I'm concerned about my brother?!
Question: I'm concerned about my brother!?
My youngest brother is seventeen and I see quite a lot of him!. Recently he's been acting strange and he's getting really stressed out with it!. He just isn't like himself at all, like he's more than one person!. I don't think he's getting much sleep at all and he never sits still!. He seems normal sometimes but he seems to turn on people and get dangerously violent for no reason!. I've had to hold him back quite a few times from people who have given him 'funny looks' while we've been out!. I can't bring myself to leave him alone with my three-year-old son, I'm scared he'll harm him!. He looks really rough and he looks like he is ill!. He's always getting in trouble and he cries and gets angry with himself sometimes!. I've tried talking to him but he won't talk to me!. He says some disturbing things as well, I'm really worried!. My Mum doesn't seem to care at all!. I've asked him about drugs and he says he isn't on them, he won't go to a doctor!. I'm stuck on what to doWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hi Reed
I'm glad that your brother has you and that you are concerned about him and want to try and help!.
Others have mentioned drugs and/or alcohol as a possible cause of the things that you describe so I will concentrate on the fact that this could be caused by some form of mental illness!.
Please don't be alarmed or distressed about this as with the correct treatment, which may include medication, it will be possible for your brother to get the help and support that he may need!.
Please try these links to the Mind website
How to recognise the early signs of mental distress:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
Understanding mental illness:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
Understanding schizophrenia:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
the information is easy to read and understand!.
You may or may not recognise things that either your brother does, says or the way he acts when you read this information!. This may help you to decide what you need to do in order to help him in the best way you can!.
Self diagnosis or someone deciding they know what someone else is suffering from is never a good idea!. So if at all possible you need to get him to see his GP so that they can assess and decide on the best way to treat him!. If that really isn't possible then I suggest that you try contacting his GP yourself and explaining your concerns!.
I hope this is helpful!.
Take care and good luck to both of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm glad that your brother has you and that you are concerned about him and want to try and help!.
Others have mentioned drugs and/or alcohol as a possible cause of the things that you describe so I will concentrate on the fact that this could be caused by some form of mental illness!.
Please don't be alarmed or distressed about this as with the correct treatment, which may include medication, it will be possible for your brother to get the help and support that he may need!.
Please try these links to the Mind website
How to recognise the early signs of mental distress:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
Understanding mental illness:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
Understanding schizophrenia:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
the information is easy to read and understand!.
You may or may not recognise things that either your brother does, says or the way he acts when you read this information!. This may help you to decide what you need to do in order to help him in the best way you can!.
Self diagnosis or someone deciding they know what someone else is suffering from is never a good idea!. So if at all possible you need to get him to see his GP so that they can assess and decide on the best way to treat him!. If that really isn't possible then I suggest that you try contacting his GP yourself and explaining your concerns!.
I hope this is helpful!.
Take care and good luck to both of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
don't nag him but try and stay involved in his life and let him know he can always speak to you, reasure him!. maybe getting couciling insted of a doctor involved would help too, just don't give up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do you think he might be taking drugs!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Drugs are one explanation for sudden changes in behaviour and sometimes people are less than honest about whether they are taking them!. The other explanation, other than alcohol abuse, is mental illness!. He is going to need assessment by a medical professional but if he refuses to accept there is a problem, you cannot make him!. I believe at seventeen he may still be considered a minor, and your Mother may be able to insist he is assessed!. If he becomes a danger to himself or others you must seek urgent assistance on his behalf by calling your Doctor!. He is lucky to have a brother that cares!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My first question to you was going to be "Is he on drugs"
Not many drug users will admit it when they are taking drugs!. He certainly seems to be demonstrating very dangerous and worrying behaviour!.
He could be mentally ill!. That is also a consideration!.
I do believe he needs medical help though and i urge you and your Mother to try and persuade him again to see his GP!. He could end up killing someone if he continues like this!. You are wise not to leave your son with him!.
If he refuses to see a GP then go and see your Brothers GP yourself and discuss your brother with him!. The GP wont be able to give out confidential information of his BUT he can listen to your concerns!. If possible try and involve your Mother!.
Has your Brother experienced any violence in his upbringing do you know!?
I am concerned he could be on drugs as his behaviour seems to have changed recently, he looks ill and rough!.
YOu may not find any evidence of him taking drugs!. He may be very careful about hiding it!. You mention your were an addict so could he have learnt tips from you!?
Well done yourself for kicking the drugs x
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I am so sorry you both suffered abuse when you were children!. This could be having a big impact on what your brother is like now!? Has the abuse stopped for your brother!?
Without being funny YOU yourself may even need some counselling to help you deal with past abuse!?
I had an abusive child-hood both mentally and physically from my step-father that never really wanted me!. It was horrendous but I did not start having probelms until I'd had my first child!. It may have been post-natal depression but the counsellor told me that it was due to my abuse I'd had as a child!
Also you can ring NHS direct for advise and help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Not many drug users will admit it when they are taking drugs!. He certainly seems to be demonstrating very dangerous and worrying behaviour!.
He could be mentally ill!. That is also a consideration!.
I do believe he needs medical help though and i urge you and your Mother to try and persuade him again to see his GP!. He could end up killing someone if he continues like this!. You are wise not to leave your son with him!.
If he refuses to see a GP then go and see your Brothers GP yourself and discuss your brother with him!. The GP wont be able to give out confidential information of his BUT he can listen to your concerns!. If possible try and involve your Mother!.
Has your Brother experienced any violence in his upbringing do you know!?
I am concerned he could be on drugs as his behaviour seems to have changed recently, he looks ill and rough!.
YOu may not find any evidence of him taking drugs!. He may be very careful about hiding it!. You mention your were an addict so could he have learnt tips from you!?
Well done yourself for kicking the drugs x
EDIT>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>!.!.!.
I am so sorry you both suffered abuse when you were children!. This could be having a big impact on what your brother is like now!? Has the abuse stopped for your brother!?
Without being funny YOU yourself may even need some counselling to help you deal with past abuse!?
I had an abusive child-hood both mentally and physically from my step-father that never really wanted me!. It was horrendous but I did not start having probelms until I'd had my first child!. It may have been post-natal depression but the counsellor told me that it was due to my abuse I'd had as a child!
Also you can ring NHS direct for advise and help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, honestly, I think it's either he's on drugs, or something is affecting his brain therefore affecting his behaviors!. I also thought if the multiple personality disorder while reading your question!. Maybe you could do some investigation of what he's been eating, or doing!. It's not good if you don't let him go to a doctor, you said he looked like he's ill!. If you really think he looks ill, then you must have to force him to go, or else, this situation may worsen!.
by the way, sorry for the blunt answer ^_^, it's just an opinion-suggestion!. I hope you find your solution!Www@Answer-Health@Com
by the way, sorry for the blunt answer ^_^, it's just an opinion-suggestion!. I hope you find your solution!Www@Answer-Health@Com
wow this sounds a lot like my cousin!. check again with him to find out if he's on drugs because that is the most likely!. then see if he was recently heartbroken!. be gentle and understanding!. maybe your brother just got fed up with everything!. is he picked on at school!? maybe since he is seventeen (and a senior!?) he might be suffering from not knowing what to do in life!. he's discovering he's a man now, right!? maybe he just doesn't know what to do!. or, maybe he got his girlfriend pregnant!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hello there,
Your brother seems to be highly aroused and very sensitive!. It is a difficult matter to sort out, especially in someone of his age!. He could be on a drug, but it could also be the beginning of some form of psychotic problem!. He certainly sound paranoid at times!.!.!.I'm thinking of the "funny looks"!. I certainly would not leave him with your young son!.
He really needs to be seen by a psychiatrist!. I wonder if you could discuss him with your mother and then get a psychiatrist to see him at home!. It seems a bit drastic I know, but it could be better in the long run for his sake!. As it has started just recently, there is a good chance that he could be improved fairly quickly too!. Good luck with what sounds like a very difficult situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your brother seems to be highly aroused and very sensitive!. It is a difficult matter to sort out, especially in someone of his age!. He could be on a drug, but it could also be the beginning of some form of psychotic problem!. He certainly sound paranoid at times!.!.!.I'm thinking of the "funny looks"!. I certainly would not leave him with your young son!.
He really needs to be seen by a psychiatrist!. I wonder if you could discuss him with your mother and then get a psychiatrist to see him at home!. It seems a bit drastic I know, but it could be better in the long run for his sake!. As it has started just recently, there is a good chance that he could be improved fairly quickly too!. Good luck with what sounds like a very difficult situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It could be a number of things, depression, a nervous breakdown, addiction, whatever it is, the first thing you need to do is book an appointment with your GP and explain the situation, it doesn't matter if he's not there with you, your GP will give you advice on how to cope with it and refer him to a psychiatrist, but seeing as your brother has violent outbursts he may arrange for a home visit, a psychiatrist, a GP and a social worker will come to review if he's a danger to himself or other people, and they may have him sectioned, they'll take him to a pschiatrict hospital with or without his permission!. It happened to my brother, he was developed with scitzphrenia 5 years ago and had a breakdown he was on drugs, he was adament about avoiding doctors at first but he did give in eventually, i think he got to a point where he hit rock bottom he was scared about not having any control over himself anymore!. He was never violent, but he did say weird things like " i wanna go out and stab someone" but our GP told us if he ever was then to call the police, then they would have him assessed and sent to hospital to get better, if your brother ever scares you then i think you should do that, dont feel guilty about it, you'd be doing the right thing for him
My brother was in and out of hospital for nearly two years, having therapy and trying different medication, we almost lost hope he'd get back to his old self but he got there in the end, he's doing fine now, got his own place, girlfriend, your brother will get there too, just keep helping himWww@Answer-Health@Com
My brother was in and out of hospital for nearly two years, having therapy and trying different medication, we almost lost hope he'd get back to his old self but he got there in the end, he's doing fine now, got his own place, girlfriend, your brother will get there too, just keep helping himWww@Answer-Health@Com