My parents have never talked to me about my brother's autism?!
Question: My parents have never talked to me about my brother's autism!?
I'm not sure if my brother has autism!. I know there's something wrong with him, there always has been, but I am unsure of what it was because my parents have never even so much mentionned it!. He is 3 years older than me, and moved out for uni last year!. I don't want to talk to my parents about it, it is an unspoken subject and I do not wish to upset them!.
I am just wondering what illness he has!. After researching, I've concluded it to be autism, but I am unsure and so hope for your advice!.
Here are his symptons:
- Gets stressed and angry very easily!.
- Has temper tantrums a lot in public and inside the house
- Is very jealous of my other brother, says he is better than he is, says my parents love him more, even accuse my other brother of saying that he is better than him even though I'm pretty sure he has never said this!.
- Prefers to be alone!. When he was at home he used to sit in the corner on his laptop and ignore everyone else!.
- Goes for runs a lot, I think this is to control his anger but I'm not sure!.
- Laughs to himself a lot
- Collects comic books, action figurines, dressing up costumes, hardly ever listens to mainstream or popular music and more television music, horror music, and the like!. Has a very strange sense of humour!. (I don't know if these could be seens as symptons, they may just be his preferences)
- Finds it very hard to make friends, even finds it hard to talk to us, his family!.
- Used to rip his hair out when he was angry to the point where he was gaining bald patches, but doesn't to my knowledge anymore!.
He has no speach impediment, and I would say he is above average in intelligence as he was involced in the gifted and talented scheme in my college!.
I think he used to see a social worker but I can't remember cos I was quite young!.
I just want to know what he suffers so I can understand better!. When I was younger I used to resent him, and I feel terrible about this now I am older!. I want to help him, and I want to help bullies understand!.
Do you think this is autism or if not, what do you think this is!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am just wondering what illness he has!. After researching, I've concluded it to be autism, but I am unsure and so hope for your advice!.
Here are his symptons:
- Gets stressed and angry very easily!.
- Has temper tantrums a lot in public and inside the house
- Is very jealous of my other brother, says he is better than he is, says my parents love him more, even accuse my other brother of saying that he is better than him even though I'm pretty sure he has never said this!.
- Prefers to be alone!. When he was at home he used to sit in the corner on his laptop and ignore everyone else!.
- Goes for runs a lot, I think this is to control his anger but I'm not sure!.
- Laughs to himself a lot
- Collects comic books, action figurines, dressing up costumes, hardly ever listens to mainstream or popular music and more television music, horror music, and the like!. Has a very strange sense of humour!. (I don't know if these could be seens as symptons, they may just be his preferences)
- Finds it very hard to make friends, even finds it hard to talk to us, his family!.
- Used to rip his hair out when he was angry to the point where he was gaining bald patches, but doesn't to my knowledge anymore!.
He has no speach impediment, and I would say he is above average in intelligence as he was involced in the gifted and talented scheme in my college!.
I think he used to see a social worker but I can't remember cos I was quite young!.
I just want to know what he suffers so I can understand better!. When I was younger I used to resent him, and I feel terrible about this now I am older!. I want to help him, and I want to help bullies understand!.
Do you think this is autism or if not, what do you think this is!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
It sounds like he might have Asperger's or some other form of high-function autism, but it's very difficult to diagnose - from what you describe, he could also have anger control issues or other personality disorders!. You may have to gather your courage and just ask your parents point-blank -- otherwise all you can do is guess!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He sounds exactly like me and no doctor ever has been able to diagnose me with anything-so frustrating!. I have researched it myself and I would say Asperger's as well, as I believe that is what I have, undiagnosed!. Good luck, and don't hold on to the pastWww@Answer-Health@Com
at lot of the symptoms could describe many a young man !
the triad of impairments in ASD (autistic spectrum disorder) are
communication
social development
interests and behaviour (social imagination)
did he have extra support at school!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
the triad of impairments in ASD (autistic spectrum disorder) are
communication
social development
interests and behaviour (social imagination)
did he have extra support at school!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
he does,nt sound Autistic to me, rather that he has a psychological disorder,does it run in the family,are there other relatives who seem to have the same symptoms, really you should be able to talk to your parents, because what there doing is repressing the issue, really needs to be discussed, what would happen, if this brother did something unlawful somewhere along the line later on!.and nobody helped him or refused to recognise the problem!.almost like "the ostrich syndrome" bury your head in the sand, no body will notice, sort of thing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is so much in your question that it is difficult to know where to start!. Autism is a spectrum disorder which can be identified with the things you have mentioned but so could a number of other things, including just plain anger management issues!. You say your parents have never mentioned any condition, this may be because there has never been a diagnoisis or it could be symptomatic of other communication issues between your family!. Are you able to speak with them about others things!? What is your relationship with your brother like!? Could you discuss your concerns with your brother himself!? I'm assuming that if he has anger issues and you used to resent him that this could be problematic however!. Does he still have anger issues!? Why not just try telling him you are sorry for your previous attitude towards him without getting hung up on giving him a label for his behaviour!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You did the right thing by finding out about he disease, the next thing to do no matter hoe hard it is you need to sit down and talk to your parents about what you found out and let them know how you feel,if you love your brother and i know you do you would do this for him,yourself and your family!. Good luck and you never know it would bring your family closer together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go ahead and take that leap!. Ask your parents what his diagnosis is!. It is better than guessing as there are many possibilities from organic to psychiatric!. Just use the same sentence you used in asking your question, "I just want to know what he suffers so I can understand better!." If they still do not want to be forthcoming then just drop the issue!. They probably think they are protecting you by saying nothing, but if you approach them in a mature manner and out of concern I feel that there is a good chance they will open up to you!. Understanding a loved one's illness or affliction makes dealing with them much easier!. Best Wishes!.
P!.S!. Try not to make the mistake of coming up with your own diagnosis based on what you've read or what someone suggests!. Better to get the information straight from your parents if you can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
P!.S!. Try not to make the mistake of coming up with your own diagnosis based on what you've read or what someone suggests!. Better to get the information straight from your parents if you can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com