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Going to a counselor today? I'm REALLY nervous?!


Question: Going to a counselor today!? I'm REALLY nervous!?
Okay, so I'm going to a counselor today because my mom said everyone needs a counselor so they don't become messed up!. It's also because of my dad and i'm afraid his actions will really affect me!.
Well, mom told me they're going to ask what brings you to them!. I'm there because of what I said above, but i'm afraid that will sound stupid!. I dunno, like I'm wasting her time!.
I'm also REALLY nervous!. Help!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Your mom is right!.!.!.sometimes we do need a bit of help in figuring out what's going on!. Having attended numerous sessions myself, all I can suggest is that you keep in mind this is for you and not anybody else!. Try to approach your first meeting with an open mind!.!.!.yeah, it can seem pretty scary the first time but never think that you're wasting somebody's time!. Your needs and difficulties are just as real as anybody else's and you deserve to get the right assistance!.!.!.to help you!. One other thing!.!.!.it's advisable to ensure that what you tell this counselor is kept strictly confidential!. It's not going be of much benefit if everything you say is then relayed to your parents!. Tell her that you need to know that you can be honest with her but that's impossible if she's going to be letting your mother know everything you say!. Unless one of your parents are in there with you, your sessions are only for you!. And use your intuition when you are with the counselor!.!.!.you'll likely know in the first few minutes if you can trust them!. If the session brings up items that are extremely uncomfortable, let them know that you don't want to talk about that issue right now!. These sessions are for you!.!. to help you and are just a different form of learning!. It sometimes takes a person not involved in a situation to see it clearly and that is their job!. For your first session, maybe try to think of one issue that you'd like to discuss or have explained to you before you arrive there!.!.!.and don't be shy to ask them questions, even if it's just to see if their experience will be able to help you!. Everybody is nervous about attempting something new and it is a very wise person who realizes that sometimes we need a bit of extra assistance to help us on our journey!. For me, the biggest insight that I got from my own sessions was that I had no control over the actions of others!. All I can do is change my view of this person or situation so it doesn't bother me as much!. This likely didn't help much!.!.!.I just wanted you to know that I have gone through the nervousness you're feeling right now and it will pass!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Megan,
this doesn't sound so much like a question but more like you need support!.
Whatever you want to talk about to your counsellor you can!. It isnt true though that everyone needs a counsellor, it is usually if you have issues are going through or have gone through or you are troubled or worried about something!. When you say your dad's actions - sounds like they are affecting you already - so that is obviously something you can talk about!.
good luck!. remember they are there to help you and the nervyness you are experiencing is only because this is a new experience for you and it will pass!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hi, I'm a counselor!. Counseling isn't scary!. Its like having a conversation with someone who really listens to you and helps you figure things out!.

If you're that nervous, then just print out this post and bring it with you and hand it to the counselor to read as a way of getting started!. Tell her/him that another counselor told you to do it!. ;-)

Most people like counseling, you probably will, too!. Oh, and it sounds like you have a neat mom!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I have been in long-term counseling and find it quite beneficial!. Of course you're nervous, the prospect of talking with a stranger about personal issues is a little difficult at first, but they're there to help with problems, not to judge you!.
And they are bound by confidentiality laws, whatever you tell them, it is just between you and him/her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

hi, i am a mental health professional, and one of the most important things for us is to make our clients comfortable enough to talk to us!. we also have a strict code of confidentiality!. we also really believe that people have a right to feel the way they do, and nobody has the right to brand anybody's feelings 'stupid' or otherwise!. and about wasting time- aren't we paid for listening to people's problems and helping them to figure things out!?
so, don't worry, just take things as they come, and i am really sure u will be helped!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Relax!. While I don't agree with your mom that everyone needs a counselor, explain the situation with your father and tell her your fears!. It's her job to understand!. Be yourself, and she can do the most good for you!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

well I do not know what happened with your dad!.But if you don't feel effected by ''dad'' then just tell your counselor that you are being made to come for your mom is over protective of her daughter!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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