This jealousy side is ruining me! Please help.?!


Question: This jealousy side is ruining me! Please help!.!?
Im really in need of good advise thus I decided to try my luck here!. I think Im a jealous monster!. In my rship that is!. Ive ruined my previous rship with a wonderful man coz of my jealous and moody streak!. Took years for me to move on!. Im now with an amazing guy, sweet, loves me alot and drop dead gorgeous!. Its almost a perfect relationship and he wants to marry me once Im ready!.

Problem is!.!.!. me and my head!. I get jealous easily!. Its hard coz we live away from each other and though he has never cheated on me or show signs of doing so, in my head, I imagine him doing so!. Strange thing is its not just a picture visual, its a story!. like how he will meet another gal and what happen next and etc!. My parents marriage is bad and Ive been cheated on before, it might stem from there!.

This is ruining my rship!. Deep inside i have a hatred for men and i always think they are blinded by lust!. Im on prozac for my depression for nearly a yr now!. Advise!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
My marriage is the same way!.!. Almost perfect where he's never cheated or shown signs of cheating and my parent's situation and my ex's!. The first step to getting over this jealousy is believing in him and yourself!. You have to realize that he loves only you and that he won't cheat!. It's hard but confidence is a start!. You're a lucky girl :) don't let your jealousy ruin this relationship!. Be happy you got a great guy! I know I am!Www@Answer-Health@Com

this doesnt sound like jealousy, more like insecurity!. and yes, this would come from watching ur parents bad marriage and being cheated on before!. if u really love this guy and dont want to screw it up, then talk 2 him and explain to him how u feel and what u r worried about!. not all men r the same!. if he wants to marry u, then not only does he love u, but u r the only one he lusts after!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You really like this guy, well trust him!. And obvious Prozac is
not working for you!. You seem intelligent!. Is there someone or
family member you can discuss this with!. My wife was much
like yourself!. I consider myself a honorable man and over time
i have gained her trust!. I hope you can find the wisdom to get
passed this!. My best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You don't need Prozac, you need a shrink!. I don't mean it bad!. This is going to controll your whole life, this green eye monster!. Woman have got a tendency to always live in fear of rejection, god only knows why but true!. If that man loves you chances of him cheating on you are pretty small!. Get help my dear, before it is to late again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

The best lover is a depressed lover who is easily jealous and is an outsider socially!. They are like a love slave and very valuable but they can be so volatile !. Some wont take a chance on the dangerous side of a jealous lover!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I wish you could stop taking prozoc!. Its been known to cause mild delusions!. Mabey your doc could give something milder!. You'd have to get off it slowly!. Even try something natural or holistic!. I think you could find a nice ballance between treating depression and being one with yourself and your loved ones!.

Way up here in Alaska we run all over and play and hike and fish and ride like crazy!. Sometimes we go to church and pray but thats not for everyone, I know!. Just try to have faith in yourself and what you beileve and you'll be fine!!

Check out a book by Kevin Trudeau called Natural Cures They Dont Want You To Know About!. He's pretty down on big companies but get past it and the info is right on and very healthy!.

Keep up the good work and others will join you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Prozac is more halucenigenic than cocaine!. It is fueling your jealousy!. If he is so handsome and nice to you, How are you going to keep his affections and desires as an expression of his love, from turning to a lust for you or other women!? Since you hate men, do you think that hate will hinder you ever building trust with a man!?

If you give distrust and suspicion - you will reap the same, but if you give trust and confidence in his faithfulness he will want to live up to your good expectations and will feel honored!.

Too much sex is ruining a lot of good marriages!. When sex is too frequent, like more often than once every three days, then the man begins to think his wife is so easy that she might just tamely submit to another man as well as he and his own lustful desires are inflamed to the point of controlling him rather than he conrolling them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Jealousy stems from no confidence in yourself first off!. You have to learn to take chances, and to live to try to give him the benefit of the doubt!. Sometimes, we get so hurt, by others, that we put our defense mechanisms up to protect ourselves from the pain by attacking and accusing the other one,!.!.!.sort of like, 'being prepared'!.!.!.!.you need to explain this to your new love, and let him know that you do NOT want to be this way with him!.!.and if he ever burns you, you will walk out the door immediately!. Get a savings going, for yourself,and be totally honest about it!.!.!.have money on hand, but try not to be suspicious of him!.!.!.remember, he chose YOU!. !.!.!.!.You know how other people are these days, some will stop at nothing, to destroy a relationship, and have what isn't theirs!.!.!.I personally, have given it to the Lord!.!.!.He knows best, and through my love for Jesus and God, I know that whatever is going to happen, is what They know is best for both of us!.!.Good luck!.!.!.better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

please try this
Meditation technique

Most of our problems stem from the mind!.
Situations are what they are, but our mind puts a whole new spin on it, often for the worse!.
This leads to a lot of the pain we feel, and being consumed by the pain we act from it, hurting those we care about!.
This is true for all people in all positions of life,except babies!.

So rather than be controlled by the mind, we should learn to control it!.
It is hard to directly do so rather we can control its most obvious manifestation, the breath!.
You'll note that when you are very concentrated you won't breath as much, or when angry shallow and rapidly!.
How to control the breath!.
Inhale and as you do pay attention to the column of air entering your right nostril(air enters both sides, but focus on the right side for now)!.
Exhale and feel the column exit on the left side(air exits both sides, but pay attention to the left)!.
Inhale through the left nostril, exhale through the right(same as previous steps)!.
Inhale and feel the air in both nostrils rise to the top of your nose like an inverted 'V', then force it all out in one breath!.
This counts as one cycle!.
You can go up to 100 in a day, and make a game of this!.
If you lose track of the count restart!.
As you get better you'll notice your breathing slowing down!.
Once you slow down enough, the mind slows down, to the point you can feel a space between thoughts!.
As you advance further you'll learn to identify yourself with that peace, not your painful past nor the vices you had!.

Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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