Why do we have such irrational thoughts? (READ)?!


Question: Why do we have such irrational thoughts!? (READ)!?
NO YOUNG ANSWERS!

I am a 17 year old woman!. I have no major fears!.

Example:

Whenever it is dark outside and I have to go out, my heartbeat races, i get extremely scared and i imagine people lurking and monsters waiting to kill me!.

When I am the last one to go to bed, I will hear someone calling my name, or a radio playing!. I will get up and check, and nothing will be there!. I automatically get scared and my heartrate goes up and i feel myself SPRINTING for my bed!.

Whenever I am home alone at night, I feel like someone is always there!. Someone waiting for me!.

WHY DO I THINK THIS!?
my brother and mom r the same way!.
it is so frightening!.
what is going on in our minds that makes us think things are happening even if they aren't!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Understand why you're afraid of darkness!.
Tell yourself "There's nothing lurking over there to get me/ dark must follow light: get used to it"!.
Trying shutting yourself in a large dark cupboard!. Keep the lights off and remove flashlights from the room!. Note: Always keep a friend/sibling/parent outside the cupboard in case the door gets jammed!.
Take a walk with a good friend through the park at night!. Tell the caretaker to keep the lights out while you're there!. Use a small flashlight as the only source of illumination!.
Stay out of doors for about half-an-hour on a dark, stormy night!. Remember to keep an umbrella near-by in the case of rain!.
Play hide-and-seek at night, with absolutely no light!. This helps you get used to the dark while having fun!. Note: This might be childish for teenagers and beyond!.
Get some friends to talk about the fun things that can be done in the dark!. Like grabbing each other's heads, or for kids (1-12) hide-and-seek!.

=TipsAlways keep someone with you, in case you get too much sacred!.
Remember: Darkness always follows light!. Where there is light, there shall be dark!. You must get used to this fact!.

There is no such things as ghosts or monsters!.

/Try to figure out what exactly causes your fear!. Does your house make strange noises at night!? Or have you watched too many horror movies lately!?
Use logic!. After you've found out what frightens you, try to reason with yourself!. A lot of people have big imaginations and can make the smallest thing seem terrifying!. Are you afraid of someone breaking in!? If so, lock all your doors and windows at night and remember that if someone did break in, it would make a lot of noise that you would most likely hear!.
Think about other things!. When you're in bed trying to go to sleep, try to fill your mind with positive thoughts!. Plan what you'll do tomorrow!. Make a mental list of things you'll need for your next vacation (even if it is a couple of months away)!. Just basically do anything to avoid bad thoughts!.

Try to think of your fear in a humorous way!. Scary Movie (1,2,3,and 4) parodies many frightening things!. Chuckling at yourself diminishes the fear!.
Try to think, near bedtime, what scares you!. Is it a noise!? Now that you've acknowledged that the noise is bothering you, write down what the noise sounds like, and other things that usually happen along with the noise!. Then, write a list of 10 things that may be what you think it is and narrow it down to 1-2 things, by comparing and contrasting the items!. During the night, something may scare you and it is a thing, visually, then draw an amateur sketch of what it is, and write down where you usually see it!. You may find is it is the "hand" on the wall, that "waves" at you,if so, draw it!. Then, the next day, see if you can spot what resembles the object, such as a tree branches shadow, or a teddy bears head, or a hockey mask!.
Invite over friends or a close friend for a sleepover, so when you get scared, tell her what bothers you!. Sometimes someone who knows well can use their knowledge about you, to figure out what creeps you out!.

You may be afraid of the dark due to a scary movie, or belief that you won't be alive to see tomorrow, think about this: The movie most likely isn't real (and what reason would you die in the night!?)!. Keep this in mind: When movie magic creeps you out, the less you know about it, the better!. Don't give yourself a bigger scare by learning about all the gory details!. Don't go on-line and look up the Story of Freddy, or The Blood Countess!. Just think for a quick second, and forget!. Totally erase the movie from your head for happy dreams, think about everything positive that happened to you that day!. Think about everything happy that makes you feel good!. This will be very hard, because it is a proven fact that the human brain remembers negative things more easily than positive!. If this doesn't work, then tell a parent, guardian, or trusted adult; never getting over something like this may mean that it has left you traumatized!.

Sometimes, being alone in the dark is just plain scary!. Try not to go crawling into your roommates bed or your Mummy and Papa's bed! Invest in something like a Build-A-Bear or and American Girl Doll for a bedtime buddy to slumber with!. These items would do extremely well because they are meant to be companions,(pets also work) therefore they make a great alternative to having your best friend sleep over all the time!. Sometimes you may have to go back to the blanket, there is nothing wrong with it!. Or maybe an old toy that used to " protect you" from the " bed bugs" in you bed may help you feel more secure!.

Lastly, you could be having having nightmares that are too realistic to bear!. Immediately tell your care taker, trusted adult and/or a counselor!. Often realistic nightmares could be evidence of something that still bothers you or has left you traumatized, such as rape, murder, guilt, or abuse!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You do have a fear, its the fear of dark!. In its severe form, it is called Achluophobia!. Even before you go to bed, you're anticipating something lurking that you can't see!. You probably know on a conscious level that there's no danger!. But regardless, you start having panic symptoms!. That all fits the classic fear of darkness!. These things do run in families!.

The first link below not only discusses the type of fear, but also has links to information about methods of overcoming the fear, such as systematic desensitization and exposure therapy!. With such treatment, it can be overcome!.

See links!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i think like that to sometimes!.

i dont want to scare you but i was half awake one night and though aliens were abducting me!. liek iw as listening to my babies breathing and my bfs breadking in the room and wouldnt move for anything!.

try not to watch anything scary before bed and try to counter think your thoughts when you start getting irrational bc i get that way to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Try trusting Jesus Christ as your Saviour and reading the Bible!. We all get scared sometimes but if you focus on it instead of God's love for you, well, you could get worse and develop some health problems at some point in your life!. Focus on how much God loves you and know that he promises to protect you, memorize the 23 Psalm which is The Lord is my Shepherd I shall not want!. He makes me lie down in the green pasture and leads me beside the still water!. His rod and his Staff they comfort me, he restores my soul!. Yes even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil for thou are with me!.

I am not sure if that is exactly right but read it in your Bible and it will be right, that is just what I say when I cannot sleep or I am afraid, and I talk to God and tell him I trust him and that nothing can happen to me without his consent!. I promise you that you will lose your fears after a while of trusting God!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Some fears that people have are based on things that have happened in their past - like if a dog bit you when you were 2 years old, you'd probably be scared of dogs (at least until you had enough good experiences with non-biting dogs!.)
However, even though it's not 100% proven (pretty close, though) most geneticists and researchers believe they have located which fears are carried (to at least some extent - some people more than others) through your genes!. They don't mean like your grandparents or great-grandparents!. It's the kind of stuff that would be scary or in some way detrimental to "cave people" (for lack of a better term!.) Dark is a perfect example!. Think about all the scary stuff that could happen to them in the dark!.!.!.so the people who had that "healthy" fear were the ones who lived long enough to pass their genes onto us!. Those cave people who had a little paranoia, a little hypervigilance tended to live longer, tended to find mates and have children!. (I'm guessing the real friendly, brave - "sure, I'll go in the cave first and check it out" - guys died before they hit 13!. So while those hypervigilant qualities are not helpful to us, they were very helpful to them!. Same with fear of heights, fear of snakes, fear of tunnels, fear of public speaking!.!.!.I know the last couple don't seem like they would apply to "cave people" but even a highway tunnel has enough in common with an unknown cave (could belong to somebody else bigger than you) and public speaking is getting up in front of a bunch of people and making yourself vulnerable!. ("Vulnerable" to cave people would have been way worse than it is to modern people!. Yet public speaking is one of the biggest fears there is!.) By the way, fear of dogs is NOT genetically encoded!.
The other reason is that the media tends to scare us!. There are always stories about murderers, rapists, etc!. and you tend to think they're around every corner just waiting to jump out!. But this is NOT the typical (assuming you don't live in a really high crime neighborhood!.) The media can change the way you think about things!.
If this is really affecting your life!.!.!.you can't participate in things you enjoy, etc!., a therapist could probably help you!. It probably wouldn't be particularly long therapy!. The most helpful would probably be some exposure, along with acceptance (of what you can control and what you can't!.) Good luck!. Namaste!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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