Why do humans feel the need to be close to someone.......?!
Question: Why do humans feel the need to be close to someone!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!?
or to belong to a group, or "fit-in"!.
i don't understand it, like when lovers are so close that one doesn't know how they'd live without the other!.
or when people are so attached to others that when this other person dies, it cripples the one who cared about them!.
i've never had any close friends, never had a girlfriend, but i've never felt the need or desire to!. This is normality to me, but obviously not to society!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't understand it, like when lovers are so close that one doesn't know how they'd live without the other!.
or when people are so attached to others that when this other person dies, it cripples the one who cared about them!.
i've never had any close friends, never had a girlfriend, but i've never felt the need or desire to!. This is normality to me, but obviously not to society!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
The bonding between mammals is due to the evolution of maternal caring for the young for an extended period of time!. For situations other than motherhood, well, you can't turn off that system of bonding hormones, so it is in males and in females for other situations!. This has been handy for our species particularly, since it has helped our species survive (species level natural selection, versus natural selection at the level of the individual)!. Many people, if not most, would risk their lives to save another person!. This is good for the survival of all clan members!. Helping an injured person in your clan also helps your group survive!. For individuals, altruism like this is actually a detriment to individual survival, since we could die helping others - but it really helps out our species as a whole!. We can't turn that altruism off either - when in proximity to other humans that are NOT in our clan, we will help them out!. Also, long term pair bonding is advantageous for raising children!. In our species, it takes so many years to raise a child compared to other mammals!. Other mammals with very long lifespans and offspring needing long term care also grieve longer, it seems to me (elephants, mountain gorillas) versus animals like rabbits or mice, who give little time to their offspring and don't seem to care much what happens to them after they are mature!.
Some people are more introverted than others!. In your case, I would say that something related to your upbringing makes you negative towards close friendships and you don't know what you are missing!. Or perhaps you have relatives you are close to!. I'm very, very introverted and I still need others around!. I have family members who reject friendships and are not in romantic relationships, but they are FAR more messed up than I am (I have bipolar disorder and was sexually abused for many years)!. Human babies are never normal if they do not receive enough holding and loving from another human (failure to thrive)!. This is well known!. We are social animals!. So I think maybe you need others more than you realize, or maybe you get social contact via the internet or something!.
Anyway, hope this answer helps you out!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Some people are more introverted than others!. In your case, I would say that something related to your upbringing makes you negative towards close friendships and you don't know what you are missing!. Or perhaps you have relatives you are close to!. I'm very, very introverted and I still need others around!. I have family members who reject friendships and are not in romantic relationships, but they are FAR more messed up than I am (I have bipolar disorder and was sexually abused for many years)!. Human babies are never normal if they do not receive enough holding and loving from another human (failure to thrive)!. This is well known!. We are social animals!. So I think maybe you need others more than you realize, or maybe you get social contact via the internet or something!.
Anyway, hope this answer helps you out!Www@Answer-Health@Com
its human nature to need to be close to someone!.!.!.it can be intimate, platonic or simply by being with you family!.!.!.its human nature because its a part of our needs!.!.!.not just need as in i need to be with you but need as in its a part of your physical, spiritual,mental and emotional growth!.!.!.if you'll search on the internet about MASLOW'S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS, its illustrated there the basic hierarchy of needs of a human!.!.!.we start of at the physiologic (food,water,air,clothing and even sex) next is the safety and security needs (clothing, safety to be away from harm etc) third is LOVE AND BELONGINGNESS (the need to feel love and be loved, belong to a group like family, friends etc) fourth is self esteem and at the top is self actualization!.!.maslow's hierarchy of needs is as real and true as it gets since health care provision (particularly the science and art of NURSING)uses this principle for prioritizing care!.!.<i know this coz im a nursing student>!.!.!.for further explanation why this pyramid is the way it is, i advice you to search the web!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
u know sumthin ppl hav tried so hard to b wat u r !.!.!. as in not to be affected by ay one else !.!.!.!.so first of all congrats!.!.!.!.!.!.n y u r like dat can b bcoz maybe u don't share ur problems wd anyone!.!.!.!.let it be !.!.!.u r lucky dat u r like datWww@Answer-Health@Com
No,some people have a high need for group affiliation,some dont,Im one of the latter!Www@Answer-Health@Com
sounds to me like u have some!.!. umm!.!. problem!? no i just mean that ur not like everybody else haha
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