I think I'm going to kill myself?!
Question: I think I'm going to kill myself!?
I'm 17 and I cut myself!. I have been cutting for 3 years!. Sometimes I want to cut deeper and deeper!. Or take a bottle of pills(I have before but not the whole bottle) I act happy and laugh around my friends and family!. People have no idea how sad I really am!. I was fooling around with my boyfriend & he saw a cut on my thigh!. He asked me what happened and I lied!. A few days later he saw a new cut on my thigh and started crying!. He said I need to stop & tell my dad!. If I don't he will tell!. I hate my dad!. We don't get along!. I'm scared to tell my mom!. I don't know what's going to happen!. What would you do if your daughter told you this!? I hate myself and sometimes I think I would be better off dead!. My boyfriend is the only person who has ever really loved me!. How do I tell!? I don't want to write it in a letter!. I need to tell them face to face!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Wow I'm sorry you're going threw such a hard time!. Your boyfriend loves you a lot!. He would be so sad if you killed yourself!. I know your scared right now!. It's good that you know you have a problem and need help!. That's the first step in the right direction!. Since you can't talk to your dad tell mom!. Sit her down and just tell her everything you just said here!. Ask your boyfriend to be with you!. If my daughter told me this I would hug her & hold her tight!. I would make sure she knew how much I love her!. I would he so glad she told me!. I'm going to tell you one of my secrets!. I used to cut!. Only my boyfriend and a few friends know that!. I know how hard it is stop and it is an addiction!. You need to tell someone so you can get help!. Don't worry about what mom thinks or your dad!. This is about you!. Please don't kill yourself!. It's not worth it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
killing yourself is never the solution! it may seem like it but what most people dont think about is once you do it!.!.!. you can never come back and they dont think about all the laughter they'll miss, all the people that will be hurt, and all the people they will never see again!. what would i do if my daughter told me!? i would try to help her as much as i can!.!.!. now what would you do if you got told that your daughter killed her self!? there is a solution to everything! and its NOT killing yourself!Www@Answer-Health@Com
It seems like your bf really cares about you, so when you think you would be better off dead, just think how sad he would be!. Besides, you're almost 18 and once you're 18 you don't have to see your dad at all!. If you aren't already I think you should see a counsellor/psychologist/psychiatrist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need help!. Nothing is worth killing your self over!. You're 17 so soon you will no longer live with your father!. Talk to your mother or your friends or your boyfriend or a therapist!. Call a suicide hotline!.!.!.!.you can find many at http://suicidehotlines!.com/ !.
You can get help and your life can improve!. Your life at 17 is nothing like what your adult life will be!. Get help!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can get help and your life can improve!. Your life at 17 is nothing like what your adult life will be!. Get help!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try to reach out!. It really seems like your social needs have been hurt deeply!. With your already shaky mental state, I'd be careful - the last thing you need is more pain from another person!. However, joy from another person is what you need most!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if you kill yourself you will hurt your boyfriend suicide is the most selfish thing you can do,take away a loved one!. all i can say is don't do it!. maybe talk to a counselor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Check in at a hospital asap! Get some help!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't understand cutting!. I understand depression and suicide leaves such a terrible mess, don't do it!. If you tell your parents, and you must, do it in a calm way and if they yell at you or ignore you don't take it to heart but get moving to get help elsewhere!. There are public mental health agencies in the phone book that will help you!. Don't put off doing this as you are seriously ill if you are suicidal and cutting!. Call 1-800-SUICIDE if you are serious about suicide ever!. Please don't ignore this and tell someone so as to get help!
Good luck in telling, good mental health, peace and Love!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck in telling, good mental health, peace and Love!Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you really think that it wouldnt be wise to tell your parents about this, you (accompanied by your bf) should go to a pschycologist or a consellor and talk about the cutting and things like that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was a good actor too!. Nobody could tell that I had depression because I kept up a happy face for them
I tried talking to my wife but got nothing but crap from her!. I wouldn't tell my brothers or sisters because our mom was in poor health and I didn't want her to worry about me!.
I'm lucky I had one good friend to help me till I got medical help and got it under control!.
Please don't kill yourself, if you have just one real good friend you will make it!. 17 is way too young to die, in fact that's the best age I can think of!. I'm 17 with 31 years experience!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I tried talking to my wife but got nothing but crap from her!. I wouldn't tell my brothers or sisters because our mom was in poor health and I didn't want her to worry about me!.
I'm lucky I had one good friend to help me till I got medical help and got it under control!.
Please don't kill yourself, if you have just one real good friend you will make it!. 17 is way too young to die, in fact that's the best age I can think of!. I'm 17 with 31 years experience!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
HI Hon, well we all have been there some ppl are just scared to say so!.!.but to tell u the truth ive been through it to babe!.!.i use to cut myself when i felt depressed or with family issues!.!.!. u kinda remind me of me!.!. alittle u say u hate ur dad!.!.(why is he the cause of u hurting so much deep down inside!.!. i know what im going to say is gonna sound like BS to u but its only the truth because i went through this already!.!.!. i use to say i hated my mom and she was the reason of me cutting my self becasue i felt as if she didnt love me and other things i went through the cousenling and all the other drama, but that didnt help it was really worthless the only thing that made me stop was to actutally get the fustration off of my chest with my mom and the way i felt like that with her i was 15 at the time and now im about to be 21 my mom and i have a very good relationship!.!.!. but a word of advice from my past experincies just talk to ur mom and dad abot how u feel u do not neccessarly have to tell them ur cutting urslef (even tho it will be good) but they wouldnt understande why at this moment just talk to them about ur problems and if things start to get better then tell them whats been going on with u !.!. GOod luck sweety (ur panrents do love u)Www@Answer-Health@Com
kay dont kill youself!.
Think about what it really is thats making you depressed and yes you have depression and its a disease and thats why your feeling this way you need medicine!.
Now cutting yourself dosent let out bad emotions and it also dosent take your mind of anything, all it is is a bad habit people do it because they think their cool dont fall for it its not going to help you you need to try and get a fresh start not beat yourself down more!
Your better then all of this so go see a doctor and stop cutting yourself if you hit this one vain in yur arm you die in 30 seconds and its just that you could have so many opportunities be whatever job!. if it gets really really bad then just start fresh move somewhere and forget yuor past but you definitly need a change so best of luck email me if you need anything and also people care about you more then you will ever know and if you kill yourself that would be the most selfesh thing in the world god gave you life as a gift and if you abuse it then you will put guilt on everyone you love your mother will stick by you through anything trust me ive had cancer and many near death expiriences you suck it up and find soemthing to get you through your day
Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Think about what it really is thats making you depressed and yes you have depression and its a disease and thats why your feeling this way you need medicine!.
Now cutting yourself dosent let out bad emotions and it also dosent take your mind of anything, all it is is a bad habit people do it because they think their cool dont fall for it its not going to help you you need to try and get a fresh start not beat yourself down more!
Your better then all of this so go see a doctor and stop cutting yourself if you hit this one vain in yur arm you die in 30 seconds and its just that you could have so many opportunities be whatever job!. if it gets really really bad then just start fresh move somewhere and forget yuor past but you definitly need a change so best of luck email me if you need anything and also people care about you more then you will ever know and if you kill yourself that would be the most selfesh thing in the world god gave you life as a gift and if you abuse it then you will put guilt on everyone you love your mother will stick by you through anything trust me ive had cancer and many near death expiriences you suck it up and find soemthing to get you through your day
Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may think your boyfriend is the only one that really loves you, but I think you are wrong!. Your parents have raised you from a little baby!. Of course they love you!. I can guarantee that your mom would want you to come to her before doing anything drastic!. Killing yourself will absolutely devastate her!. Please don't do this to yourself and your family!. You need professional help!. If you tell your mom you are cutting yourself and want help, no one is going to drag you away in a straight jacket!. People will care if you just let them!. Learn how to love yourself and give yourself a chance at life!. Things are tough at 17!. It's a confusing time in life!. Please, know that things can and will get better!. Just ask for help, give it time!. Your mom would want to know!. She will support you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
TAke a deep breathe! Secondly be thankful ur boyfriend care s about u , thirdly ask ur b/f if he will be next to as u try to tell ur mom about ur habits!.
Whetehr he says no or yes, u need to tell ur mom if u trust her!. On the other hand u could all use family counseling especialy u and ur dad!!!!!!!!!! Things will improve greatly if both these things are done!!!!. I thik the reason u cut is part of teh fact taht ur family relationship with ur dad is all screwed up and severly lacking in communication and misunderstandings!. Don't worry u can get help for this and u serioulsy need it!. Do it soon befor eu drive ur boyfriend away or before he tells ur mom/dad!!! U neeed to take action soon, u can do it!. If my daughter told me this i would be angry i didn't notice it or angry that i suspected soemthin but thought everything was cool!. But i wouldn't be angry at my daughter at all, i woudl feel so very greatful that tehy got teh nerve to tell me befor etehy suicided or was rushed to the hospital etc!. U can do this ao plz do so !!!!!!!!!!!!!
u r sooo better off being scared to open up than being rushed to teh hospital or worse!. If u can't tell her, then tell ur doc !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.!.!.
Also maybe u should lay off the fooling around cuz it wouold eb a horrible idea to get pregnnat and have to tell ur mom about 2 things!! And tehn to deal with ur hidden feelings and a baby!. Don't put this on hold and good luck, just do it and don't overthink!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If u want more advice call 1800 suicide and tehy can help u with htis, plus its free and confidential :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whetehr he says no or yes, u need to tell ur mom if u trust her!. On the other hand u could all use family counseling especialy u and ur dad!!!!!!!!!! Things will improve greatly if both these things are done!!!!. I thik the reason u cut is part of teh fact taht ur family relationship with ur dad is all screwed up and severly lacking in communication and misunderstandings!. Don't worry u can get help for this and u serioulsy need it!. Do it soon befor eu drive ur boyfriend away or before he tells ur mom/dad!!! U neeed to take action soon, u can do it!. If my daughter told me this i would be angry i didn't notice it or angry that i suspected soemthin but thought everything was cool!. But i wouldn't be angry at my daughter at all, i woudl feel so very greatful that tehy got teh nerve to tell me befor etehy suicided or was rushed to the hospital etc!. U can do this ao plz do so !!!!!!!!!!!!!
u r sooo better off being scared to open up than being rushed to teh hospital or worse!. If u can't tell her, then tell ur doc !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.!.!.
Also maybe u should lay off the fooling around cuz it wouold eb a horrible idea to get pregnnat and have to tell ur mom about 2 things!! And tehn to deal with ur hidden feelings and a baby!. Don't put this on hold and good luck, just do it and don't overthink!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If u want more advice call 1800 suicide and tehy can help u with htis, plus its free and confidential :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Life is hard and sometimes it's hard to see the point in going on but that's what it's about to keep going when you feel like you cant or dont want to better things will come to you I promise! Killing ourselves always seems like the best way but if you don't and you have children someday you will realize how badly it would hurt to have a child commit suicide!. I used to do the same thing cuz i felt like no one would care either way!. I moved out young and did things on my own and I have 5 children now that give me a want and reason to get up and if they ever wanted to kill themselves it would kill me!. If you don't feel like you can talk to your parents try talking to maybe a best friends parents or an adult you feel comfortable with!. Talking to friends your own age probably wont help they aren't able to put themselves in your shoes but try talking to someone and remember even though parents have a hard time sometimes showing that they care!.!.!.you came from them if they didn't want you they would have had an abortion so they do love you!. Parents are human and don't do everything the way we wish they would but tell them what you need if they son't see it!. It might help!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Have you ever been diagnosed or informed that you may be suffering from severe depression (Clinical), and Bi-Polar!.
What you are doing is very similar to these traits, and I can assure you that there is plenty of help out there!.
People who cut themselves don't normally want to commit suicide, they do it because they want to punish themselves for something they take the blame for!.
Speak with your GP and they will refer you for help!.
If you continue to cut yourself until you do get help, please make sure that you clean the wound, as infection is another problem!.
Blessings JackMWww@Answer-Health@Com
What you are doing is very similar to these traits, and I can assure you that there is plenty of help out there!.
People who cut themselves don't normally want to commit suicide, they do it because they want to punish themselves for something they take the blame for!.
Speak with your GP and they will refer you for help!.
If you continue to cut yourself until you do get help, please make sure that you clean the wound, as infection is another problem!.
Blessings JackMWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well!.!.!."Cutting" is a phenomenon well documented in adolescent girls!. It's a way of feeling the physical pain so one does not have to feel the emotional pain!. Not a great idea but it is an indicator that you are seriously depressed, which you know!. I would maybe tell my Mom that I need a therapist to talk to!. If you're scared to do that, ask a school counselor, they are equipt to help you and can also give you some fundamental counseling!. School's out for a lot of kids already!. Depression is not "the real you", it's an illness, like any other illness, but it affects how you see things rationally!. SO, you need to make a pact with your boyfriend that you WILL call a helpline when you feel like this again 1-800-273-TALK!.
Your dad is not helping your situation, obviously!.
I suffered depression for 20 years, and snapped out of it one day around age 26!. Have no idea why!.!.!.BUT one of the BEST things I EVER did was go on Celexa, Paxil or Welbutrin (tried them all, and they each have small side effects, but none of them kill you!.!.!.like severe depression can)!. Please keep that number!. They're phenomenal, and I've called in the past several times!. They saved my life once!. You have to find an adult you can trust that can at least get you to your family doctor!. Your doctor is, by law, bound to keep your medical information PRIVATE, even if you are a minor!. Now, if you tell your doctor you are suicidal, he CAN tell others that you may be a danger to yourself, so I would not LIE, but ask for a medication to deal with anxiety and depression, which you clearly have, and he may ask how you're sleeping, eating, etc!. and that should be enough to help you with some good meds!. There's nothing "wrong" or "bad" about you!. You wouldn't tell someone with a heart problem that they are a bad person, so whats the difference in having a chemical imbalance!? There isn't!. Good luck!. You can win this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your dad is not helping your situation, obviously!.
I suffered depression for 20 years, and snapped out of it one day around age 26!. Have no idea why!.!.!.BUT one of the BEST things I EVER did was go on Celexa, Paxil or Welbutrin (tried them all, and they each have small side effects, but none of them kill you!.!.!.like severe depression can)!. Please keep that number!. They're phenomenal, and I've called in the past several times!. They saved my life once!. You have to find an adult you can trust that can at least get you to your family doctor!. Your doctor is, by law, bound to keep your medical information PRIVATE, even if you are a minor!. Now, if you tell your doctor you are suicidal, he CAN tell others that you may be a danger to yourself, so I would not LIE, but ask for a medication to deal with anxiety and depression, which you clearly have, and he may ask how you're sleeping, eating, etc!. and that should be enough to help you with some good meds!. There's nothing "wrong" or "bad" about you!. You wouldn't tell someone with a heart problem that they are a bad person, so whats the difference in having a chemical imbalance!? There isn't!. Good luck!. You can win this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hate is a strong term; reduce it to: "I dislike myself, and my life, at present"!. This allows for the possibility of change!. Realise, and accept that YOU are the one who programmed your mind, and that YOU have the ability to re-program it!. See the tips at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris in section 2, particularly those in the mental-health-abc and conquering stress websites!. Use the negative thought reprogramming technique, and read page 2L!. Recognise, and challenge your negative monologue (self talk)!. Make a conscious commitment to being positive, and optimistic, even if it is apparently unrealistic, or inappropriate, because of the benefits it will provide, later on!. WORK, to change yourself into someone you can think much better of!. See sections 38, and 47, and volunteer, even from home, at first, to provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I (insert activity here)"!. As one insightful (paraphrasing poetically) person put it: an affirmation, without foundation is just mental masturbation!. Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach!. You can also learn to use the EFT, in section 53, several times daily: "Even though I dislike my current life situation, I deeply and completely accept myself"!. Consider taking up yoga, or t'ai chi!. A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows!. All except for no!. (6!.) are safe to use with medication, but not St!. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor!.
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or supplements, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is preferable to regular salt!. This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be viewed on page Z!.12, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, section 2 really is best if viewed in its entirety!. ~~~ See the advice, and weblinks/hotlines regarding suicidal thoughts/ideation, and self harm, in sections 5, and 16, at ezy-build and contact them, when the need arises!. Visiting your school counselor will start helping in 2 ways: discussing your problems, and the fact that your parents will be informed by an adult in a position of responsibility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
(1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!.
(2!.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly!. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!.
(3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!.
(4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.
(5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!.
(6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or supplements, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety!. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www!.real-depression-help!.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets!.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause!. Also, iodised salt is preferable to regular salt!. This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be viewed on page Z!.12, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, section 2 really is best if viewed in its entirety!. ~~~ See the advice, and weblinks/hotlines regarding suicidal thoughts/ideation, and self harm, in sections 5, and 16, at ezy-build and contact them, when the need arises!. Visiting your school counselor will start helping in 2 ways: discussing your problems, and the fact that your parents will be informed by an adult in a position of responsibility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com