Omg help my mom saw my cuts!!!?!
Question: Omg help my mom saw my cuts!!!!?
ok so i was home alone and then i didnt cover up my cuts and when my mom came home she saw!.!.!.
i seriously only cut for a month before she found out!!
well i cut cause i feel like im a bad person and when i cut it reminds me to be better!. and thats what i told my mom!. and now she tattled to my dad and my dad hates me and wont talk to me, and my mom is so mad and explodes at me!. also they wont let me outta thier sight!. like i cant even do homework upstairs!. i have to do it right infront of the tv that my sisters are watching!. they wont even turn down the volume and it is soooo distracting!. now my parents are taking me to a councelor and i heard they suck, and i had bad experience with one!. now the councelor is prolly gonna tell me the same things my parents are telling me, and i have better things to do than sit there and litsen to a person i dont even know lecture me for an hour!. so please help me!. does a councelor really help you!?!?!? and what should i do about my parents!?!?!?
o btw im 13Www@Answer-Health@Com
i seriously only cut for a month before she found out!!
well i cut cause i feel like im a bad person and when i cut it reminds me to be better!. and thats what i told my mom!. and now she tattled to my dad and my dad hates me and wont talk to me, and my mom is so mad and explodes at me!. also they wont let me outta thier sight!. like i cant even do homework upstairs!. i have to do it right infront of the tv that my sisters are watching!. they wont even turn down the volume and it is soooo distracting!. now my parents are taking me to a councelor and i heard they suck, and i had bad experience with one!. now the councelor is prolly gonna tell me the same things my parents are telling me, and i have better things to do than sit there and litsen to a person i dont even know lecture me for an hour!. so please help me!. does a councelor really help you!?!?!? and what should i do about my parents!?!?!?
o btw im 13Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
okay first stop stressing!. dont worry about it!. calm down!.
second, i used to cut really bad!. and i was really depressed!. and i just loved the pain!. it made me forget about my emotional pain, ya know!?
but i needed help!. and so do you!. my mom wanted me to be put on some anti depressants but i made a deal with her!. i told her i would go to the counselor and if she said i need to be on some medicine, then i would be put on some!. so the first day the counselor said i needed to be on medicine!. and it really works! i havent cut myself in three months!!!! and the counselor, shes is awesome!
the counselor isnt going to tell you whats right or wrong, she is just going to ask you questions about your life and figure out why you are depressed and why you feel that way!. and she will write it all down for future reference!. she has really helped me! and i am going to keep going to her!.
it so nice to talk to someone and for someone to actually listen to me and to actually understand and not judge me!.
i definately reccomend in going to a counselor!. and as for your parents, they are just worried about you!.
when i cut and my cousins found out, they took everything away that had a sharp point to it and kept me in their site! so i know how that feels!. but it helps even tho it sucks!.
good luck! and the counselor will help!
edit: please dont listen to daniell!. i know what you are going thru!. ive been going thru it for years and just now getting help!. but you need help!. people dont cut, just to cut or be steroetype or for attention!. that is rediculous!. i cut because i felt like i couldnt talk to anyone and i was all alone, so i would i cut messages in my arms and legs!. i was going thru many differant problems!. alot of problems alot of people cant handle!.!.which i couldnt anymore!. danielle hasnt seen your cuts and dont know how bad they are, and niether have i!. but a cut is a cut!. it is still bad!.
please get the help you need!. if u need to email me, feel free to do so!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
second, i used to cut really bad!. and i was really depressed!. and i just loved the pain!. it made me forget about my emotional pain, ya know!?
but i needed help!. and so do you!. my mom wanted me to be put on some anti depressants but i made a deal with her!. i told her i would go to the counselor and if she said i need to be on some medicine, then i would be put on some!. so the first day the counselor said i needed to be on medicine!. and it really works! i havent cut myself in three months!!!! and the counselor, shes is awesome!
the counselor isnt going to tell you whats right or wrong, she is just going to ask you questions about your life and figure out why you are depressed and why you feel that way!. and she will write it all down for future reference!. she has really helped me! and i am going to keep going to her!.
it so nice to talk to someone and for someone to actually listen to me and to actually understand and not judge me!.
i definately reccomend in going to a counselor!. and as for your parents, they are just worried about you!.
when i cut and my cousins found out, they took everything away that had a sharp point to it and kept me in their site! so i know how that feels!. but it helps even tho it sucks!.
good luck! and the counselor will help!
edit: please dont listen to daniell!. i know what you are going thru!. ive been going thru it for years and just now getting help!. but you need help!. people dont cut, just to cut or be steroetype or for attention!. that is rediculous!. i cut because i felt like i couldnt talk to anyone and i was all alone, so i would i cut messages in my arms and legs!. i was going thru many differant problems!. alot of problems alot of people cant handle!.!.which i couldnt anymore!. danielle hasnt seen your cuts and dont know how bad they are, and niether have i!. but a cut is a cut!. it is still bad!.
please get the help you need!. if u need to email me, feel free to do so!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
there's not much u can do!.sorry!.if u feel like a bad person,try doing good things!.maybe,don't complain about the homework thing,help ur sisters with their homework,apoligize to ur parents,tell them u luv them,stop cutting urself!. ur not a bad person!.i can tell!. just be cooperative with ur parents and the counselor and hang around ppl who make u feel good about urself!. hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Deep down you must want help because you were cutting and you didn't hide it!. People who self harm usually secretly want somebody to see it!. So talk to your parents and tell them how you feel!. You have their attention, now use it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
what the **** are you doin cuttin yourself if your gonna do that you deserve to die no offense but its so stupid you need to stop otherwise one day your gonna do yourself some real damage there youll regret it hope this helps bye p!.s no cuttingWww@Answer-Health@Com
Your parents are scared!. They don't want you to get hurt!. A counselor would hlep you find other ways to deal with your feelings that cutting!. It was good your parents found out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just go and meet the counselor it really helps and not all of them suck!. speak to ur parents abt ur behavior and tell them ur sorry!.
STOP CUTTING UR SELF!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
STOP CUTTING UR SELF!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
stop cutting yourself, your really messed up in the head get help!. stop bring a ***** emoWww@Answer-Health@Com
stop cutting yourself, tell your parents you need HELPWww@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry dude, u got urself into trouble n theres no way around it!. Ur going to a councelor =DWww@Answer-Health@Com
First of all, I'm sure your mom and dad don't hate you!. It's undoubtedly hard for them to understand why you do that to yourself!. Some parents think their kids do it for attention or they feel like they did something wrong as parents!. So cut them a little slack!.
You should tell your parents that the tv is distracting you from doing your homework!. Maybe you can do your homework in your room with the door open or with them around!. They have to realize that there is a deeper reason for the cutting and that you need professional help to be able to stop doing it!. I have a feeling that before you cut, you feel so stressed and uncomfortable that cutting is the only way you can get relief from those feelings!. All you're really doing is trying to feel better when you feel horrible!. You need a counselor who can help you find less destructive ways to deal with the stress and uncomfortable feelings!. And yes, counselors really do work!. They won't lecture you--at least a good counselor won't!. They actually give you an outlet to talk about what's bothering you and they don't judge you!. I would strongly suggest you tell your parents that you want help from a counselor and that you want their support instead of their criticism!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You should tell your parents that the tv is distracting you from doing your homework!. Maybe you can do your homework in your room with the door open or with them around!. They have to realize that there is a deeper reason for the cutting and that you need professional help to be able to stop doing it!. I have a feeling that before you cut, you feel so stressed and uncomfortable that cutting is the only way you can get relief from those feelings!. All you're really doing is trying to feel better when you feel horrible!. You need a counselor who can help you find less destructive ways to deal with the stress and uncomfortable feelings!. And yes, counselors really do work!. They won't lecture you--at least a good counselor won't!. They actually give you an outlet to talk about what's bothering you and they don't judge you!. I would strongly suggest you tell your parents that you want help from a counselor and that you want their support instead of their criticism!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, licensed counselors can help!. In fact, it sounds as though your parents could use some counseling themselves!. Hopefully, your counselor can help you figure out why you feel like you are a bad person and why you feel like cutting yourself is the answer, also how you got to this point in the first place!. I hope that you are misreading your parents and that they are worried and concerned about you, and that your dad does not hate you!. Be sure to tell the counselor, without your parents present hopefully, all the things that disturb you!. You deserve better!. Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i understand y did ya cut !.!.!.!.bcoz u thought u were doin wrong and u had to punish urself!.!.!.!.is it that ur parents don't scold u enough!?!?or u have frndz whose parents beat n scold them!? have u done sumthing wrong n nobody noes abt it u feel guilty!? well these might be reasons to cut urself!.!.!.!.!.itz all right!.!.!.!.i understand that ur parents r not lettin u out of sight dats bcoz they care for you!.!.!.!.they r worried dat u might hurt urself!.!.!.its ok!.!.!.when u meet the counsellor tell her everythin !.!.!.they dont suck ppl say like this bt actually benfit from it!.!.!.!.!.!.tell the counsellor abt the problems u r facing bcoz of ur parents over attention n she might make them understand!.!.!.!.!.!.!.counsellors arent bad just tell them everything!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. n plz don't cut urself u r precious!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Perfect example of a little girl who thinks it's cool to take on the emo stereotype and cut for attention!.
Deep down you KNOW your parents had a right to go on at you - you don't have a problem with cutting, you have a problem with being an idiot!.
One day when you get older you will meet people who REALLY have problems with cutting, for REAL reasons!.
You know I am right deep down, sweetheart!. You think it's cool to cut!. You think all this is the way to go!.
Well it isn't, it makes you pathetic!. You are ruining your arms for the sake of a stereotype!.
Have you ever seen someones arms when they truely cut!? They're mangled!. What do you use!? Scissors!?
You are a 13 year old attention seeker who has nothing better to do than pretend you're so hard done by for sympathy!.
I am telling you this not to be mad at you, but for it to hit home that this whole cutting thing is ridiculous!. As for your reasons why you cut - that's a perfect example of someone wanting attention and sympathy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Deep down you KNOW your parents had a right to go on at you - you don't have a problem with cutting, you have a problem with being an idiot!.
One day when you get older you will meet people who REALLY have problems with cutting, for REAL reasons!.
You know I am right deep down, sweetheart!. You think it's cool to cut!. You think all this is the way to go!.
Well it isn't, it makes you pathetic!. You are ruining your arms for the sake of a stereotype!.
Have you ever seen someones arms when they truely cut!? They're mangled!. What do you use!? Scissors!?
You are a 13 year old attention seeker who has nothing better to do than pretend you're so hard done by for sympathy!.
I am telling you this not to be mad at you, but for it to hit home that this whole cutting thing is ridiculous!. As for your reasons why you cut - that's a perfect example of someone wanting attention and sympathy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
WOW LET ME JUST SAY SOME OF THESE ANSWERS ARE FU3K3D UP PLEASE STFU!!!!! THE PEOPLE WHO SAY UGH UGH U GOT URSELF INTO IT OK SO STFU GO TO H3LL THOSE PEOPL OK PLEASE JUST DO ME THAT FAVOR!!!!! and second off I know how u feel even though my situtation is different but listen some counsellors are very very nice and they don't lecture u they relly listen and try to help you out I used to think counsellors su3k and they really don't care but what I have learned is this is what they do they wouldn't go work in this field if they didn't wanna help right!? so listen some of them are very nice and they try and help u find other ways of dealing with your pain inside your fealing!. And I don't know if u do but if u feel like ashamed or embaraced to get help don't because if you don't get help your pain will just keep building up inside and you will just irrupt in anger, so tell your parents listen!.!.!.!. IF YOU KEEP BADGERING ME ABOUT ME CUTTING I AM NEVER GOING TO GET BETTER" No but tell them listen "It doesn't help me if you are mad at me and won't listen to me you just make me feel worse and it doesn't help that your reaction is dissaproving me and being very judgemental" try and make them understand that they need to be by your side to help you deal with this you are there child!. A mother and father should never ever dissaprove or hate their child!. so try and talk to them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why are you hurting youself!?!? I mean i use to do the same things like years ago!. But!?!?!? Hmm well counselors do help you!? You'd like to think that they're only making the problem worse for you but, in reality your trying to block out what she is saying!. Because you don't wanna be reminded of why you feel bad or what you did that makes you cut yourself!. She's trying to help you and the best thing you can do is let her in and embrace those emotions!. And don't blame your parents for this or ask 'what should i do!?' They care for you and love you and they're trying to help you over come this!.
Just don't do it anymore, cutting youself isn't worth it!. Your just trying to block it out!. It's best if you just handle it on your own, emotions and all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just don't do it anymore, cutting youself isn't worth it!. Your just trying to block it out!. It's best if you just handle it on your own, emotions and all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Be thankful your mom saw your cuts!. I wish my parents had when I was a teenager!. I kept mine hidden and I think they found some when I was in college, which wasn't the best time or place for them to get me help --- as I went to college out of state and there were limited resources for them to help me with, not to mention how I was an adult and they couldn't be as involved in making sure I got help!. Now you can tell your mom that you need help and she will believe you even more because she loves you and doesn't want to see you hurt yourself!.
Can a counselor help, only if you let the counselor help you!. You have to willing and open to following their suggestions!. You also have to be willing to talk, even if it hurts!. Total honesty and cooperation with a counselor will give you the best chance at getting help and beating this now, while you still can!.
You are young enough that you can beat this now, if you decide to!. Self-injury is a choice and so is recovery!. No one is making you hurt yourself, but your mom is giving you the chance to help yourself --- by seeing the counselor!.
Give help a chance!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Can a counselor help, only if you let the counselor help you!. You have to willing and open to following their suggestions!. You also have to be willing to talk, even if it hurts!. Total honesty and cooperation with a counselor will give you the best chance at getting help and beating this now, while you still can!.
You are young enough that you can beat this now, if you decide to!. Self-injury is a choice and so is recovery!. No one is making you hurt yourself, but your mom is giving you the chance to help yourself --- by seeing the counselor!.
Give help a chance!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi,
I am 22 years old and i used to cut myself because i feel like i was bad person as well!. I went to counselling and get the help and support i need!. But counselling is not for every one!. Your can join a local support group!. why not try Humanistic Counselling which is person centred!. Why not look up diffenert tipes of counselling on the inter net!.
Humanistic Counselling is all about the here and now!. You also need to talk to you Mum, Dad and tell them that you know they are trying to help but are going about it the Wong way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am 22 years old and i used to cut myself because i feel like i was bad person as well!. I went to counselling and get the help and support i need!. But counselling is not for every one!. Your can join a local support group!. why not try Humanistic Counselling which is person centred!. Why not look up diffenert tipes of counselling on the inter net!.
Humanistic Counselling is all about the here and now!. You also need to talk to you Mum, Dad and tell them that you know they are trying to help but are going about it the Wong way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You DO realize, I hope, that people who are mentally and emotionally healthy don't cut themselves!? You definitely need to see a counselor or a therapist or some other mental health professional, 'cos you are a danger to yourself and you NEED HELP!.
And if I were your mother, I'd do exactly what your parents are doing --- not letting you out of my sight and getting you the professional help you need!.
For your own sake, I sincerely hope you listen to your parents and give the counselor a fair chance to help you!. He or she won't lecture you; they'll listen to you and give you a chance to talk about what's bothering you and why you feel the need to hurt yourself!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
And if I were your mother, I'd do exactly what your parents are doing --- not letting you out of my sight and getting you the professional help you need!.
For your own sake, I sincerely hope you listen to your parents and give the counselor a fair chance to help you!. He or she won't lecture you; they'll listen to you and give you a chance to talk about what's bothering you and why you feel the need to hurt yourself!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ok, first you seriously have got to find another way to vent out your stress!.!.!.you're being a hazard to yourself!.!.!.of course i cant exactly understand how cutting yourself eases your feeling but honestly, nothing good ever comes out from mutilating your body!.!.!.any harm!.break on the skin inflicted on your body is considered mutilation you know (yes, even surgical operations are a form of mutilation since they change the natural integrity of your body)!.!.!.second, look deep down in your heart!.!.you'll realize you see the point why your parents are disappointed in you!.!.!.in a way, maybe they expected you to come to them instead of inflicting self harm!.!.!.but seeing as your only 13, in a way, you keeping things from them are expected!.!.try to see it in their pov!.!.maybe they're also dissapointed in themselves because they weren't able to protect you, this time, from yourself!.!.!.
a counselor is not actually suited for everyone!.!.!.we are all individuals in our own right and what's effective to one may not be to another!.!.!.maybe a counselor is loads of help to some but to others,counselors are loads of crap!.!.in fairness to counselors, give them a chance!.!.!.dont put all counselors under one category!.!.!.the differ too just as you differ from other clients they have!.!.!.
btw, if this last counselor you went to is really what you made him/her sound like, i guess she/he's not a very effective counselor after all!.!.!.a person who would like to understand other people's psyche must first be ready to listen than lecture!.!.!.the whole point of counselling is for the client to talk!.!.to let the client explore his/her own feelings!.!.!.a counselor is there only to support, interpret,take note and answer if asked!.!.!.its not even ethical for them to give advices!.!.!.clients must come to realize things on their own with proper guidance from counselors!.!.!.you're never getting anywhere if this counselor is going to lecture you about things you're rather not very ready to accpet right now!.!.its like the counselor is pushing you to be in a situation he/she thought you'd best be in!.!.!.if that's the case, you'll be doing her/his realizations and not your own!.!.!.what this counselor of yours is doing right now is not really therapeutic!.!.!.she/he's just building a gap between you two and with that alone, she/he's unsuccessful of accomplishing the NUMBER ONE THING that should FIRST be accomplished!.!.and that is to build trust!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
a counselor is not actually suited for everyone!.!.!.we are all individuals in our own right and what's effective to one may not be to another!.!.!.maybe a counselor is loads of help to some but to others,counselors are loads of crap!.!.in fairness to counselors, give them a chance!.!.!.dont put all counselors under one category!.!.!.the differ too just as you differ from other clients they have!.!.!.
btw, if this last counselor you went to is really what you made him/her sound like, i guess she/he's not a very effective counselor after all!.!.!.a person who would like to understand other people's psyche must first be ready to listen than lecture!.!.!.the whole point of counselling is for the client to talk!.!.to let the client explore his/her own feelings!.!.!.a counselor is there only to support, interpret,take note and answer if asked!.!.!.its not even ethical for them to give advices!.!.!.clients must come to realize things on their own with proper guidance from counselors!.!.!.you're never getting anywhere if this counselor is going to lecture you about things you're rather not very ready to accpet right now!.!.its like the counselor is pushing you to be in a situation he/she thought you'd best be in!.!.!.if that's the case, you'll be doing her/his realizations and not your own!.!.!.what this counselor of yours is doing right now is not really therapeutic!.!.!.she/he's just building a gap between you two and with that alone, she/he's unsuccessful of accomplishing the NUMBER ONE THING that should FIRST be accomplished!.!.and that is to build trust!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com