Do you ever get over flash backs of your childhood?!
Question: Do you ever get over flash backs of your childhood!?
I was abused as a child and really thought I had dealt with it!.!.!.but I spent the weekend at my parents home!.!.!.and had a very nasty nitemare the first nite!.!.!.my B/F was with me so I knew it was just a dream!.!.!.stayed the weekend but got to monday and wow!.!.!.it came out bad!.!.when I got back home!.!.to my house !.!.!.!.I did not tell my B/F of the abuse as we are new to each other but it freaked him out too!.!.!.!.does it ever stop!.!.!.!.!.!.I am 46!.!.!.and have worked so hard these last few yrs to deal with being sexually abused and even really tried to forgive my dad!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I'm not sure if you can ever really get over it!. I myself, when going to my mother's house (one I grew up in) have very strange vivid dreams when I spend the night there!. Some of them are nightmares, other are just strange, and they all take place in the past or with issues I have had in the past!.
My dad abused me and my brother killed himself in the backyard of the house while I was home sleeping!. My dreams would usually revolve around one of them!.
I think this is because of being in the same house and your subconscious is trying to work through your memories and pain!. It comes out in dreams and nightmares, as we can escape our conscious minds during the day!.
As hard as we victims of abuse strive to get through the pain and hurt and damage it causes us, I think triggers of memories that happen the way you described can make it seem harder!.
I don't know if you ever have forgiven your father or if he is still alive!. Sometimes the forgiveness helps us to gain more control over our minds and make it easier to deal and work through the issues we have from it!.
I forgave my father on his death bed!. I told him that I was forgiving him for the sake of getting on with my life, but would never forget what he did to me and that I believe the afterlife will deal with him accordingly!. The main thing that helps me is that my daughters have never had to be in a situation around him where I would ever have to worry about them since he died when my oldest was 16 months!. I am thankful for that every day!.
It is extremely hard to get through and past and just know that you are not alone!. (((BIG HUGS!!!!))))Www@Answer-Health@Com
My dad abused me and my brother killed himself in the backyard of the house while I was home sleeping!. My dreams would usually revolve around one of them!.
I think this is because of being in the same house and your subconscious is trying to work through your memories and pain!. It comes out in dreams and nightmares, as we can escape our conscious minds during the day!.
As hard as we victims of abuse strive to get through the pain and hurt and damage it causes us, I think triggers of memories that happen the way you described can make it seem harder!.
I don't know if you ever have forgiven your father or if he is still alive!. Sometimes the forgiveness helps us to gain more control over our minds and make it easier to deal and work through the issues we have from it!.
I forgave my father on his death bed!. I told him that I was forgiving him for the sake of getting on with my life, but would never forget what he did to me and that I believe the afterlife will deal with him accordingly!. The main thing that helps me is that my daughters have never had to be in a situation around him where I would ever have to worry about them since he died when my oldest was 16 months!. I am thankful for that every day!.
It is extremely hard to get through and past and just know that you are not alone!. (((BIG HUGS!!!!))))Www@Answer-Health@Com
No but I saw a great workbook for working through your feelings at Borders when I bought myself a book there!. I wonder what you did to deal/work through the pain he caused you!?
You may be able to forgive your dad, but you won't be able to fully heal unless you cope with what happened with some trained counselors/psychologists!. Really sorry about what happened to you, and though it was many years ago, it wasn't right!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may be able to forgive your dad, but you won't be able to fully heal unless you cope with what happened with some trained counselors/psychologists!. Really sorry about what happened to you, and though it was many years ago, it wasn't right!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i am 41 and still am dealing with issues regarding the abuse,it takes time for us to be able to process what happened and get rid of the guilt which it caused!.it is okay if you do not want to share with your boyfriend and you do not have to,only do it when you feel comfortable!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Very sad to know that!. Why don't you ask for a professional help!. I believe somethings can be resolved only by a professional intervention!.
It is not easy to deal with such a pain all by yourself!. I hope everything works for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is not easy to deal with such a pain all by yourself!. I hope everything works for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I sometimes get flashbacks but I try to think of the good times anyway!. Aloha!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Never,,,,,,,,,,,,but it is a part of what and who you are today!. What does not kill you makes you stronger, and nothing will come your way that you can not handle!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.and forgiveness is a word that many use carelessly, and in reality is very had to put to work!. Just think about it in a different way, you are not that child any more, you are a woman with a very good life and personality, and face your anger and make sure that you say it out loud to him when every you see him again and make him face you when you do,,,,,,incredible but true that when he looks into your eyes,,,,,,,you will finally see him for what he really is wick and small,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
The forgiveness needs to be spread around a little!. Forgive your Mom if you suspect she knew and did not stop it (you don't know whether she knew or just suspected; you don't know what would have happened to her if she had confronted him), yourself for "permitting it" (or for some kids, even liking it; fathers are good at making it sound like he's just being nice, making you feel good !. !. !. and leaving out the part about how he's distorting your whole concept of childhood and sexuality and family and trust), and maybe others you suspect (or know for a fact) knew and did nothing!. In some families, that might include people who joked about it, or thought it was "cute!."
Yes, you'll eventually get over the flashbacks per se, but don't expect to forget completely!. Having a very gentle and understanding lover or husband will go a long, long way toward letting the memories be replaced with good ones!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, you'll eventually get over the flashbacks per se, but don't expect to forget completely!. Having a very gentle and understanding lover or husband will go a long, long way toward letting the memories be replaced with good ones!.Www@Answer-Health@Com