Venting : who has felt this way?! what can i do to stop?!
Question: Venting : who has felt this way!?! what can i do to stop!?
so i know this is becoming a problem and i dont know why well i do but :
i have become so shy, that eveything i do i think about what people may say or think!.
i do care alot of what people think
i have been trying to stop yet, i still care i tell my self if people are gonna judge me why not just live they way i am and stop being so self consious!?!
anyone else feel this way!?!;Www@Answer-Health@Com
i have become so shy, that eveything i do i think about what people may say or think!.
i do care alot of what people think
i have been trying to stop yet, i still care i tell my self if people are gonna judge me why not just live they way i am and stop being so self consious!?!
anyone else feel this way!?!;Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes, dude i am as self consious as self consious can be! i worry 24/7 what people think and i HATE it, but when im around my friends i feel much better!. i even create future situations that i know im going to have to deal with eventually and i may not have my friends with me for those situations!. if you feel better around your friends like i do, just try to even it out and act the same all the time!. if you never risk anything youll never gain anything!. i try to remember that when im around new people!. hope ive helped :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
i do too,
but only around people im not close with
i hate it sooo much
but i wont really start anything
but if someone started with me i wouldnt just go along with it
i dont know its just the way i amWww@Answer-Health@Com
but only around people im not close with
i hate it sooo much
but i wont really start anything
but if someone started with me i wouldnt just go along with it
i dont know its just the way i amWww@Answer-Health@Com
Yes when i was younger i did and my daughter did during school yrs and to be honest i will tell you the same thing i told her !.!.There are people in this world who will judge you and talk about you no matter what you do but in the same view those people get judged and talked about too it is a way of life sad as it is but stop and think about yourself and what you do and think about other people !? don't you do the same thing even if you don't realize it!?I think a some point in our lifes we all have !. But why care because most people who are enjoying life and doing what they want to do isn't thinking about what you think nor do they care what you think!. Ask yourself just what do you think they will do if you talk - walk - dance - sing - just do your thing whatever it is !.!.do you think if you dance they will all stop having fun to judge you!? or if you are telling them a joke that is really funny and they are waiting on the punch line!.!.!.do you honestly think they are thinking about judging you or talking about you NO all they are waiting to hear is the punch line! get the pic please stop worrying about them because people for most part just want to be happy and are so self centered they are to into their own thoughts and plans that what you do they won't even remember or much less judge you for the next day!. I don't know how old you are but if you are old enough to think back to when you were little and the people who were in your life then other than family !.!.!.where are those people today and why would you care what people who are simply passing through this part of you life who will not be in it forever think!?
Like i told my daughter this yr in fla she said mom you are to old to wear that swimsuit to the beach i ask her who says so!? These people here don't know me and i won't ever see them again in my life so who cares what they think!? I use that same attitude with people i know if they like me for me they don't care any how and if they don't like me then i don't care what they think anyhow! Good luck and watch when you do something that you wanted to do the next time and see if the world around you stops and they all stop living that sec and say Wow look what you did!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Like i told my daughter this yr in fla she said mom you are to old to wear that swimsuit to the beach i ask her who says so!? These people here don't know me and i won't ever see them again in my life so who cares what they think!? I use that same attitude with people i know if they like me for me they don't care any how and if they don't like me then i don't care what they think anyhow! Good luck and watch when you do something that you wanted to do the next time and see if the world around you stops and they all stop living that sec and say Wow look what you did!Www@Answer-Health@Com