Having Second Thoughts??? Can ANYONE Out there Please Give Me Advice???!
Question: Having Second Thoughts!?!?!? Can ANYONE Out there Please Give Me Advice!?!?!?
I am trying to recover from an "eating disorder" which im not sure if it ever really existed, but many doectors have told me im anorexic!. I've always been really thin, but around 8th grade, i started growing taller and never gained weight, but never really lost more than 3-4 lbs!. I do worry about getting fat, but now im eating around 2000 cals a day!. As of now, im 16, 5'4 and weigh 87lbs!. My mom says i need to gain at least 3-4lbs in a few weeks to avoid going into the hospital, so ive been eating more and drinking Ensure!. But im soooo scared that i will just keep gaining and get huge or that all the weight will go to my stomach or thighs!. I know 3-4 lbs may not be huge, but to me it is and im really freaked out!. But i KNOW i need to gain weight to get my period back!. And i know that if i don't gain it, i will be spending my summer in the hospital, which i really don't want!.
So i guess my question is, how can i convince myself to do this when i already hate what i see in the mirror!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
So i guess my question is, how can i convince myself to do this when i already hate what i see in the mirror!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I think you have already answered your own question!. Yes, you can do it!! You are only 16 years old and have a whole wonderful life ahead of you!. I am 42 years old and a mother of 3 children!. When I think back about 16, boy that was the good times, friends and fun! Your mom sounds like she is trying to get you better!. Please listen to her!. As a Mom's perspective, a mother would do anything to keep her children safe and healthy and raise them to have a wonderful life!. As a friend talking to you now about your problem, 3-4 pounds is not alot, your body needs weight to function!. When your body is functioning, all of your organs all work together!. The body need nutrition to keep going along with keeping your mind healthy!. Don't look at how much you weigh as happiness!. I will be honest, I recently put on weight and was not happy, but I realized that people, friends and family still liked/loved me just the same!. People will still like you for who you are and everything that you can do!. Please don't throw that away!. Once you gain a little weight to get healthy, then you will see what I am saying!. It is honestly what is in your heart and soul for what people love about you!. I know being 16 is a hard age, you girls all want to look just so and all that jazz!. Trust me, I have a 13 year old and she's already there right up there wanting to be like everyone else, and I tell her the same thing!. It's what is in the heart that counts!. I also tell her that if someone doesn't like you because of how you dress or look,, act, etc!. than they are not your friend and maybe you can do without them!. So, please hang in there, don't overwhelm yourself with the issue and work with your Mom to get better!. Who wants to stay in the hospital in the summer anyways!! I hope I helped you a little bit!. Good Luck and Best Wishes!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You definetely have an eating disorder!. If you have been in recovery then you must have been told tools that you can use!.
Try as hard as you can to use the tools you were taught and get up to 100lbs and just stay there dont try to lose or gain!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try as hard as you can to use the tools you were taught and get up to 100lbs and just stay there dont try to lose or gain!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
instead of you worrying about whats in that mirror,reverse that and worry about what others see in that mirror instead!.you will have a lifetime of problems and worries for years to come don't let something as simple as this put you in the hospital!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of all, yes, I am 5'4 and 120lbs!. And at that height I can't imagine 87lbs!. I weighed 110 and was put into the hospital!. I KNOW how you are feeling!. It was only one week ago I started eating again!. I hate it!. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to do!. But I've been hospitalized and anyone who has knows it is not fun!. At my lowest weight I had developed health problems, and that number was nowhere near where you are at!. This is you're life and you only get one, and you may not be physically unhealthy enough to open you're eyes yet, but eventually your health will deteriorate, and it can happen at any moment!. I think that a lot of how we hate what we see in the mirror has to do not so much with our weight, but subconsciously knowing what we have done, and keep doing to ourselves!. Depression and anxiety and low self-esteem are born from eating disorders!. The way you are feeling now most likely has a lot to do with deeper issues!. If you keep on this destructive path, you will see an end!. You need to save yourself now while you still can because there will be a point where the physical damage is irreversible!. And how much does weight matter if you can't be alive to benefit from it!? I read a quote once that changed my perspective: You'll be dead before you're ever thin enough!.' This is true!. Having an eating disorder is chasing after something you'll never catch up with!. I've put on 6 pounds since I started eating again, and I don't like it, it kills me, but I'm still here to try and help you by writing this right now!. Make any sense!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes sweetie, you have an eating disorder!. I still battle one myself!. I am 5'1 and weighed 84 lbs!. It got to the point that my body and organs were starting to shut down!. By the time I got into a treatment center, most of them would not even take me because according to BMI I was malnourished and starving myself to death!. If you are too low in weight they will make you go to a hospital for intravenous feeding!. That would kind of freak me out!. That takes complete "control" away from you!.
You are young, please try to give this recovery process a chance so you can enjoy a long happy life!.
I'm tryng not to freak out right now because I have gained quite a bit of weight!. I liked seeing bones!.
God created your body, take care of it!. I was in the treatment center with a young woman of 18 whom had been battling bulimia and anexoria since she was about 12!. She was a wonderful young woman who had such a wonderful gift of encouraging others to reach their potential!. Her heart finally gave out on her and she died in her sleep!. This is a serious disease!. Get help now!. I will pray for you!.!.!.that you listen to your heart and your body!. You will realize once you get around other young women that you have so much in common!. I actually loved the treatment center!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are young, please try to give this recovery process a chance so you can enjoy a long happy life!.
I'm tryng not to freak out right now because I have gained quite a bit of weight!. I liked seeing bones!.
God created your body, take care of it!. I was in the treatment center with a young woman of 18 whom had been battling bulimia and anexoria since she was about 12!. She was a wonderful young woman who had such a wonderful gift of encouraging others to reach their potential!. Her heart finally gave out on her and she died in her sleep!. This is a serious disease!. Get help now!. I will pray for you!.!.!.that you listen to your heart and your body!. You will realize once you get around other young women that you have so much in common!. I actually loved the treatment center!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i was anerxic when i was 9 and i did have to go to the hospital for it and i had become anemic and it was so ahrd to eat again but little by little i did it!. it took 3 years to become fully unanerxic and i still ahve times when i feel fat but i dont want to go threw that again!.i satrted eating again cuz i wanted boys to notice me i wanted ppl to stop talking bout me!.you need to think positive!. you obvi dont want to goto the hospital so have that be your motivation gain three pounds you can do it!. i believe you can!. good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to ralize that you are very unhealthy and underweight!. You want to be a woman, a woman has curves, a figure!. You dont have that now because you are so underweight!. You dont even have your period because you are aftraid of getting fat!? Honey, you are FAR from fat!. At your height, you should be around 115, to 145!. Eating healthy foods is a great start!. You may need to incorporate some counseling along with your recovery, this would help you tremendously!. I stopped making myself throw up when I realized that I was becoming what I didnt want to be, unhealthy and thin as a stick!. I didnt want to appear sickly anymore!. You have to come to that realization for yourself!. See a counselor, it really helps!Www@Answer-Health@Com