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Question: I need help really bad answer ASAP!?
I'm 17 years old and I cut myself!. I have been doing this since I was 14!. I HATE myself!. When I was 16 I tried to kill myself!. I wanted to take a whole bottle of pills!. I only took 3!. It still effected me!. I had chest pains for days!. I did not tell anyone!. I have tired to stop cutting!. I CANT!. I have tried everything there is!. Nothing works!. In the end I always go back to cutting!. I HATE doing this to myself!. I know it's wrong and really bad!. It just makes me feel so much better!. I can't talk to my dad!. I hate him!. He has hurt me alot in my life!. My sister always puts me down and calls me fat!. I'm just tired of people hurting me!. Sometimes I wanna go away(dead) that I would be better off!. I only have 3 real friends!. Everyone else makes fun of me!. I can't tell my mom I'm cutting because she will tell dad and I will be sent away!. I already know!. When it gets really bad I will use my nails to harm!. It does not matter!. If it can make me feel better I'll use it!. Please don't call me emo!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Self-harm is an effective way of stopping terrible feelings, but, as you've discovered, it brings its own problems!. It sounds as if things are really seriously bad for you and I do feel for you!. I'm sorry you don't think the school counsellor will be of any use!. The thing is, even if she is only there to make sure you get your grades, this is something that could easily get in the way of your doing well!. I'd urge you to give her a try, given that you can't pick and choose your own therapist without money!. Maybe it'll be useless - but there's a small possibility it will be of some help!. Worth a try, anyway!.

This is a UK website that you might find helpful - there are probably similar US ones, but I'm assuming you can access this anyway as it has helpful info on it!. http://www!.selfharm!.org!.uk/default!.aspa

Thank goodness for three real friends!. It's more than some people have in a lifetime!. Ask them for help - maybe they could research what free services might be available locally, or perhaps they know an adult with some skills in this area who might be able to help for free!. And don't despair - I have worked with quite a few people who have self-harmed, and once we have identified and worked with the key underlying issues, they have usually found it possible to dramatically reduce and eventually stop their self-harm!. Not only that, they've gone on to be happy and confident young adults!. If you are planning on college, at least once you get there there should be good independent counsellors you can see!. But I hope you can get help before then!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I've read your list of the things you have tried to do to put a stop to the cutting!. You haven't mentioned going to seek professional help!. I don't mean the school counsellor, but a psychologist!. I will not call you emo, or any other name for that matter!. I simply feel for you and hope that you get better soon!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to see a therapist!. You can't continue to cut yourself, or your whole body is going to be mutilated!. It sounds like you have some serious depression issues!. Call the crisis line, talk to them, and they should get you started in the right direction!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

go see a real Dr!. there confidential and they can give you better answers than a crack pot on a web site!. really people here can be kind but you need to see a real Dr to get help!.
I kowe its hard and embarrsing I'v been to a shrink befor and there pro's at this stuff!Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to talk to a professional! Their is an underlying problem that needs to be worked out before your going to stop cutting yourself!.!.Its hard being a teenager but its not worth hurting yourself!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

When you ask a question you should allow people to email you there are some things you could try but still they may not work for you but I think would be worth a tryWww@Answer-Health@Com

Unfortunately, there is no exact cure!. You have to realise that Depression, which sounds like what you have, is an illness, like any other!. It is cureable!. Right now you probably feel like your in a whole that gets smaller and smaller and have no way out- but there is!! I have been there!. I'm the same age as you, I never hurt myself but I was at that point!. I got prescriptions from the doctors which helped!. I'm off medication now, and I'm fantastic! The biggest and hardest thing I have learned to do, is block out what people say!. Who really gives a **** what they say anyway! Not sure what country your in, but at your age you can see a doctor without parental consent, so no one needs to know if u dont want!. I hope you feel better!. Also, in the meantime, try art!. Express yourself visually, any way you like!. Photography, drawing, painting etc!. You can lock it up no one needs to see it but u - it helps!. Not straight away, but it does xxWww@Answer-Health@Com

Well after reading your post I have to say if you want to feel better, you need to stop cutting, because cutting is whats upsetting you!. Physical pain is used to cover up emotional pain, so to balance your mind and body you need to find out whats really causing your feelings!.
Dead doesn't mean better off, it just means not there, its no kind of answer, and in any event life doesn't last so long, no reason to push it!. When you commit suicide its not a romantic act that will have people weeping and wishing they treated you better, they think that you hurt people and will be annoyed at you, and you won't be able to say or do anything to prove otherwise!.
If life is so bad at home, do tell mum, and let her tell dad, who will send you away, why would you want to stay with them anyway!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Its good that you can come on here and ask for help, because deep down you know their is something out their!. Dont give up on yourself and remember their are lots of people out their that want to help you!. There are lots of free services for youth to go and talk to professionals, talk to the lady at school and tell her your situation!. She might not be able to help you though she will be glad to find someone to refer you too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Wow ok I understand 100%!. I cut for 3 years!. I also hated it but love it at the same time!. You will not be better off dead!. If your dad keeps hurting you don't talk to him!. Remove him from your life!. I think you're depressed and need to talk to someone!. Don't be scared to ask for help!. Maybe going away is what's best for YOU!. As for yourself you need to tell her to shut the **** up!. I'm sure she's not perfect!. Stop being a doormatWww@Answer-Health@Com

as much as you really dont want anyone to know about it, you are going to have to tell someone!. it doesnt have to be your mother or father!. you could tell another family member that you are close to about it, maybe an aunt or a trusting cousin!. if you have tryed to help yourself out in the past and it hasnt helped at all, you will need to go to a treatment facility!. even if your immediate family finds out about it someway and you go through some sort of pain, it will be minor to a life of happiness after treatment!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I know how hard it is to stop, and it is really great that you have taken the first main step in acknowledging the situation!.
I din't know where you live but here in Australia we have the kids help line which is a number you can call and talk to someone about it and they can help you to sort everything out!. It's great because you don't have to share details with them!. Are you sure that your school counsellor won't help!? I have spoken to mine and they were very helpful!. More people have also visited them than you would think!.
Try to ignore the rude things your sister says!.
Everytime you are feeling really depressed, try to say some positive affirmations in your head!.
You really should see a psychologist or your doctor!. A doctor can prescribe you anti depressants which can help you too!.
I hope you get over it!. Put all your effort into making yourself feel better!. Trust me, it's worth it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Have you been to see a counselor!? I know that probably sounds like I am just trying to pawn things off on the counselor but it really sounds like you need someone to talk to on a regular basis to work out some of these thoughts and feelings!. It sounds like you are pretty depressed and could use someone in your corner who you could talk to!. If you are worried about Mom and Dad finding out, I'd start with the school counselor or maybe even a chaplain/priest at a local church-both routes would be free and they can direct you to other resources as well!. From the little you have told me, it sounds like an antidepessant might be helpful as well especially since it sounds like its a situation that is not easily avoided at this time in your life!. I'd really encourage you to talk to your doctor!.

In the short term, I agree with you-the cutting is not good!. I understand the idea is to distract from the pain inside but you could do some real damage, in addition to leaving nasty scars, through blood loss, nerve damage or even tetanus (if the nail/knife is dirty)!. In the short term, let me make a less damaging suggestion!. I have patients who cut and two things I have suggested instead is holding onto ice cubes or putting a rubber band around your wrist and snapping it!. Both will hurt (the ice cubes will definitely hurt if you hold them long enough) but will not do any lasting damage or leave scars!.

Please consider getting someone professional to talk to!. I know this is a tough time in your life but it will get better if you can just hang in there!. I know its hard to keep this in mind when you are hurting but what you have in your future-falling in love, going to college/having a career, having kids and maybe someday grandkids-thats all the really good stuff that lies ahead!. I would hate for you to miss out on it because of pain now!. Keep your chin up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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