I am respectful and work hard, why do people find it easy to be rude to me?!
Question: I am respectful and work hard, why do people find it easy to be rude to me!?
I am at the end of my rope, I am 37, I have had, not the worst life, I have a great husband and awsome kids, I feel blessed most of the time!. I have harsh and rude thoughts about co-workers and customers like everyone else, but I am mature enough to put them aside and try to be as proffesional as possable, I am extremely dependable, and maybe too flexable!. But I feel as though even I make every effort to be at my best at work, people find it easy to treat me like dirt!. I am smart, but I don't brag, or get a kick out of makeing people feel stupid!. I believe in doing my job, wether I feel like it or not!. Why are so many people free to be jerks and live well and happy, but I can't get treated well no matter how well I treat people!? I don't want to reduce my self to that level, it is just a standard I work within that I can't bring myself to lower am I as worthless as I am treated!? what am I doing wrong!? What can I do differantly, I don't want the world, just a good year for once!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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There was a time when teachers could teach manners and respect in the classrooms, then parents objected and said that was their job!. But then they both went to work and when the got home they crashed in front of the TV and never talked to the children!. The parents got caught up in having it all and became stressed with their life!. Their stress was turned towards anyone and anything that got in their way !.!.!.!. this was the example of the children and now those children are grown and doing the same!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like my life, honestly!. The only answer I can give you, and it really isn't much of one, is that some people mistake courtesy and manners as a sign of weakness!. You seem like a nice person, so they can treat you however they want and you will just stand there and take it!. I don't know what's happened to the world today, but it frustrates me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Because some people are "jackasses" & will try to put you down as a means to boost their so called egos in order to make themselves feel like their lives have more importance than yours!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There are a lot different people in the world!. It would be evitible to meet jerk type of indivisuals around your life!. You might be able to play deaf when they said something jealous or bittery words to you!. Or play dumm without showing your sharp tongue to avoid any conflictions!. But you sometimes you got to be keen to use sarcastic way by verbals to mock at them sometimes if you really feel enough!. For me, simplely ignore them and peace myself first not getting involved what they intend to see you down!. So relax!. After work, forget about these jackass people when you got home!. Tune up your moods into positive when you get home!. That is life!. If you kept on minding what they said around the clock, who knows one day your mind will break down by them!. So ignor them, keep moving forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Nice guys (and girls) finish last!.
You're running out of gas!.
Your sympathy will get you left behind!.
Try something for me, be a jerk, for one day!. Do the best you can to actually be rude for one entire day!. To everybody who isn't family!. Just push people!. Ask questions you normally wouldn't because you don't want to be difficult!. Tell someone the truth when you would normally spare their feelings!. For one entire day, make it your mission!.
As bad as it sounds it'll be empowering!. It'll show you how much people will put up with, and may assist you in standing up for yourself at times that you normally wouldn't, on a regular basis!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're running out of gas!.
Your sympathy will get you left behind!.
Try something for me, be a jerk, for one day!. Do the best you can to actually be rude for one entire day!. To everybody who isn't family!. Just push people!. Ask questions you normally wouldn't because you don't want to be difficult!. Tell someone the truth when you would normally spare their feelings!. For one entire day, make it your mission!.
As bad as it sounds it'll be empowering!. It'll show you how much people will put up with, and may assist you in standing up for yourself at times that you normally wouldn't, on a regular basis!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try to remember that you are at least a person who is NOT like the people you are talking about!.!.!.be thankful that you are not like them, and try to be kind, in the face of their anger!. I have found that by diffusing their angst, sometimes they are just tired of people being mean to THEM,!.!.!.so they start taking it out on everyone else too!.!.!.Don't take it personal though, just be happy you're blessed with the wisdom not to be like that!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hang in there and believe in yourself!. This is the world today and people think that it is ok to be rude and self centered!. I do not think that you are doing any thing wrong you sound like a very giving, caring , responsible person which is RARE!. Please do not listen to the jerk that says nice people finish last there are a lot of people that care about being treated with respect!. It sounds like reason is that where you work the people are just that way!. Look around you I bet you would notice that not everyone is treating you that way!. I have had some of the same experiences that you are talking about!. Best wishes to you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
there is no other answer except that you fell into the wrong place at the wrong time!. Its life!. i have to bike to work sometimes and one day, my bike was completely beat up!. i had to walk home in anger and frustration of my generation!. we live in a materialistic world!. many people think they have a right to be an asshole!. mainly because of the fact that they are rich!. I'm sorry more like their parents are rich!. we live in a mass consumer society where people discourage others on how bad peoples clothes are!. you are not doing anything wrong!. what you are experiencing is life and it is up to you to change your habits, to go out of your comfort zone, or stay the way you are and deal with the people around you!. if you pick the second choice!. then you have no right to complain!. remember that you have a choice!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com