Why was I, and still am more affected by parent verbal abuse than my other sibli!
Question: Why was I, and still am more affected by parent verbal abuse than my other siblings seem to be!?
Im the oldest of 7 and all grown up now!. Yet struggling to recover from ongoing verbal crazyness from my dad for all those years yet my siblings seem to have been less or non-affected by it even though they all admit that he's a whack job!. Obviously the reason i"m asking this is because I am pointed out by the same abuser that I am the "sensitive" one and it's "my" problom which further drives my poor mind insane!.!.!. now be kind guys!.!.!. its one of those days where i can't really take negitive comments!.!. thanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
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We all have our own way of dealing with things!. I have to stay I wish I had had half of your courage!. It takes a very strong person to face and deal with what you are going through!. It seems to me that your siblings have created a defense mechanism to suppress it!. Be strong and work your way through it because if you don't do it now it will only come back to haunt you!. Good luck I know it can be hard!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This is absolutely normal!. The physical, mental and spiritual makeup of every single human is unique!. The thing that upsets you will just be "one of those things" to someone else!. We are different and our thought patterns are different!. The ones who have these problems most often need help to overcome the anxiety from their youth!.
I suggest you know who the person is before you see them because some psychologist and therapists are not ethical and cause more harm than they help you to overcome!. Get a recommendation from someone you trust!. Some clergy are capable of counseling you, some aren't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I suggest you know who the person is before you see them because some psychologist and therapists are not ethical and cause more harm than they help you to overcome!. Get a recommendation from someone you trust!. Some clergy are capable of counseling you, some aren't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You and your siblings are handling your father's abuse in different ways!. A lot of people tend to keep their feeling deep inside themselves and don't really understand that they are even hurting!. This is something that you are going to have to deal with to heal yourself!. I think you may need to get professional help and talk to someone who can help you overcome this!. Also I think you should remove yourself from the problem, your father!. It sounds like he is still abusing you!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's because you're the oldest!.!.!.you remember more than your younger siblings!. I remember a lot more than my younger brother does, and I am also very sensitive!.!.!.he is carefree!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off, I would like to point out that it is not ''your problem''!. It's a problem brought on by your father!. Yes, you may be a little more sensitive than your siblings!. But, you are the eldest and you might remember more or got more of the verbal abuse!. As I see it and you said, your father is a whack job and what he is saying is ''whack''!. Don't take it to heart!. I know it is hard, but just try to remind yourself that everything he says is idiotic!. Also, if you wish to keep a relationship with your father, I wouldn't bring it on a personal level, or you might get hurt!. Maybe just keep it on a ''hi, how are you'' level!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
We are each different!. All people experience the same things differently!. You may be the "sensitive one," but there's nothing wrong with that!. The problem is your dad!. If you are sensitive, then he should show you greater sensitivity or else he is being abusive!. End of story!.
Why are you more sensitive!? You'd have to go to therapy to find out, but it has to do with early childhood when your brain was in effect being trained by your parents!. For instance, if when you were very little your dad threatened to leave you if you misbehave, you might have an unconscious fear that his verbal abuse will lead to him disowning you!.
But, remember, it is no way your problem!. It is his problem, but unfortunately one you have to deal with!. You might tell him that the next time he verbally abuses you, you won't do something that he wants you to do!. You might, in this way, try to retrain him!. If the abuse is really bad, see less of him!. It's his problem, not yours!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why are you more sensitive!? You'd have to go to therapy to find out, but it has to do with early childhood when your brain was in effect being trained by your parents!. For instance, if when you were very little your dad threatened to leave you if you misbehave, you might have an unconscious fear that his verbal abuse will lead to him disowning you!.
But, remember, it is no way your problem!. It is his problem, but unfortunately one you have to deal with!. You might tell him that the next time he verbally abuses you, you won't do something that he wants you to do!. You might, in this way, try to retrain him!. If the abuse is really bad, see less of him!. It's his problem, not yours!.Www@Answer-Health@Com