Im very shy, unconfident, and i care a lot how people think of me?!
Question: Im very shy, unconfident, and i care a lot how people think of me!?
Even around my girlfriend! How can I get past this!? I want to be a lot more talkative, confident, and social!. HELPWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
hi there, you've done a first good step, admitting you've got some things you need to change, AND posting it here, good job!.
Maybe your girlfriend can be of help to you, make sure you talk to her about how you feel and how you want to start making some changes, and as in the movie "What About Bob" just start with "Baby Steps!."
do a few small things and work your way up!. Maybe start with having a small gathering, like your girlfriend and 2-3 others and maybe play an interactive game with the group!.
Maybe make up fun questionarres to do with each other so everyone can get to know fun facts about one-another!., do this in a setting you are familiar and comfortable with!.
Then once you feel okay with that, then move on to something else, in a more public setting!. Maybe be in a setting where you'd have to ask a few questions to an employee, like if you were at a Museum or something, you could make an effort to ask a question about the department they work in (IDK like about the animals or environment where it is)!.
If you are self conscious about how you look, maybe switch things up a bit, a new haircut, a new hair color !? a new outfit maybe could give you a bit of confidence!.
with small steps you can do it, you've just got to believe in yourself and tell yourself you are worth it!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe your girlfriend can be of help to you, make sure you talk to her about how you feel and how you want to start making some changes, and as in the movie "What About Bob" just start with "Baby Steps!."
do a few small things and work your way up!. Maybe start with having a small gathering, like your girlfriend and 2-3 others and maybe play an interactive game with the group!.
Maybe make up fun questionarres to do with each other so everyone can get to know fun facts about one-another!., do this in a setting you are familiar and comfortable with!.
Then once you feel okay with that, then move on to something else, in a more public setting!. Maybe be in a setting where you'd have to ask a few questions to an employee, like if you were at a Museum or something, you could make an effort to ask a question about the department they work in (IDK like about the animals or environment where it is)!.
If you are self conscious about how you look, maybe switch things up a bit, a new haircut, a new hair color !? a new outfit maybe could give you a bit of confidence!.
with small steps you can do it, you've just got to believe in yourself and tell yourself you are worth it!Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I was in school (quite a long time ago) I was so shy that I barely talked to anyone!. Don't ask me what any of the boys in my class looked like!.!.!.!.I always looked over their shoulder :(
Just like another answerer has said, one day I realised that everyone looks silly sometimes!. I realised that I have as much right to look silly and make an idiot out of myself as the next person!. The secret is to learn to laugh at yourself!. Realising it is OK to do idiotic things sometimes is a very liberating thing!. Instead of being embarrassed around other people just be yourself!. They MAY like you better!. You will DEFINATELY like yourself better!.
Also it's not a silly idea to get some outside help, maybe a counsellor who works with Cognitive behavioural therapy!. (CBT) CBT trains your brain to think differently so that you behave differently!.
Very best wishes in your endeavors!. I am sure you will succeed! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just like another answerer has said, one day I realised that everyone looks silly sometimes!. I realised that I have as much right to look silly and make an idiot out of myself as the next person!. The secret is to learn to laugh at yourself!. Realising it is OK to do idiotic things sometimes is a very liberating thing!. Instead of being embarrassed around other people just be yourself!. They MAY like you better!. You will DEFINATELY like yourself better!.
Also it's not a silly idea to get some outside help, maybe a counsellor who works with Cognitive behavioural therapy!. (CBT) CBT trains your brain to think differently so that you behave differently!.
Very best wishes in your endeavors!. I am sure you will succeed! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have had the same problem all my life!. This is what I did to help me out!.
1) Watch a lot of comedies and stand-up!. Many comics are self- depracating and they can tell you funny stories!.
2) Accept being scared!. It's natural, just take the action of confidence!. Being scared is just in your head!. It will never go away!. Just practice being confident!.
3) Get a sales job!. Some jobs in sales will teach you how to go up to people!. And after 50 rejections, you can build thicker skin!. You will suck talking to the first few people, but you will get better at it!.
4) Always look for what you want!. Never give up!. Remember there is a solution to every problem!. If you want to find confidence always try and try!. You will get it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1) Watch a lot of comedies and stand-up!. Many comics are self- depracating and they can tell you funny stories!.
2) Accept being scared!. It's natural, just take the action of confidence!. Being scared is just in your head!. It will never go away!. Just practice being confident!.
3) Get a sales job!. Some jobs in sales will teach you how to go up to people!. And after 50 rejections, you can build thicker skin!. You will suck talking to the first few people, but you will get better at it!.
4) Always look for what you want!. Never give up!. Remember there is a solution to every problem!. If you want to find confidence always try and try!. You will get it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
do you know that's one hell of a charming thing!? there's too many smart asses around, too many socially skillful people!.!.!.but that's all they are!.
so, yes, its possible to learn some social skills, for what tho!? to impress people!? what kind of people do you wanna impress!? and what for!?
And I too used to care what people thought of me!.
all of those idiots I used to worry about!.!.!.!.now they care what I think of them! if you must, go get a book on social skills!.!.!.but it would take away your natural charm!.
as for what people think of you!.!.!.!.Its time you start to think of them!
Please don't ever lose that special thing about yourself, its a rare quality!.!.!.compared to you most people look like prats!. Honest!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
so, yes, its possible to learn some social skills, for what tho!? to impress people!? what kind of people do you wanna impress!? and what for!?
And I too used to care what people thought of me!.
all of those idiots I used to worry about!.!.!.!.now they care what I think of them! if you must, go get a book on social skills!.!.!.but it would take away your natural charm!.
as for what people think of you!.!.!.!.Its time you start to think of them!
Please don't ever lose that special thing about yourself, its a rare quality!.!.!.compared to you most people look like prats!. Honest!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
start hanging around more people!. get involved in their activities!. (the ones you r good at)if u got a girl, u might be more socially outgoing than you thought!. im also kinda shy but i started hanging around groups my "cool" friends hang out with!. now, i got lots of good friends and im not as shy anymore!. basically, hang around more people and talk to them more!. dont stutter or talk about games and EVERYTHING you know about it!. its gonna make you llok like a nerd/geek and everyone might make fun of you!. just hang around more people and socialize!. talk about wat they're talking about!. if you cant, simply walk away or stay silentWww@Answer-Health@Com
How long have you been feeling this!? If you have been this way all your life; then you need to seek counseling to get to root of this problem!. And I think that you should talk to your girlfriend also so she won't feel like you're uninterested because of your behavior at times!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A lot of people will tell you you lack confidence!. I don't believe that's the case!. I think you overestimate others!.
We're fallible, really!. We screw up, say stupid things, look fat, blush, and feel pretty inferior most of the time!. Cut us some slack!. If you let the rest of us down off that pedestal, you might not feel so small!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
We're fallible, really!. We screw up, say stupid things, look fat, blush, and feel pretty inferior most of the time!. Cut us some slack!. If you let the rest of us down off that pedestal, you might not feel so small!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. Go up and talk to people
2!. Believe in yourself
3!. Who cares what other people think, most of them are probably stupid
4!. Don't be shy or unconfident around your girlfriend because she likes you (hopefully)Www@Answer-Health@Com
2!. Believe in yourself
3!. Who cares what other people think, most of them are probably stupid
4!. Don't be shy or unconfident around your girlfriend because she likes you (hopefully)Www@Answer-Health@Com