Bullying in school?!
Question: Bullying in school!?
I have been doing research on kids who get picked on in school!. I am now 23, and I got picked on a little (but not enought to emotionally scar me) I have a huge problem with kids who are mean and parents who tolerate it!. My heart goes out to kids who are made to feel worthless everyday and hate going to school!. My ex bf had a bad experience with this, when he was 5 he bit into Xmas lights, and half his face blew off!. He went through 15 years of recostructive surgery, but he was tourtured in the meantime!. If you have a similar experience with this, weather you were the victim or the bully!.!.!. or parents of either, share your story with me!. I want to know some ideas of things we can do to get this under control, b/c the school shootings/suicides are getting to be too much!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
It is a major issue!. Boys and girls alike are guilty as I'm sure you know!.
A bullying story from my four year old:
He was being picked on at his day care because he is an introvert!. He likes to play with other kids and stuff but he is rather sensative and shy a lot of times!. So he kept coming home upset and being 4 not always able to fully communicate to us what was wrong!. It troubled us as you can imagine!. Well one day his mom happened to see one boy picking on him to the point where the boy destroyed a project he was very proud of, still upsets me, and reported that!.
Well that just seemed to escalate this issue to some boys taking all his clothes when he went to change after karate class!. He came out in the hallway in his underwear crying!.
So, we sat him down that weekend and told him that it's not okay for other people to be mean to him!. That he has to stand up for himself!. We taught him to say things like, "Dont do that to me!." and other phrases I honestly forget!. But taught him to say it loud and firm!. We practiced it with him and he got it down rather well!.
So, he does to school Monday!. His best friend pushed him down by pushing him on his forehead!. My son doesn't say anything but stood up and punched him square in the face and made his nose bleed all other the place!.
Fortunately, the kid is fine and of course being kids they are still good friends!. But I can tell you that NO ONE messes with him now!.
So, I asked the day care director and said why in the world does that make such a difference!. She told me that it is really like a pecking order at that age especially!. Like who can dominate and intimidate the most!. He intimidated all the boys there that day and now rarely gets picked on!.
I'm not saying voilence is the answer but a firm standing up for oneself by whatever means needed does change perception and the attitude that others deal with you!.
Unfortunately for bullying, it has been my exeperience that the only way to make it stop border on violence if not violence itself!.
I have researched it and it seems that kids that bully are truly insecure about themselves and find that bullying masks that empty feeling!. They most likely have a parent that is either violent in the home or overly controlling!. So they are basically taught the action!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A bullying story from my four year old:
He was being picked on at his day care because he is an introvert!. He likes to play with other kids and stuff but he is rather sensative and shy a lot of times!. So he kept coming home upset and being 4 not always able to fully communicate to us what was wrong!. It troubled us as you can imagine!. Well one day his mom happened to see one boy picking on him to the point where the boy destroyed a project he was very proud of, still upsets me, and reported that!.
Well that just seemed to escalate this issue to some boys taking all his clothes when he went to change after karate class!. He came out in the hallway in his underwear crying!.
So, we sat him down that weekend and told him that it's not okay for other people to be mean to him!. That he has to stand up for himself!. We taught him to say things like, "Dont do that to me!." and other phrases I honestly forget!. But taught him to say it loud and firm!. We practiced it with him and he got it down rather well!.
So, he does to school Monday!. His best friend pushed him down by pushing him on his forehead!. My son doesn't say anything but stood up and punched him square in the face and made his nose bleed all other the place!.
Fortunately, the kid is fine and of course being kids they are still good friends!. But I can tell you that NO ONE messes with him now!.
So, I asked the day care director and said why in the world does that make such a difference!. She told me that it is really like a pecking order at that age especially!. Like who can dominate and intimidate the most!. He intimidated all the boys there that day and now rarely gets picked on!.
I'm not saying voilence is the answer but a firm standing up for oneself by whatever means needed does change perception and the attitude that others deal with you!.
Unfortunately for bullying, it has been my exeperience that the only way to make it stop border on violence if not violence itself!.
I have researched it and it seems that kids that bully are truly insecure about themselves and find that bullying masks that empty feeling!. They most likely have a parent that is either violent in the home or overly controlling!. So they are basically taught the action!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is a huge problem, and the only reason other people bully others, is to make themselves feel more important and high and mighty!. I think education in high school about bullying and the effects it has on students might help some, maybe people will realize what they are doing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's true that such acts can be avoided with some related teachings in school!.But we should not forget that childrens spend equally same time even at home !.So, it is the responsibility of the parents too to make sure that their children behave well with their counterparts!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
we as adults need to listen to our children!.we need to look at the internet to see what they are looking at!. we need to keep a close eye on their types of friends!.and always make sure that there is no guns lying around the house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i too am deeply concerned about this issue!. i think educating kids and supervision will help!. but i dont really have a solution to this problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My son is a mellow little kid who loves animals and loves helping others!.well at school because od this he was getting picked on and got hit' punched tripped!.I wanted to go to school and tell those bulls i would kick their @sses but that wasn't the answer either!.My son started fighting back as it got so bad!.Now when someone picks on him he;ll ignore it and if the hit him' he'll hit them back!.It makes me mad as i was at the school telling the teachers and the principle about the bulling' and it was always' we;ll talk to them!.My son now is in the office a lot with the bullys for sticking up for himself!.I think they need to have playground teachers ' more than 1 for the whole playground' and counseling for the abused and for the abusers !.!.I am sorry about your boyfriend' and he sounds like a great guy and is lucky to you by his side!.Www@Answer-Health@Com