Insulting to a bipolar person, or am I just hyper-sensitive?!
Question: Insulting to a bipolar person, or am I just hyper-sensitive!?
I have bipolar disorder, and,well, sometimes stuff happens!. I had a terrible day today, something truly awful happened, and I called my dad for advice!. He's ashamed of my mental disorder, by the way!. He yelled at me, cursed at me ("why don't you [effing] shut up!?"), and told me my problems are all my fault because I am "flighty" "flaky" and always "half-******!." Now, sure, I have responsibility for my own problems, I didn't want "Daddy to fix it," I just wanted advice!. But when he said those things, which he has said about me all my life, and worse ("get the [F] off the phone, *****"), I told him that I had respectfully asked his advice, and so not to insult me!. He said those weren't insults and I "[effing] well knew that!." I said they were, and he knew that very well himself!. He slammed the phone down in my ear!. Now, am I just being too sensitive as he claims, or am I right to feel insulted by those derogatory comments on my mental condition!? Honest answers please, but not mean ones!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I think you have every damned right to be insulted!. If you call someone asking for advise and they blaspheme in your ear, that's an insult!. It's not hypersensitive!. First he talks to you like you're a piece of dirt, and when you respond he pretty much says it's just because you're mentally ill so it's 'irrational'!. You could have ran right round and screamed in his ear and I still wouldn't call you hypersensitive!. He should have expected you to say something in retaliation if he talked to you like that!. To answer you question, it's very insulting!. I don't have bipolar syndrome, but that would be insulting to almost anyone!. It's not his place to be ashamed of your mental disorder, especially as he's the one with the attitude problem!. He should be ashamed of talking to you like that, if anything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Omigoodness, I don't mean to insult him but I seriously don't think he was fair or respectful to you at all!. I don't think you're being too sensitive, it sounds as though he was awfully harsh!. One thing to maybe consider: I have bipolar disorder as well, and it is hereditary, and I have heard that it seems to be more commonly passed from the father's side of the family!. Do you think he has some issues of his own!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
your notover reacting, your dad had no right saying those things to you! my youngest sister and nephew have bi-polar, so i know that things do happen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
my dad is the same way find someone else you can talk to and that will understand youWww@Answer-Health@Com
I just answered your other question too, you'll see that I can relate to what you're going through, it's uncanny!. This sounds exactly like my father and I for years!. Exactly!. This is my advice: do not be too forgiving, because someone like this does not repspect or care about "forgiveness" of how harsh they were!. Holding a mild grudge will keep things in check for you, and will keep you from going back for more-- even unintentionally!. My biggest mistake was always beleiving that it would pass, he would change, and "this time" when I needed him he would be a normal person toward me!. It's unlikely!. Let him be angry, but outside of your life!. Call someone else, anyone else, for advice next time, and start to see him as a negative influence because, I know he's your dad, but he IS a negative influence while acting like that!. and you do not need it! I'm not saying this time was your fault AT ALL, but don't let it happen again, you have the power to avoid it, at least to some degree!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
some people just dont get it it is not our fault the way we are and i got negative talk all my life by family members and i learned to steer clear of them if you dont have anything nice to say i was told dont say it i suffered all my life due to family and there rude behavior becuz i was flighty flaky ,instead of asking if they could help or for support they down graded me ,i am now stable and i didnt listen to thier shht they call me now for advice and to tell me i am doing good ask someone else for advice you dont need negativity in your life we have that already most of the time !.ok we got mental disorders but were not freeks people i hope you can ask someone else you have to learn to blow it off and yes forgive others for their ignoranceWww@Answer-Health@Com