I Really Need Help ;'(?!
Question: I Really Need Help ;'(!?
im 16 and im a emotional wreck! for about 4 months i havent been my loud silly self, one minuite im okay then the next i hate everything! i keep crying over everything like my weight which is another issue i cant seem to lose it, iv convinced my self that im going to die, iv been getting werid pains in my stomach for about 7 months now i havent told no one because im so scared of what it could be!. my life was fine until this all started, i just dont no what to do i feel im traped and theres no one out there to help me can someone just try and help without saying go to the doctors because iv already had a tumour and from then life has scared me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
EATING PLANS: The idea is to become a grazer, eating mostly low calorie/kilojoule foods, and having several mealtimes, well spaced apart, so you never get hungry!. We evolved over millions of years as hunter gatherers, doing that, rather than the farmers we became, during the last ten thousand, or so!. ~~~~~ Go to: h t t p : / / c h o o s e d i e t !. b l o g s p o t !. c o m (you should type it in the usual manner) and select one, possibly changing, later!. Eat 6 - 8 small meals, daily, with a little protein in each, preceded 20 minutes earlier with a large glass of water: this speeds up weight loss!. Snack on any amount of celery sticks, with the occasional carrot stick, and/or slices of cucumber, tomato, bell pepper/capsicum, or raw onion, in any vinegar (a little salt & pepper/chilli powder is OK, but no oil, or sugar! Rinse your mouth with water, later, if using vinegar!. Your body needs a small amount of [ preferably olive, grapeseed, or premium coconut* ] oil, daily, to be healthy: about 2 teaspoonsful, if not getting it in the rest of your food intake already)!. Understand and accept that many people use food in an attempt to fill an emotional void, which is unhealthy, and never works!. Others eat out of boredom, so have plenty of things to keep you occupied!. Sometimes I use http://www!.stumbleupon!.com/ or http://www!.coolsiteoftheday!.com/ EATING PLANS: See http://www!.foodaddiction!.org and http://www!.ediets!.com/ and http://www!.oa!.org/index!.htm and http://www!.obesitydiscussion!.com/ and http://www!.fatloss4idiots!.com EATING DISORDERS: http://emotionalhealth!.ivillage!.com/!.!.!. and http://www!.eating-disorder-research!.com/ and http://www!.webhealth!.com/wiki/eating_dis!.!.!. and http://www!.edreferral!.com and http://www!.something-fishy!.org/dangers/d!.!.!. and
http://www!.helpguide!.org/mental/eating_d!.!.!. and
http://www!.selfhelpmagazine!.com/articles!.!.!. and
http://www!.addictions!.net/ Call EDAP on (USA) 1-800-931-2237 (8am - noon, Pacific Time) & Eating Disorders Center: USA 1-888-236-1188!. More at: http://www!.coolnurse!.com/hotlines!.htm EATING DISORDERS (this from http://www!.pamf!.org/)
847-831-3438 (USA)
National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders
Hotline, Counseling and Referrals
(go to http://www!.pamf/!.org for direct links to these)
Overeaters Anonymous
Find a local group!.
(direct link at http://www!.pamf!.org/)
Weight Watchers
Find a local group!.
(direct link at http://www!.pamf!.org/)
National Eating Disorders Association
Information on eating disorders and referrals for treatment!.
Also view hypnotism for weight loss (if fairly suggestible) at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris on page 60!. Put: "nutritional type" in the taskbar, at * http://www!.mercola!.com/ and enter: find out what yours is, and build an eating plan around it for the future: include considerable variety, so that you never get bored with it!. ~~~ It is important that you consult a doctor: worry may have caused an ulcer to develop, which only requires antibiotics!. Visit your school counselor!. ~~~ See stress treatments, at ezy build, below in section 42!. A certain level of stress is unavoidable, in modern society, so it is a good idea to develop effective coping methods!. For others, or yourself: A massage (at least neck and shoulders) with jasmine, lavender, and/or juniper essential oils added to the massage oil, and to a warm bath, preferably beforehand, to help make any tension knots and muscles more pliant (they may only want, say, a juniper & sandalwood mix: check first)!. See if they will do long, stretching yoga exercises, or t'ai chi with you (see section 2, at ezy build, below)!. Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 - 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time!. Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o refer!. "Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself"!.
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!.
You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, or just focus awareness on how each step feels, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the task at hand!. Yoga, or T'ai Chi may suit others, better, or use them all!. For some people, it helps to visualise of a quiet, relaxing scene, (Imagine, as vividly as you can, that you are on a tropical beach, reclining comfortably; you luxuriate, as the the sun warms you, and a gentle breeze caresses your skin lightly, inhaling the tangy, sea scented, salt laden spray from the sparkling, translucent, aqua waves, crashing on the white, coral beach sand, and feeling the hot sand slip through your fingers in one hand, sipping your favorite drink with the other; all the while, the seagulls call, swoop and cavort playfully overhead in a cloudless, azure sky: you feel just like one of them, free to soar and cartwheel, or just glide in the moist, heavy air, and that this moment will last forever !.!.!. )!. Some people may find it helps when they listen to: http://www!.amazon!.com/Sounds-Of-The-Ocea!.!.!. Other suggestions: http://www!.secretsofmeditation!.com/demo!.!.!.!.
and the audio, as well as the printed version, at: http://www!.lessons4living!.com/relaxation!.!.!. and http://www!.amazon!.com/Ambient-Rain-Sound!.!.!. or the mountain river sounds!. Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, replacing 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements, or a teaspoonful of the oil (I spread mine on toast, and mask its strong taste with fishpaste, and pepper), in the winter months only!. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve!. Eat healthily, in accordance with your "nutritional type" as determined at http://www!.mercola!.com/ SEARCHBAR!.
Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!. C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk!.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes", which later deplete you of energy!. Minimise/eliminate consumption of highly processed foods, particularly grain products, such as white bread, donuts, cake, cookies/biscuits, or anything with sugar!. Opt for more wholefoods, non-starchy vegetables, and fruit!. http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shanerisWww@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.helpguide!.org/mental/eating_d!.!.!. and
http://www!.selfhelpmagazine!.com/articles!.!.!. and
http://www!.addictions!.net/ Call EDAP on (USA) 1-800-931-2237 (8am - noon, Pacific Time) & Eating Disorders Center: USA 1-888-236-1188!. More at: http://www!.coolnurse!.com/hotlines!.htm EATING DISORDERS (this from http://www!.pamf!.org/)
847-831-3438 (USA)
National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders
Hotline, Counseling and Referrals
(go to http://www!.pamf/!.org for direct links to these)
Overeaters Anonymous
Find a local group!.
(direct link at http://www!.pamf!.org/)
Weight Watchers
Find a local group!.
(direct link at http://www!.pamf!.org/)
National Eating Disorders Association
Information on eating disorders and referrals for treatment!.
Also view hypnotism for weight loss (if fairly suggestible) at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris on page 60!. Put: "nutritional type" in the taskbar, at * http://www!.mercola!.com/ and enter: find out what yours is, and build an eating plan around it for the future: include considerable variety, so that you never get bored with it!. ~~~ It is important that you consult a doctor: worry may have caused an ulcer to develop, which only requires antibiotics!. Visit your school counselor!. ~~~ See stress treatments, at ezy build, below in section 42!. A certain level of stress is unavoidable, in modern society, so it is a good idea to develop effective coping methods!. For others, or yourself: A massage (at least neck and shoulders) with jasmine, lavender, and/or juniper essential oils added to the massage oil, and to a warm bath, preferably beforehand, to help make any tension knots and muscles more pliant (they may only want, say, a juniper & sandalwood mix: check first)!. See if they will do long, stretching yoga exercises, or t'ai chi with you (see section 2, at ezy build, below)!. Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 - 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time!. Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o refer!. "Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself"!.
(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.
Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!.
You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, or just focus awareness on how each step feels, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the task at hand!. Yoga, or T'ai Chi may suit others, better, or use them all!. For some people, it helps to visualise of a quiet, relaxing scene, (Imagine, as vividly as you can, that you are on a tropical beach, reclining comfortably; you luxuriate, as the the sun warms you, and a gentle breeze caresses your skin lightly, inhaling the tangy, sea scented, salt laden spray from the sparkling, translucent, aqua waves, crashing on the white, coral beach sand, and feeling the hot sand slip through your fingers in one hand, sipping your favorite drink with the other; all the while, the seagulls call, swoop and cavort playfully overhead in a cloudless, azure sky: you feel just like one of them, free to soar and cartwheel, or just glide in the moist, heavy air, and that this moment will last forever !.!.!. )!. Some people may find it helps when they listen to: http://www!.amazon!.com/Sounds-Of-The-Ocea!.!.!. Other suggestions: http://www!.secretsofmeditation!.com/demo!.!.!.!.
and the audio, as well as the printed version, at: http://www!.lessons4living!.com/relaxation!.!.!. and http://www!.amazon!.com/Ambient-Rain-Sound!.!.!. or the mountain river sounds!. Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, replacing 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements, or a teaspoonful of the oil (I spread mine on toast, and mask its strong taste with fishpaste, and pepper), in the winter months only!. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve!. Eat healthily, in accordance with your "nutritional type" as determined at http://www!.mercola!.com/ SEARCHBAR!.
Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!. C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk!.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes", which later deplete you of energy!. Minimise/eliminate consumption of highly processed foods, particularly grain products, such as white bread, donuts, cake, cookies/biscuits, or anything with sugar!. Opt for more wholefoods, non-starchy vegetables, and fruit!. http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shanerisWww@Answer-Health@Com
You are right at that age where your hormones are just going crazy!. You are trying to figure out who you are, its a very confusing time in life and everything seems so dramatic!. You are probably talking yourself into being sick!. Try to de-stress!. Try taking up yoga or pilates and just go one day at a time!. Dont sweat the small stuff, trust me!. One day you will look back on this time, and be like omg, I thought the world was going to collapse in on me, I was so silly! Good luck, and just have fun being 16!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hey
We have all been there!. You are not alone as much as you may think!. As you get older you'll find out that many of your friends have gone through similar experiences!. They either haven't opened up about it (like you) or they are just good at hiding what is really going on inside!.
The pain in your stomach bothers me a bit!. I don't know if you are sexually active but if you are female then it could be anything from a tubal pregnancy (serious condition) to a cyst(not so serious)!. A pregnancy could also explain the mood swings!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
We have all been there!. You are not alone as much as you may think!. As you get older you'll find out that many of your friends have gone through similar experiences!. They either haven't opened up about it (like you) or they are just good at hiding what is really going on inside!.
The pain in your stomach bothers me a bit!. I don't know if you are sexually active but if you are female then it could be anything from a tubal pregnancy (serious condition) to a cyst(not so serious)!. A pregnancy could also explain the mood swings!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The help I can give you is advice!. There is no easy answer for this!. You need to talk to your mother or father!. If you can't talk to them talk to a school counselor!. You have so much going on that you need professional help!.
I understand how frightened you are about what it could be but would it not be better to know what it is and move forward from there!. I hope this helps you!.
Please get some help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I understand how frightened you are about what it could be but would it not be better to know what it is and move forward from there!. I hope this helps you!.
Please get some help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hey its okay , i understand life can be horribel and terrifing and when it gets the scraryist we don't want to tell
any one but you need to tell some adult or a well educated freind!.
maby u should go to ur science techer andask him or her
u could say ur freind wanted u to ask 4 them
then go 4rm thereWww@Answer-Health@Com
any one but you need to tell some adult or a well educated freind!.
maby u should go to ur science techer andask him or her
u could say ur freind wanted u to ask 4 them
then go 4rm thereWww@Answer-Health@Com
hormonesWww@Answer-Health@Com