Should I tell her the truth?!


Question: Should I tell her the truth!?
Before you answer, please tell me what you would honestly do if you were me! thanks,
Ok so i have been restricting my eating and throwing up after i eat for about 6 months!. The social worker found out!. Tomorrow she is gonna talk to me!. I only have 2 days left of school!. I really don't think it is worth her telling my parents!. I don't want my parents to know for a number of reasons but a main one is yesterday my moms sister just found out she has a brain tumor and needs surgery!. Now what I am doing really isn't that big of a deal and it has only been 6 months but I know my mom would stress out about it!. She doesn't need any more bad news!. Well anyway, if i say im fine the SW will see right through me!. So i was thinking of saying that I did have a problem with eating before, but then i realized how dangerous it was and how it just was not worth it!. Do you think she'll buy it!? any suggestions thanks!. O and Im 16Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Like you I suffered from a combination of bulemia and anorexia for over 26 years before I finally sought help, but only after I battled alcoholism and a drug dependency first!. One addiction usually leads to another!. And don't kid yourself into thinking bulemorexia isn't an addiction!. It is!.

I only wish I could have told my parents!. Of course my parents probably didn't have a clue what an eating disorder was back then and probably wouldn't have done anything for me anyway!. Furthermore, I'm not so sure my parents would have really cared!. Your situation is different though!. You have people who care about you!. Of course you probably feel like others are meddling into your private affairs!. Hopefully in time you'll see the difference!.

ONLY SIX MONTHS you say!. Do you know the damage you have done to your organs in these past six months!? I doubt it!. In fact, I'd almost bet money you don't give a sh*t!. The only thing you care about is being skinny!. Nothing else matters!.

NOT A BIG DEAL!? Talk about denial! You honestly believe you are in control of this disorder don't you!?! You're like a heroin addict, willing to lie to continue your habit because it makes you feel powerful and special!.

The truth about you is that you're an addict with a really big problem and in serious need of help!. Do yourself a favor and tell your mother!. Get the help you need before it's too late!. Otherwise, live with the long term consequences the effects have on your body - if you live that long!. I only wish I knew who you were so I could tell your mother myself!.

Well, what did you expect!? Did you honestly think I would enable you and encourage you with this addiction/disease!?

Get real will you! Get some help and get a real life before it's too late!Www@Answer-Health@Com

You do realize that you asking us to make unreasonale persumptions with no knowlegde pertaining to the subject or the socail worker who's actions were supposed to be predicting!.

How about you think about it!.

Is your Social Worker laid back!? Is she strict!? Does she trust you!? Are you a good liar!? The variables are virtually never ending!. Pick a probable course of action and take it!. With situations like this, no amount of planning will help ease the complexity of the situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If it's not a big deal, why do you need to lie!? If it's not a big deal, why does it make some ppl die!? Be honest!. Your social worker will have enough sense to understand your aunt's brain tumor diagnosis and work something out that doesn't make matters worse!. Really, if you don't want to stress your family, care more about yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your eating disorder may be more dangerous than your aunts brain tumor!. Tell your social worker the truth!. Explain to him/her what is going on in your mothers life!. Your social worker is trained to deal with all situations!. It will be ok!. Just tell the truth!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

My girlfriend has been bullimic!. She cares about her parents like you, and she never told them!. Now she's recovering from it!.

I think you shouldn't tell her right now, but tell her later on when the worse part of your aunt's bad news is over!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You absolutely NEED to tell her!. You are making yourself sick to the point where you are in danger, and if you were her, and had two daughters and the opportunity to help at least one of them, what would you want!? AND, it's a HUGE deal!Www@Answer-Health@Com

honesty is the best policy!.!.!.!.!. it can be tough to have to deal with the truth, but it is the best way to go in the long run!. you all have to deal with it sooner or later, might as well be sooner!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I could not understand your problem!.!.!.!.!.
Regarding me honestly I cannot tell e'thing to my mom!.!.!.!.
The reason being we never gel!.!.!.!.
It depends if you get along with her, you can tell and if not do notWww@Answer-Health@Com

i do the same i wouldnt tall mi mumWww@Answer-Health@Com

ur just retarded stop F*cking trowing up its unhealthy and by experince no men like crazy hoes who trow up their food

i had a gf whom i helped ouytof bulimia not cute i felt so sad when she did that butnow i regret helping her and wish she would choke on hre own puke for doing what she did to me maybe im just holding a grudge


she preganamn i hope the baby is fine i got nothing agaisnt it but i do have alot agaisnt her

letme tell u soemthing model trow up and they look like dirt i have never seen a model that atracts me a skinny to skinny girl looks horrendous


btw ur teeth will fall out and ahir if u dont stopWww@Answer-Health@Com

Lie after lie will never solve your problem, if you keep the lie you will eventually get caught by your parents and it's going to be more awkward situation for you, so you either going to tell your parents yourself or you will have to explain your aunt's condition to the sw not to get anyone stressed out atm!.

If it is possible for you maybe you can tell about that to your dad and let him talk to the sw instead of your mom, so you can keep things under more control if you don't want your mom to find it out yet, so you and your dad could tell it to her in a better time later!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If I was you:

I would stop with the food disorder, you're a teen and your body is in NEED of food to help you grow!. Without food, you're going to be boney and out-of-shape!. You WON'T have a figure that you're trying to to conceive!. Don't lie about it to your social worker!. You're parents need to know, it might be a hard time for your mom, but she needs to know!. If you think you're a big girl, you don't have to tell anyone!. You can fix it yourself and save yourself A LOT of trouble!. They can send you off to a food eating disorder program for help!. I'm sure you don't want to be sent away, I wouldn't!.
You're really hurting youself!. Eat what you want when you want it and you'll be fine and healthy! You gain a lot of weight in your teen years, but you're supposed to!. You'll loose it all later in the future, or keep it for a healthy, curvy, look!

I would eat normally if I was you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

IN all seriousness because I've been there!.

yes tell her BUT your parents don't need to know right now!.
Work with somebody to start a scheduale to help you, like a food councilor, your school one will hook you up!.

but you have to realize, it only goes downhill from here if you continue to do it!.

I totally understand if you don't want your parents to worry over you with the already stress but I SWEAR I KNOW, it will hurt both of you but it WILL be worth it!.

I had cutting problems (trust me, they are very close alike) and eating problems!. MY mom found out!. I SWEAR I THOUGHT I BROKE HER POOR HEART!. it hurt her, it hurt me but then, all she wanted to do was help!. she understood me better!. she wanted to get me help if she couldn't help!.

it was dramatic at first, but admitting you need the help is the only way your life can start on a more normal track!.

I really do hope you listen to my advice!. I don't know you and you'll never know me, but you know that it takes sacrifices and suffering to maintain or work towards your goal!.
I'm sure you're strong enough for that since you're already starving and puking!.
What story do you want to tell in 10 years!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Do you know how dangerous bulemia is!? That is what you have!. You can seriously make yourself ill and you might even be forced into an eating disorder program!. Do you think your mom really needs to deal with the SW coming and telling her this now that her sister is so sick!. You need to do the right thing and tell your mom before the SW does!. I know I would appreciate it more if my daughter had told me herself!. I have seen girls die from eating disorders, it's not nice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

ballerinas puke why cant you

i say keep the ball rolling

good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com





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