Anxiety/depression?!
Question: Anxiety/depression!?
Okay i have social anxiety and depression, but i have this problem and wonder if it's anything to do with my depression!. The thing is i cant feel any sympethy or emotion for anyone at all apart from myself, sometimes not even myself!. I'm not a mean person, i'm infact a very nice and peaceful person i'm always nice!. But sometimes being around someone for so long makes me want to actually murder them!. Friends tell me stories and i really should feel sympethy i know that i should, but i just dont, i can pretend and i know what to say but i just cant feel any emotion or sympethy towards anyone at all!.
I dont know why !.!.!. Like if i watch the news and people are dying under alot of rubble or something, as bad as this sounds i just dont care and get angry with myself and think why dont i care!. I pretend to care and stuff but really i just dont!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I dont know why !.!.!. Like if i watch the news and people are dying under alot of rubble or something, as bad as this sounds i just dont care and get angry with myself and think why dont i care!. I pretend to care and stuff but really i just dont!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Depression is the most prevalent of all the emotional disorders!. This may vary from feelings of slight sadness to utter misery and dejection!. It brings together a variety of physical and psychological symptoms which together constitute a syndrome!.Depression is the most unpleasant experience a person can endure!. It is far more difficult to cope with than a physical ailment!. The growing complexities of modern life and the resultant crisis, as well as mental stress and strain in day to day living, usually leads to this disorder!. It also arises out of the monotony and drudgery of a daily routine, without any meaningful variation in urban life!. Suicide is the major risk in extreme cases of depression!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off, good for you for venting your feelings like this; it's an excellent way to get aware of your feelings!.
Secondly, you should not shun yourself if you don't feel sad that are supposed to make you sympathetic!. It's simply just the way you are and you can't change that!.
Also, maybe you should think about this: next time you see your doctor, tell her/him about your feelings!. Don't worry, he's probably seen worse, he won't laugh or think your horrible or anything!. See if he suggests seeing a psychiatrist, or a psycologist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Secondly, you should not shun yourself if you don't feel sad that are supposed to make you sympathetic!. It's simply just the way you are and you can't change that!.
Also, maybe you should think about this: next time you see your doctor, tell her/him about your feelings!. Don't worry, he's probably seen worse, he won't laugh or think your horrible or anything!. See if he suggests seeing a psychiatrist, or a psycologist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You didn't say if you were on medication or not!. Some medications for depression can cause you to feel this way!. Speak to your doctor and maybe he could put you on a different med that wouldn't make you feel this way!. If you are not seeing a doctor, dealing with depression myself, I urge you to do so!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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You may well change as you mature, with the years, especially if you have children!. View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!. Rewind your mistakes!. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out!. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i!.e!. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately!. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process!. ~~~ Depression: I suggest: (1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. (2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!. (3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!. (4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!. (5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. (6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or supplements, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!.
Start a mood chart/thought record, and record all negative thoughts!. Whenever you notice a negative thought, record the mood (disappointment, sadness, frustration, hopelessness, anger, etc!.) and rate it, from 1; the lowest, to 100; the strongest you have ever felt!. Have 3 columns, and in one, write down the thought!. For example: Mood: Lonely: 90/100!. Thought: "I feel like I will be alone for the rest of my life"!. Then, although this can be painful, it is very important; record every piece of evidence in support of this: "I am alone right now!. I have been for some time!. There is nothing to prove this won't continue"!. In the last column, write down all the evidence refuting this: "I used to be fairly sociable, and enjoyed being with friends!. Change is inevitable in life, and nobody can state the way things will be in the future, for sure"!. "Most people recover from depression, in time, and I rarely felt lonely, until becoming depressed"!. Then read again what you have written!. Give it a moment, to let it sink in, and rate that mood again, possibly putting it in brackets, and/or in a different color, but try to stick to a standard practice, for greater ease of review, later!. Example: Mood: Lonely: [70/100]!. Replace "shoulds", and "ought to" statements with: "I feel !.!.!." ones!.
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S!.A!.D!.) in section 2, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste)!. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L)!. It should be above 32 ng/ml!.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime!. Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant!.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults!.!.!. kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions!.
Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test!. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve!.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see section 33, at ezy build) keeping ECT back, as a last resort!. There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider!. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first!. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain!.
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill")!. Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people!. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you havWww@Answer-Health@Com
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!. Rewind your mistakes!. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out!. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i!.e!. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately!. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process!. ~~~ Depression: I suggest: (1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. (2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!. (3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!. (4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!. (5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. (6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or supplements, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!.
Start a mood chart/thought record, and record all negative thoughts!. Whenever you notice a negative thought, record the mood (disappointment, sadness, frustration, hopelessness, anger, etc!.) and rate it, from 1; the lowest, to 100; the strongest you have ever felt!. Have 3 columns, and in one, write down the thought!. For example: Mood: Lonely: 90/100!. Thought: "I feel like I will be alone for the rest of my life"!. Then, although this can be painful, it is very important; record every piece of evidence in support of this: "I am alone right now!. I have been for some time!. There is nothing to prove this won't continue"!. In the last column, write down all the evidence refuting this: "I used to be fairly sociable, and enjoyed being with friends!. Change is inevitable in life, and nobody can state the way things will be in the future, for sure"!. "Most people recover from depression, in time, and I rarely felt lonely, until becoming depressed"!. Then read again what you have written!. Give it a moment, to let it sink in, and rate that mood again, possibly putting it in brackets, and/or in a different color, but try to stick to a standard practice, for greater ease of review, later!. Example: Mood: Lonely: [70/100]!. Replace "shoulds", and "ought to" statements with: "I feel !.!.!." ones!.
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S!.A!.D!.) in section 2, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste)!. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L)!. It should be above 32 ng/ml!.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime!. Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant!.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults!.!.!. kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions!.
Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test!. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve!.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see section 33, at ezy build) keeping ECT back, as a last resort!. There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider!. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first!. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain!.
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill")!. Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people!. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you havWww@Answer-Health@Com