Advice - fear of men and sex?!
Question: Advice - fear of men and sex!?
this is my first posting on here!. i am 27 (will be 28 in two weeks) a virgin, and never date anyone!. I did go to the prom with a male friend years ago!. i have been through college and had friends not many male ones though!. So i'm not a total social "retard," LOL!. I just want to escape conversation with males!. I am NOT a lesbo, I have many fantasy about males and sex, but sex with someone make me nervous b/c I wouldn't kno what to do anyway!. I think I may be rejected or laughed at because I have not had any sexual or dating experience at this age!. Most of my friends are married and have kids! I keep reading that i am behind in life and i should have had a lot of experiences by now!. so i feel even more inadequate!. the thought of being intimate wi When I was 15 this boy was really nice but he "talk" me into giving him oral sex and then treated me like dirt!. That is only sex experience i have ever have!. maybe that has something to do with it!. any sensible advice about all of thisWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I think you are probably scared that what happened to you at 15 might happen again!. The thing is, the guy was an asshole, but this is your life that he is ruining!. Not all guys are like that, you just need to be able to tell them apart!. Make a decision that you want to solve this, and go for it!. Meet guys, talk to them, don't get intimate, but make yourself feel comfortable with the idea that some guys can actually make you happy!. Then when you are comfortable it will be easier for you to get in a relationship!. All the while, remember that you are not inadequate!. I am guessing he was young too and was not fully aware!. My best advice is live the life you love! You want to be in a relationship, go for it! You might encounter a few unpleasant situations along the way but if you never let yourself love somebody that way then there is no way that you will be able to be in that sort of relationship!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think it is commendable that you have waited this long!. When the right man comes along, the one you end up marrying that is!.!.!.!.You will be in love and most things wil just come naturally!.
Wait for love!. There is a right person for everyone out there!. Go to church, find yourself a man with some moral values looking for a woman with moral values!.
Go girl!.!.!.!.!.I am proud of you!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wait for love!. There is a right person for everyone out there!. Go to church, find yourself a man with some moral values looking for a woman with moral values!.
Go girl!.!.!.!.!.I am proud of you!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You just need to find the right person!. It's natural to be nervous about sex if you've never found a good person to share it with!. Once you find the right person that is willing to take it slow, you'll find yourself more comfortable in opening up!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i suggest u go rent a hoe so u can do him and gain some experience!.
maybe u scared cuz of that traumatic experience u had at 15!. it happens!. many people even hate males because of their past experiences!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe u scared cuz of that traumatic experience u had at 15!. it happens!. many people even hate males because of their past experiences!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just keep focusing on your happiness!. im the same way as you but i will nature take its courseWww@Answer-Health@Com
I thought I was the only one!. You just described me to a tee!. I'm 28, almost 29!. I'm still trying to sort this out!. I was molested by a friends brother when I was 10!. My parents don't even know this!. Then I was humiliated in college by a guy I liked when I told him I was a virgin!. I'm looking into getting help to deal with my fear, maybe you should do the same!. I hope all works out for you!. God bless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your first experience might have something to do with your fear of intimacy!. It's the only reference you have and what a hurtful one at that!. I am the same way, a virgin and 26 years old!. I have extreme fear of being intimate with a guy!. I am willing to bet that when you finally meet your Mr!. Forever, the sex fear will melt away!. Right now you can't imagine trusting anyone enough for you to allow yourself to be that vulnerable in front of someone!. Don't worry about now!. Just go out and have fun and you're not behind in life!. You're a rarity now a days!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know this may sound inappropriate!.!.!. but why not go for Mr!. "right now" instead of Mr!. Right!.!.!.!. Let me explain!.!.!. why not build up your confidence in your!.!.!.!. abilities!. You need to figure out what you want in a man before you just jump into a LTR!. Just play the field, figure out what you want, and go get it!. You just need some confidence and some determination!. P!.S!. Don't ever let anyone treat you like dirt!.!.!. no one deserves that, and you shouldn't settle for that!. Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com