if my life is already planned out for me i have 2 older sisters who have been following my parents plans done to the very last detail and it makes me disgustedWww@Answer-Health@Com
Life is like this anyway!. Sometimes your up and sometimes your down!. You strike me as a private person, someone who has a front of being the fun, happy go lucky life of the party but holding all the pain and hurt behind this facade!. You need to look at your friends and find one in whom you can trust your innermost feelings!. Then talk through your pain with them!. Having someone to talk to really helps!.
When you are feeling good, write down all the things you can think of that makes you happy about yourself!. Then when you feel down read these things back to yourself!. This will help to make you realise that you are a wonderful person and should help to lift your spirit!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When you are feeling good, write down all the things you can think of that makes you happy about yourself!. Then when you feel down read these things back to yourself!. This will help to make you realise that you are a wonderful person and should help to lift your spirit!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just give yourself some time to grieve or to at least get all of that energy out of your system!. Sometimes you need to cry!. Don't feel bad or ashamed, just let it out!. It is a natural response to stressors!. This may last for a couple hours to a week, but however long this may be, just give yourself a break!. Go for a walk or run or do something that you really like doing, you know something that makes your soul spin a happy little dance!. Take a breather!. You'll get through this, but do not think of yourself as a failure!. Wishing you better times already!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
sweetie we all want out at times!.!.!.trust me on that one! the thing is you have to look a bit further than tomorrow! i know easier said than done, but you can make yourself do it!. i wish i could give you a great big hug and tell you everything is going to be just fine!.!.!.but that's not life!. (i do send you hugs though) this may not help you right now!.!.!.but one day you will look back and say WOW! life will get better!. i believe in you as a human being that your life will get better!
you will be in my thoughts sweetie! tons of hugs sent your way!Www@Answer-Health@Com
you will be in my thoughts sweetie! tons of hugs sent your way!Www@Answer-Health@Com
No, don't wait it out!. Take action to change your state and pull yourself back up!.
What do you say to yourself when you can't get out of your own head!? Are you showing yourself the same compassion you expect from others here!? To move beyond this, focus on the positive!. If you're truly the insightful person you claim to be, you know negative thoughts can be reframed!. It's time to be the friend to yourself you are to others!.
It's the fun person that often holds the greatest pain deep inside themselves!. I'm wondering if you're focusing your energy on things that either already happened or never will happen!. That can be exhausting, expecially since you have no control over either!. Learn to let go of what you can't control!. It's wasted energy!. Focus on the present, and things you can control!. There's a whole world out there waiting!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What do you say to yourself when you can't get out of your own head!? Are you showing yourself the same compassion you expect from others here!? To move beyond this, focus on the positive!. If you're truly the insightful person you claim to be, you know negative thoughts can be reframed!. It's time to be the friend to yourself you are to others!.
It's the fun person that often holds the greatest pain deep inside themselves!. I'm wondering if you're focusing your energy on things that either already happened or never will happen!. That can be exhausting, expecially since you have no control over either!. Learn to let go of what you can't control!. It's wasted energy!. Focus on the present, and things you can control!. There's a whole world out there waiting!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like things are building up for you internally and it's casting out the positivity!. Reading the hurtful answers people make on here all the time is not helping you at all!.You don't need that right now, so try to avoid it until you feel better!. I'm very sorry for your current state, I'm still there myself!. The only thing I've found helpful to me or anyone else in this situation is to get out for a walk or talk to a friend who is supportive!. You could also watch a movie , do something for YOU be nicer to yourself & you'll begin to see life isn't all bad all the time, it's just easy for it to feel that way I know!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
OMG, you people need to suck it up!Www@Answer-Health@Com