Attention deficit disorder.?!
Question: Attention deficit disorder!.!?
my son cant talk yet and he is going to school for his problem they said he had add what can they do for that he is 4 years old and potted tranied and he is a good boy but he dont listen and runs all of the time he cant sit still!.he runs out in the street if we are not looking and i have told him he will get hit buy a car if he does that!.he just dont understand i wish he could say more and do more!.dos anyone have any tips o something that i can try with him any games or what kind of things they would like i dont know what add is!.thank youWww@Answer-Health@Com
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Momma I totally understand where you are coming from!. I have a daughter 9 yrs old now but at the age of three she was doing the exact things your son is doing now!. sticking her head in the toilet,running in the street,jumping off extremely high things etc!. I have tried the whole "time out" and "take the toy away" thing but it wouldn't work!. I started taking her to see a behavior specialist we met 3 times a week and she was diagnosed with ADHD!. so I was in denial for a long time and I was miserable and so was she!. I started going to counseling for myself I was at my witts end i couldn't understand!. I finally made that decision to start her on medicine and to my amazement within a hour she turned out to be a perfect angel!. its been 6 yrs now and i have done my research and talked to a many of people!. now for the last 4 years she has been on the "A" honor list at school!. One thing I found out about ADHD kids or adults they are the most intelligent people there are!. I wish you well and I wish I can talk to you!. You need a good support system now more than ever!. email me drightchristy@yahoo!.com Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Therapy would probably be the most helpful, it is costly, but I found local programs that provided free mental health services for my daughter when she was little because they thought she had ADD and we were low income!. Therapists can also teach you ways to deal with him that are effective and games that will help him learn better!. Don't give up, it doesn't seem like it now, but with a little time and effort your boy will be just fine!. My daughter was!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if he has add i thinkthey may prescribe him a medication but they would have to wait till he is older to be sure!.!.!.i have adhd which was confused with add for about 5 years and i had to be reperscribed monthly because my meds didnt work!.!.untill i met my current dr!. who discovered i have extremely under diagnosed adhd!.!.so im nowon adderal<sp> it works great! im not sure if i helped but i tried!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It doesn't sound like ADD, I would be looking into something like autism, or something else to do with his brain!. Take him to the doctor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Could be autism!. Take him to a pediatric pschologist that has some experience in this area to have him checked out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
They can give him Ritalin to calm him down and help him concentrate xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
be patient with him!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd try to see what his behavior problems are, maybe get that evaluated first!. Is he running in the street for attention!? to escape a demand someone placed on him!? Find other ways for him to get good attention if it's the first thing!. Or an acceptable way for him to deal with the thing he doesn't want to do if it's escape!.
When you give a direction, make sure it's not a question ("Do you want to pick up the toys!?" is not clear!. "First you have to pick up your toys then you can watch TV" is clear!.
If he doesn't do it, stay calm but tell him again and maybe count to 5!. When you get to 5 "help" him listen, like put a toy in his hand and move his hand, so he learns that if he doesn't listen, then he'll still have to do it!. This isn't you doing it for him, it's you helping him do it!. Praise him when he is doing well, like when he is able to sit still or does something nice, etc!. Play with him!. Follow his lead, this way you teach him how to follow your directions since you can follow his when playing a game!.
ADD and ADHD can be dealt with to some extent without medicating, which really should be a last resort as psych medicines have many side effects and not enough data for how they affect children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When you give a direction, make sure it's not a question ("Do you want to pick up the toys!?" is not clear!. "First you have to pick up your toys then you can watch TV" is clear!.
If he doesn't do it, stay calm but tell him again and maybe count to 5!. When you get to 5 "help" him listen, like put a toy in his hand and move his hand, so he learns that if he doesn't listen, then he'll still have to do it!. This isn't you doing it for him, it's you helping him do it!. Praise him when he is doing well, like when he is able to sit still or does something nice, etc!. Play with him!. Follow his lead, this way you teach him how to follow your directions since you can follow his when playing a game!.
ADD and ADHD can be dealt with to some extent without medicating, which really should be a last resort as psych medicines have many side effects and not enough data for how they affect children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not mental health expert but I have worked with 3-5 year olds for 20+ years, many diagnosed with ADHD, and I have a daughter who was diagnosed as well (she is now 20 yrs!. old)!.
Here is what I have learned:
ADHD children who have aggressive behaviors are like that because they don't know any other way to vent (and we all should have the right to vent)!. In your son's case he doesn't have the words so what else is he supposed to do!? You may have already done this but have you had his hearing checked!? Just a thought because of the concern he doesn't listen to you and because of his speech delay, if he can't hear the words others say, or they are muffled, he can't learn how to make the words himself!. You are right that time out and removing things are not going to work for him because he is so busy #1 he CAN'T sit!. He simply doesn't have the ability and #2 take something away and he'll find something else!. One thing for sure is that ADHD kids are never bored! :)
So perhaps to help with his speech problem is to teach him sign language!. It's not that hard to learn and hand gestures are ADHD friendly!. It may give him an "out" for his frustration!. And if/when he begins to start trying to talk repeat what he wants - if he points to the juice in the fridge give him the words- say to him "Oh, you want a glass of juice!." and than give it to him!. Don't sit and try to make him say the words until your sure there's no hearing problem and consider that with his hyperactivity he may not be able to sit and concentrate on what your saying!. Give him choices - You can either wash your hands or I'll help you wash them!. That way you still get the desired result but he has a say on how it gets done and he learns that you mean business!.
Like I said I'm not expert but I have learned a few tricks!. You might also want to consider some of the medications on the market!. I was really hesitant with my daughter about them but when we finally decided that was the last straw it made a world of difference! I know you will hear all the horror stories about kids being so doped up they can't even keep their eyes open, etc!. as a parent you'll know and you keep your doctor informed so that they can be adjusted!. My daughter will tell you that once she started taking her adderall she could so much better concentrate on her studies and she built her self-esteem and she began to make friends because she wasn't constantly being mean to the other girls!. I believe you when you say your son is a good boy!!! I understand how you may have those moments when you get frustrated with others who may not see the same little boy you see!. You sound like a very concerned parent and you will get through this!. Best of luck to you and your son!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Here is what I have learned:
ADHD children who have aggressive behaviors are like that because they don't know any other way to vent (and we all should have the right to vent)!. In your son's case he doesn't have the words so what else is he supposed to do!? You may have already done this but have you had his hearing checked!? Just a thought because of the concern he doesn't listen to you and because of his speech delay, if he can't hear the words others say, or they are muffled, he can't learn how to make the words himself!. You are right that time out and removing things are not going to work for him because he is so busy #1 he CAN'T sit!. He simply doesn't have the ability and #2 take something away and he'll find something else!. One thing for sure is that ADHD kids are never bored! :)
So perhaps to help with his speech problem is to teach him sign language!. It's not that hard to learn and hand gestures are ADHD friendly!. It may give him an "out" for his frustration!. And if/when he begins to start trying to talk repeat what he wants - if he points to the juice in the fridge give him the words- say to him "Oh, you want a glass of juice!." and than give it to him!. Don't sit and try to make him say the words until your sure there's no hearing problem and consider that with his hyperactivity he may not be able to sit and concentrate on what your saying!. Give him choices - You can either wash your hands or I'll help you wash them!. That way you still get the desired result but he has a say on how it gets done and he learns that you mean business!.
Like I said I'm not expert but I have learned a few tricks!. You might also want to consider some of the medications on the market!. I was really hesitant with my daughter about them but when we finally decided that was the last straw it made a world of difference! I know you will hear all the horror stories about kids being so doped up they can't even keep their eyes open, etc!. as a parent you'll know and you keep your doctor informed so that they can be adjusted!. My daughter will tell you that once she started taking her adderall she could so much better concentrate on her studies and she built her self-esteem and she began to make friends because she wasn't constantly being mean to the other girls!. I believe you when you say your son is a good boy!!! I understand how you may have those moments when you get frustrated with others who may not see the same little boy you see!. You sound like a very concerned parent and you will get through this!. Best of luck to you and your son!.Www@Answer-Health@Com