I know im wrong but im still pissed!?!
Question: I know im wrong but im still pissed!!?
Ok so I hate to be alone overnight (yeah I know im too old for being scared im 19!.) But my fiance has to work overnights about 2 times a week!. And I make myself deal with it because its his work!.!.he has to go!. But now that it is summer he is going to spend at least one night a week up at his cabin!. This really pisses me off!.!.!.I dont want to be alone overnight unless I have too!.
And I have bad depression and anxiety and no friends because of it so I get jealous of him going off to do things with his friends ALL THE TIME!. He goes off and has fun while im at home sad!. I couldnt even go anywhere if I wanted to because we only have one car!.
He spends all his time with friends, they come over after he works (he works 2 pm- 10 pm) and stay until 3 am and they come over on his days off!. If he has any spare time I will bet you my life one of his friends are coming over!.
I am just so pissed that he goes off and has a great time while im at home tortured!. I have some hobbies!.!.!.!. Cont!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
And I have bad depression and anxiety and no friends because of it so I get jealous of him going off to do things with his friends ALL THE TIME!. He goes off and has fun while im at home sad!. I couldnt even go anywhere if I wanted to because we only have one car!.
He spends all his time with friends, they come over after he works (he works 2 pm- 10 pm) and stay until 3 am and they come over on his days off!. If he has any spare time I will bet you my life one of his friends are coming over!.
I am just so pissed that he goes off and has a great time while im at home tortured!. I have some hobbies!.!.!.!. Cont!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
There is nothing lonelier than being alone when you are part of a couple!
Thing is, he isn't responsible for your happiness, you are!. Don't give him that power!.
I agree with the above that a pet can be a great companion!. If you can't get a cat or dog because you rent, maybe a small critter!. Like a guinea pig, hamster or rat!? Don't freak out!. I volunteer at a shelter and have talked to hundreds of people who have these small critters and they love them and get as much enjoyment out of them as people with dogs or cats!.
Is there a reason you can't get another car!? Is it his car, your car, or a shared car!? You need to find a way to get out and do something for yourself, take a fun class maybe!.
Volunteer work is for others but you'd get more out of it than they do!. Your local library can probably give you a list of local organizations that need volunteers!.
And last, the obvious, don't hurt yourself to get attention!. You may make a fatal mistake!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Thing is, he isn't responsible for your happiness, you are!. Don't give him that power!.
I agree with the above that a pet can be a great companion!. If you can't get a cat or dog because you rent, maybe a small critter!. Like a guinea pig, hamster or rat!? Don't freak out!. I volunteer at a shelter and have talked to hundreds of people who have these small critters and they love them and get as much enjoyment out of them as people with dogs or cats!.
Is there a reason you can't get another car!? Is it his car, your car, or a shared car!? You need to find a way to get out and do something for yourself, take a fun class maybe!.
Volunteer work is for others but you'd get more out of it than they do!. Your local library can probably give you a list of local organizations that need volunteers!.
And last, the obvious, don't hurt yourself to get attention!. You may make a fatal mistake!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Would it be possible for you to get a job!? Or make a business out of your hobbies!?
The words you use for being at home are sad and tortured!. Please look for a way out of that situation!. It's not him, it's you feeling imprisoned!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The words you use for being at home are sad and tortured!. Please look for a way out of that situation!. It's not him, it's you feeling imprisoned!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off, no need to harm anyone!. Second, the answer is in your question!. He is your FIANCE!. Think if you really want to marry a person like this!. If this is going on now, imagine 5 years into your marriage!. You should let him know how you feel and face him with this problem!. Ask him for a solution ( change jobs, cut down on friends, etc)!. No one should feel the way you feel!. If he does nothing, maybe you should let him go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
whoa 1st off do not harm yourself bcuz that will just overwhelm him and push him away and I know u dont want that!. I suggest u get a dog or cat I know it sounds lame but u can't expect him not to have fun if u cant or dont want to thats just self fish and also another great reason to push him away!. get a dog or cat something u can pet and let sleep with you and after that get some help for your depression and anxiety so that you can go out with him sometimes or go out on your own!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
YOU ARE NOT WRONG TO BE PISSED! If he would rather spend time away from you or with his friends, then he is not as committed to your relationship as you are!.
DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN! Get away from him as fast as you can!. He is causing you to feel lonely and depressed because he obviously doesn't give a damn about what you think!.
DON'T HURT YOURSELF! He is not worth it!.
You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you!. Please take our advice!. Some of us have been there and can tell you from experience that you can't change a man!. If you are at the bottom of his priorities now, and are allowing it, he will continue to treat you this way!.
Don't make the mistake of marrying him in the hopes that things will change!. They won't!.
You CAN and you WILL find somebody else who values you as an equal and LIVES to be with you as much as he possibly can!.
Your fiance needs to grow up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN! Get away from him as fast as you can!. He is causing you to feel lonely and depressed because he obviously doesn't give a damn about what you think!.
DON'T HURT YOURSELF! He is not worth it!.
You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you!. Please take our advice!. Some of us have been there and can tell you from experience that you can't change a man!. If you are at the bottom of his priorities now, and are allowing it, he will continue to treat you this way!.
Don't make the mistake of marrying him in the hopes that things will change!. They won't!.
You CAN and you WILL find somebody else who values you as an equal and LIVES to be with you as much as he possibly can!.
Your fiance needs to grow up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your not wrong!. It sounds more like he is the cause of your depression and anxiety, although it may be hard to se it!. You may want to seriously consider whether you want to be more then fiances, if you know what im saying!. Ask yourself, can I deal with this for the next 50 years!? You are only 19 you probably only really remember half of your life so far!. Im sure you have only known this guy for five years max!. Can you really put up with this for 10x that long!. Marriage doesn't get you the attention you want if that is what you are going for!. You are obviously unhappy and this relationship doesn't seem to be helping!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I can't say you're wrong at all about the boyfriend thing!. It is your reaction to being used like a doormat that is wrong!. Instead of saying "Thank you, please rub me with your dirty boots again," Go out and get your own job, make your own money, get your own car!. Get off the couch and do something with your life if you don't like how things are going!. I can guarantee you it isn't going to get any better until you make some changes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com