Should I come clean?!
Question: Should I come clean!?
Please, this is very serious!.
I'm 17!. Lately I've been having some problems related to anxiety and depression!. I've had tendencies all of my life, but within the last two years I feel I've gotten much worse!. Only in the last couple of months have I told my family anything about it!.
Another problem lately has been with drugs!. Marijuana, mostly!. A lot of it!. Every time I smoke I get disgusted with myself!. See, my mother and father were both drug addicts and alcoholics!. I guess there's something in me that feels bad because of letting my family down!. Despite heavy use, they have no idea I use drugs!.
Here's my question: I've been living like this for about 7 months!. Drugs, sadness, failing grades, loss of interest in everything- and I want out!. I'm going to therapy, but I really, really need a change!. I want to be closer and more open with my family, and I've tried stopping drugs, but I haven't been able to so far!. Should I tell my father about my drug use, or!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm 17!. Lately I've been having some problems related to anxiety and depression!. I've had tendencies all of my life, but within the last two years I feel I've gotten much worse!. Only in the last couple of months have I told my family anything about it!.
Another problem lately has been with drugs!. Marijuana, mostly!. A lot of it!. Every time I smoke I get disgusted with myself!. See, my mother and father were both drug addicts and alcoholics!. I guess there's something in me that feels bad because of letting my family down!. Despite heavy use, they have no idea I use drugs!.
Here's my question: I've been living like this for about 7 months!. Drugs, sadness, failing grades, loss of interest in everything- and I want out!. I'm going to therapy, but I really, really need a change!. I want to be closer and more open with my family, and I've tried stopping drugs, but I haven't been able to so far!. Should I tell my father about my drug use, or!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I have a husband who began using drugs as a teen!. I believe he had undiagnosed generalized anxiety disorder when he was a kid!. I believe the drug use in his teens was self medication!. He told his parents and got clean!. His mom was mad and disappointed at first!. It really is a natural reaction as a parent!. However, if your father has a drug history, he should understand the issue and want to help you!. It is the parent's job to help groom and mentor you through your issues!. Sure, they might have a kneejerk reaction at first (or they may not) but the disappointment they feel will pass!. What you should point out to them is that you felt like you could trust them enough to come to them and thank you for making me feel safe enough to come to you for help!. That will help them process it a bit!. The other thing to consider in regards to fearing their reaction is that it would be far far more damaging if you continue into adulthood on a self destructive course!. What you should do is seek help for your anxiety and depression from a doctor/counselor!. That is most likely a root cause of your subsequent drug use!. These things often run in families and your parents self-medication is also likely due to having the same problems themselves!. I know because it runs in my family!. I also have a child with severe ADHD and a child with autism and epilepsy (who suffers from significant anxiety)!. Anyway, I'm worried about both of them going down this path due to a strong family history of anxiety, depression and substance abuse!. There is help, you have to be brave and grown up enough to seek it!. There are worse things than disappointment!. And again, that passes!. Try to imagine 10 years from now, their pride when you overcame such a difficult hurdle and you are successful in your goals!. It's even sweeter when you fought to be there!. You can do it!. Nothing worth having is ever easy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell them and get yourself to rehab!. Sounds like you need an inpatient program!. Does your therapist know about the drug use!? You need to tell him/her too or you are just wasting your time and money going to therapy!.
Going to rehab will give you ways to deal with the depression that you may never even thought about, so you don't do drugs again when you get out!. They will also help you connect with your family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Going to rehab will give you ways to deal with the depression that you may never even thought about, so you don't do drugs again when you get out!. They will also help you connect with your family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think you should!.!.!.a major part of the change process is coming clean and emptying your mind of all the thoughts and worries that give you that anxiety and drive you to seek ways to escape it such as drugs!.!.!.talk with your parents and instead of thinking that they will be disappointed, emphasize the fact that you've grown out of it and want to make a change!.!.!.tell them you need their supportWww@Answer-Health@Com
You have an addictive personality!. To beat your addictions, you need to first admit it!. It doesn't count here, this is anonymous, you have to reach out to those who you really believe will help you!. Doing so is a first cognitive step to choosing to beat them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think you should!.!.!.!.!. keeping things bottled up is never good as it will eat away at you!. an addictive personality obviously runs in your family, so i think you should get it sorted before it gets an even stronger hold on you!.!.!.
Good luck! xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck! xWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you're having this many problems you really should come clean!. Your parents love you and they're around to help you!. They may be initially disappointed but I think they will understand that you need their support!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Most definitely, that is very dangerous, the fact that you want help though will make it easier to get over it, good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think it is a very good idea to come clean!. I think they can get you help to beat this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think you should talk to a guidance councilor or a doctor!.!.!.i hope i help get well soon :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you told the therapist, is it someone you can trust!? Which parent do you feel the most comfortable with!. I think they would want to know so they could help you!. At least that's how I would be!. They might get upset but I think they would try to help!. Just make it clear you are wanting to stop and need help and feel bad about it!. If they overreact don't be surprised!. Would they be supportive!? It would help me if I knew what they were like!. I'll pray for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Since both of your parents dealt with addiction issues you're more likely to have the same issues which is why your father wanted you to go to him first!. But also since he's dealt with those issues he's more likely to be able to help you to deal with them, but if you don't go to them now and let them know what's going on things will get worse before they get better!. You should also let your therapist know what's going on especially if they are giving you any kind of medications for your psychiatric issues!. Talk to your family it might be one of the hardest things you've ever done but it will also be one of the best things that you've done!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, most definitely!. Your family seems very supportive!. It's OK if you haven't told them yet!. Whats important is that you tell them!. They of all people know what it's like to hide the fact that there doing drugs!. I don't think they will be disappointed, I think that they will be proud that you came to them!. You should be proud of yourself for wanting to stop before it gets any worse!. Go ahead and tell your dad, you'll be so happy once you get it off your chest!. I think all of your other problems will start to disapear once you talk with your dad!.
Take care and don't give up!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Take care and don't give up!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes Honey you should come clean with this situation!. And if your parents both had the same problem then they are going to fully understand it!. You can't keep using to make situations in your life get better because it does not work that way, you are only adding to your pain by continuing to use!. So go to some meetings and see if that helps, I know NA and AA can be very useful and it is anonymous so get some help somewhere, your worth it!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes you really should!.
Maybe it would be easier to say it to your therapist first!.
Im sure your father will be dissappointed , maybe even feel guilty thinking maybe his decisions in life influenced yours yet he will coem round to it and will realise that you need serious help to get through this !.
Maybe if you you left this question up on the computer screen 'accidentally' and let him find out for himself!. That we he is likely to listen to your whole side of thjings before shouting back or going away!.
Hope your okay!.
Don't do anything stupid!. xxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe it would be easier to say it to your therapist first!.
Im sure your father will be dissappointed , maybe even feel guilty thinking maybe his decisions in life influenced yours yet he will coem round to it and will realise that you need serious help to get through this !.
Maybe if you you left this question up on the computer screen 'accidentally' and let him find out for himself!. That we he is likely to listen to your whole side of thjings before shouting back or going away!.
Hope your okay!.
Don't do anything stupid!. xxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am 17, so i know the social state your in!. I would highly suggest a church!. Find a youth pastor to talk to!. They are all cool and will keep a secret!. They will be estatic to help you!. It sounds to me like you are trying to fill in a whole!. Christ can fill the whole for you!. feel free to contact me if you need any help with this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's not a matter of "should", it's a matter of need!. You are doing drugs to temporarily relieve your negative feelings!. As you know, temporary is the key word there!. Not to mention when you come down, you feel even worse due to the guilt from using!. Do you have ADHD possibly!? A lot of ADHDers use pot because it calms them down!. Not that it's a good choice, I just know it's fairly common if you're not medicated by a Psychiatrist!.
My suggestion to you is to tell your therapist what you're going through and don't hold back!. Write it in a letter and read it at you appointment if that'll help you!. Don't let your therapist steer the conversation until you've said all you need to say to let it all out!. Honestly, there is really not a lot a therapist can do for you if you are holding back crucial information!.
After your therapist is aware of your drug use and anything else he/she may be unaware of, I think your best bet is to ask the therapist to be a mediator between your parents and you at an upcoming appointment so you can spill the beans to them!. Having your therapist there will help you with the support you need when you have to break this bad news!. It will also give your parents the opportunity to ask you or your therapist questions!. Then your parents will know where you "are" and will help you to be the best you you can be!.
One more thing, because of confidentiality, you'll need to give your therapist permission to speak to your parents for that one visit, make sure that you are not including them to be part of all your therapy!. Talk with your therapist beforehand if there are topics that you do not want discussed!. You probably don't want that session to be an open forum, rather a controlled one!.
Good luck! I hope this helps you to let your family in so they can help you!. Let me know how it all goes if you go through with it!.!.!.!.
SarahWww@Answer-Health@Com
My suggestion to you is to tell your therapist what you're going through and don't hold back!. Write it in a letter and read it at you appointment if that'll help you!. Don't let your therapist steer the conversation until you've said all you need to say to let it all out!. Honestly, there is really not a lot a therapist can do for you if you are holding back crucial information!.
After your therapist is aware of your drug use and anything else he/she may be unaware of, I think your best bet is to ask the therapist to be a mediator between your parents and you at an upcoming appointment so you can spill the beans to them!. Having your therapist there will help you with the support you need when you have to break this bad news!. It will also give your parents the opportunity to ask you or your therapist questions!. Then your parents will know where you "are" and will help you to be the best you you can be!.
One more thing, because of confidentiality, you'll need to give your therapist permission to speak to your parents for that one visit, make sure that you are not including them to be part of all your therapy!. Talk with your therapist beforehand if there are topics that you do not want discussed!. You probably don't want that session to be an open forum, rather a controlled one!.
Good luck! I hope this helps you to let your family in so they can help you!. Let me know how it all goes if you go through with it!.!.!.!.
SarahWww@Answer-Health@Com