I'm depressed, I swore at my lover, now what?!
Question: I'm depressed, I swore at my lover, now what!?
Please don't tell me to go the psychiatrist!. I'm asking here obviously because I CAN'T go there!.
My lover and I just can't get ourselves to discuss things slowly!. We were doing fine for 2 years, but things started getting worse!. I'm depressed and he wants to help me by listening to me talk about my feelings but at some point he gets really pissed at some of the things I say (it's not offensive, just really depressing) and gets angry at me and makes me even more depressed and suicidal!. So I stop sharing my feelings with him, but he gets angry at that too!.
It may seem like an immature thing to you, but to me it's a big thing, and we're going to be separated for a year or more soon!. I really want to make our relationship better before we leave!. What is it that I can do!? I'm depressed and my brain is messed up, I really can't think, it makes me cry!.
Please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My lover and I just can't get ourselves to discuss things slowly!. We were doing fine for 2 years, but things started getting worse!. I'm depressed and he wants to help me by listening to me talk about my feelings but at some point he gets really pissed at some of the things I say (it's not offensive, just really depressing) and gets angry at me and makes me even more depressed and suicidal!. So I stop sharing my feelings with him, but he gets angry at that too!.
It may seem like an immature thing to you, but to me it's a big thing, and we're going to be separated for a year or more soon!. I really want to make our relationship better before we leave!. What is it that I can do!? I'm depressed and my brain is messed up, I really can't think, it makes me cry!.
Please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You need to help yourself before you can expect to have a relationship with someone else!. This is why it is said to be alone and happy with yourself and then you'll be happy with others also!.
You won't go to a psychiatrist, so I suggest you do something drastic! You should be alone for awhile! Maybe your codependancy with someone else is preventing you from understanding why you are so depressed!.
You should be alone for at least 6 months to a year without any thoughts of being attached!. Find what makes you happy!. Enjoy the time of self-discovery! Hopefully, your lover will be patient and wait for you!. If not, your lover was not meant for you!.
I know you won't want to do this and you probably won't, but I really think, from my heart, it would help you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You won't go to a psychiatrist, so I suggest you do something drastic! You should be alone for awhile! Maybe your codependancy with someone else is preventing you from understanding why you are so depressed!.
You should be alone for at least 6 months to a year without any thoughts of being attached!. Find what makes you happy!. Enjoy the time of self-discovery! Hopefully, your lover will be patient and wait for you!. If not, your lover was not meant for you!.
I know you won't want to do this and you probably won't, but I really think, from my heart, it would help you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I feel you should start doing Yoga !. Helps you to relax !.
Its not easy to fight the situation you are in , but with will power you should manage the situation !. Check some of the resources in Yoga that I have compiled - http://yogatrance!.blogspot!.com/search/la!.!.!.
You need to ligthen up a bit and talk to him about what you feel!.!.!. Hope things get better with you soonWww@Answer-Health@Com
Its not easy to fight the situation you are in , but with will power you should manage the situation !. Check some of the resources in Yoga that I have compiled - http://yogatrance!.blogspot!.com/search/la!.!.!.
You need to ligthen up a bit and talk to him about what you feel!.!.!. Hope things get better with you soonWww@Answer-Health@Com
Its sad but seems that you might just have to move on!.!.!.!. but that would be so very wrong of me to tell you that as in its really not my place!.!. so i wont tell you to move on and find another man, instead ill say something like!.!.!.!.!. " Hey cheer up girl everything will be A - OK as long as the sun still shines right!?!!?! Yayyyyyyy for sunny days and !.!.!.!.!. picnics!!! Hurray for picnics!!!!!"Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. Makeup sex
2!. couseling to actually help talk to each other!.
3!. always remember that without good communication in yrou relationship, your doomed to breakup
ps - if you are always feeling depressed you may actually need meds to help youWww@Answer-Health@Com
2!. couseling to actually help talk to each other!.
3!. always remember that without good communication in yrou relationship, your doomed to breakup
ps - if you are always feeling depressed you may actually need meds to help youWww@Answer-Health@Com
just say im really sorry and i love you so much and thanks all you can do without risking anything
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ur story same as me again lol!. I felt same way my ex 2ys were so depressing girl which is normal in love i guess but after 2yrs I had it enough and broken up now feel no depression muchWww@Answer-Health@Com
dump him, lifes toughWww@Answer-Health@Com
well, I think it is a good idea to talk to him about problems because since you say you can't go to a psychiatrist, you need an out lit!. You should continue to share your feelings but make sure you arent being to overbearing because some people cant understand!. Some people have this "why cant you just get better!?" attitude that is annoying to them and to you!. I would have a conversation with him about how you are feeling about sharing feelings and ask him what he feels about you being depressed!. I know it is touch but hang in there, also I hope that you will be able to find someone to talk to!. seriously, seeing a therapist changed my life for the better and made me realize that death wasnt the answer and that I am not crazy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com