Will it never end?!
Question: Will it never end!?
I have a few serious problems in my life!. I'm an 18 old guy (from Belgium, but that doesn't matter) and I'm going through difficult times!. There are four things that are torturing me and stopping me from ever being happy!.
The first thing is my computer addiction: I started gaming when I was six years old, and realised that I had a serious problem just a few months ago!. When I'm home alone there is only one thing I can do: turn on the computer and play games/surf the web!. I don't do my homework (even though I know I should) and sometimes I just sit there looking at the screen, doing nothing!.!.!.I don't even like playing games anymore, but I just HAVE TO!.
The second problem is that I probably suffer from social anxiety!. I am afraid of talking to people because I think they are going to label me as a freak!. Even going to the grocery store feels like an "epic mission" to me!.!.!.(pathetic, I know)
Thirdly, I feel very lonely these days!. I feel like I need some love and affection!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The first thing is my computer addiction: I started gaming when I was six years old, and realised that I had a serious problem just a few months ago!. When I'm home alone there is only one thing I can do: turn on the computer and play games/surf the web!. I don't do my homework (even though I know I should) and sometimes I just sit there looking at the screen, doing nothing!.!.!.I don't even like playing games anymore, but I just HAVE TO!.
The second problem is that I probably suffer from social anxiety!. I am afraid of talking to people because I think they are going to label me as a freak!. Even going to the grocery store feels like an "epic mission" to me!.!.!.(pathetic, I know)
Thirdly, I feel very lonely these days!. I feel like I need some love and affection!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
If you need a friend that's a girl i am here for you, that's all you need
The best thing i could say to you is to BE FREE that you be you,it doesn't matter what other people think!.!. its what you think about yourself and from the sound of things you don't think very highly of yourself!.!. you need a chick to give you that confidence and i will do that if you want me to just drop a line :)
Always, TarynWww@Answer-Health@Com
The best thing i could say to you is to BE FREE that you be you,it doesn't matter what other people think!.!. its what you think about yourself and from the sound of things you don't think very highly of yourself!.!. you need a chick to give you that confidence and i will do that if you want me to just drop a line :)
Always, TarynWww@Answer-Health@Com
Yeah!.!.!. i relate!. they best thing to do is be put on a medicaton called klonopin!.!. it relaxes your central nervous system, making it easier to deal with other people, infact makes it enjoyable!. My problem is that, i abuse them and when i run out of pills early i am afraid to deal with people again, and stay online or watch tv with all of my time!.!. my suggestion to you is medicaton!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your treatment should be threefold: Medication, Life-style change, Therapy!. See a doctor right away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, I know how you feel!.!.!.Are you Flemish or you speak French!? I truly know what you mean and I know, life's a ***** sometimes!.!.!.I'm 15 and have same problems :(, hey but you have to cheer up ok!.!.!. Go outside and don't care what people think of you!.!.!.as long as you're ok your're fine!.!.!.hey, why don't you just make friends like I do!? You have to SEARCH for these people, and you don't exaclty have to behave like others want you to behave, just do what seems fun to you, you just have to give people time to accept you and get to know you!.!.I think I understand how you feel, you're probably Flemish!.!.I went to that region and I know some kids out there are rude, so just relax ok , I'm sure things will turn out for you ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Except who you are!.
You sound as if you have yet to do this!.
Don't like playing games anymore, get rid of the computer, take it somewhere for a while!. Learn to deal without it!. Soon you wont even miss it!.!.!.!.!.then get it back and control yourself!. While the computer is gone work on your addictive personality!.
As for the social part, learn to say "I do not care if people like me", say it over and over again until it gets into your brain!.
Many people are anti social, so what!. You can still learn to like yourself and your quirks!.
Food shopping, heck I have not been food shopping in years by myself!. So what, this is who I am and my family likes coming and picking out what they like to eat!. I found out many moons ago there is just way to much to choose from and I get frustrated!. I get to stimulated!. One of my sons who will come with us will actually start lining up products on the shelf and straitening up the store when he is over stimulated (you should see the expression on peoples faces!! I tell him thank you that was driving me crazy!! He will just grin, pull on his ears for we except who he is)!.
The lonely part everyone feels!. A person can feel lonely in a crowed of people!.
Please learn to except and love yourself!. If you have people around you who put you down call you names etc!.!. get away from these people, they are not healthy for you to be around (I left home at 16!. Sometimes you just have to save yourself!.)!. Parents or other family or just "friends" if they are not healthy for you get away!.
Wish you well my friend!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound as if you have yet to do this!.
Don't like playing games anymore, get rid of the computer, take it somewhere for a while!. Learn to deal without it!. Soon you wont even miss it!.!.!.!.!.then get it back and control yourself!. While the computer is gone work on your addictive personality!.
As for the social part, learn to say "I do not care if people like me", say it over and over again until it gets into your brain!.
Many people are anti social, so what!. You can still learn to like yourself and your quirks!.
Food shopping, heck I have not been food shopping in years by myself!. So what, this is who I am and my family likes coming and picking out what they like to eat!. I found out many moons ago there is just way to much to choose from and I get frustrated!. I get to stimulated!. One of my sons who will come with us will actually start lining up products on the shelf and straitening up the store when he is over stimulated (you should see the expression on peoples faces!! I tell him thank you that was driving me crazy!! He will just grin, pull on his ears for we except who he is)!.
The lonely part everyone feels!. A person can feel lonely in a crowed of people!.
Please learn to except and love yourself!. If you have people around you who put you down call you names etc!.!. get away from these people, they are not healthy for you to be around (I left home at 16!. Sometimes you just have to save yourself!.)!. Parents or other family or just "friends" if they are not healthy for you get away!.
Wish you well my friend!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Explain your dilema to your family doctor and ask for a referral to mental health counselling!. That way you will discover solutions to your problems and will be able to take the steps that will best help you!. You may benefit from medication once your issues have been diagnosed!. You are young and have a long and wonderful life ahead of you, if you want it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Boy oh boy!.!.!.it is a nasty little cycle isn't it!?
The more that you avoid, the more that your anxiety will increase and the more that you will turn to the gaming and whatnot to 'turn your brain off' and not interact with real life, which makes it worse!. The awesome thing is that you are realizing this, and wanting to make a change - that is the first and most important step!.
This isn't going to be an easy fix!. You've had a lot of traumas and exlusions going on!. As someone who felt apart from the pack and was heavily bullied and had low low LOW self esteem as a child/teen, I get it!.
So - where to start!. I'd suggest talking to your doctor about taking an anxiety drug - there are several choices and that may help a lot!. Second, you need therapy!. I know that you don't necessarily want that 'label' but this issue isn't going to be able to be self resolved!. You may even need to 'try out' a few therapists till you find someone you can feel comfortable with!. They can then teach you and work with you so that you can find ways to break this cycle and deal with your issues that are making you want to avoid life and work on that self esteem some!. :)
You'll have to trust me that as you get older you'll realize what a treasure being more 'geeky' is!. I totally rejoyce in my geekdom now that I'm 33!. You need to turn around and learn to love those things about yourself that set you different!.
Learn to love yourself, live in the now (not 'when I do this I'll be happy) and that going out makes going out easier - while staying in makes you feel better for the short term, in the long term it just adds to your anxiety!.
Hang in there hun!Www@Answer-Health@Com
The more that you avoid, the more that your anxiety will increase and the more that you will turn to the gaming and whatnot to 'turn your brain off' and not interact with real life, which makes it worse!. The awesome thing is that you are realizing this, and wanting to make a change - that is the first and most important step!.
This isn't going to be an easy fix!. You've had a lot of traumas and exlusions going on!. As someone who felt apart from the pack and was heavily bullied and had low low LOW self esteem as a child/teen, I get it!.
So - where to start!. I'd suggest talking to your doctor about taking an anxiety drug - there are several choices and that may help a lot!. Second, you need therapy!. I know that you don't necessarily want that 'label' but this issue isn't going to be able to be self resolved!. You may even need to 'try out' a few therapists till you find someone you can feel comfortable with!. They can then teach you and work with you so that you can find ways to break this cycle and deal with your issues that are making you want to avoid life and work on that self esteem some!. :)
You'll have to trust me that as you get older you'll realize what a treasure being more 'geeky' is!. I totally rejoyce in my geekdom now that I'm 33!. You need to turn around and learn to love those things about yourself that set you different!.
Learn to love yourself, live in the now (not 'when I do this I'll be happy) and that going out makes going out easier - while staying in makes you feel better for the short term, in the long term it just adds to your anxiety!.
Hang in there hun!Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think there are probably alot of people like you , you just don't see them, they stay at home too
maybe look on yahoo groups for people who are like you
join a club or even start one, maybe go to a social skills class to help you learn how to make friends, in that class you will meet other people with the same problem as you
you should do homework, if you want to have a good future, a good job and money to buy stuff
take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe look on yahoo groups for people who are like you
join a club or even start one, maybe go to a social skills class to help you learn how to make friends, in that class you will meet other people with the same problem as you
you should do homework, if you want to have a good future, a good job and money to buy stuff
take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hello,
You seem like an articulate, smart guy!. You were just having this normal phase which will end eventually!. But let me tell you that by verbalizing your problems, it means you are identifying that there are problems in your life and you are half way solving the problems!.
Judging by what you have written, you seem to be more mature than your peers!. And of course, people need some love at some point in their life!
I'd suggest you to get your acts together and do the following:
- Control your gaming habit!. Nobody can tell you when to play or not to play but YOURSELF!. So, minimize your gaming hours!. Make a schedule, start from small, maybe reduce 2 hours from the usual!. And you have to follow through your own schedule!. Otherwise, you'll go back to be the slave of video games :) -- and yeah, do that homework!. Just do it, finish it, never delay it!. It's just homework!. The sooner you do it, the freer you are :)
- Try a different activity in place of playing video games!. Join an online club for example, if you want!. Better yet, do some traveling!. It will change your point of view and you feel challenged with real stuff by visiting other places!.
- Select the people or social groups that make you feel comfortable!. It is the time now to choose!. You are a smart guy, you don't fall into those partying crowds -- it gets old real quickly!. You need to choose the circle of friends who share your interests!.
- Be patient!. Things don't go quickly, it's a process!. Be patient with yourself and with your friends!. It's a trial and error -- you will find bad friends before getting good ones!. The one important thing is that you can't make somebody your friend, the person needs to WANT to!. Just be patient and nice to people in general!.
- Learn to accept yourself!. You are a smart person!. You have so much to offer!. Girls will like you and you will find someone to share love and affection with!.
Hope it helps!
Good luck and take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You seem like an articulate, smart guy!. You were just having this normal phase which will end eventually!. But let me tell you that by verbalizing your problems, it means you are identifying that there are problems in your life and you are half way solving the problems!.
Judging by what you have written, you seem to be more mature than your peers!. And of course, people need some love at some point in their life!
I'd suggest you to get your acts together and do the following:
- Control your gaming habit!. Nobody can tell you when to play or not to play but YOURSELF!. So, minimize your gaming hours!. Make a schedule, start from small, maybe reduce 2 hours from the usual!. And you have to follow through your own schedule!. Otherwise, you'll go back to be the slave of video games :) -- and yeah, do that homework!. Just do it, finish it, never delay it!. It's just homework!. The sooner you do it, the freer you are :)
- Try a different activity in place of playing video games!. Join an online club for example, if you want!. Better yet, do some traveling!. It will change your point of view and you feel challenged with real stuff by visiting other places!.
- Select the people or social groups that make you feel comfortable!. It is the time now to choose!. You are a smart guy, you don't fall into those partying crowds -- it gets old real quickly!. You need to choose the circle of friends who share your interests!.
- Be patient!. Things don't go quickly, it's a process!. Be patient with yourself and with your friends!. It's a trial and error -- you will find bad friends before getting good ones!. The one important thing is that you can't make somebody your friend, the person needs to WANT to!. Just be patient and nice to people in general!.
- Learn to accept yourself!. You are a smart person!. You have so much to offer!. Girls will like you and you will find someone to share love and affection with!.
Hope it helps!
Good luck and take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com