(question FOR PEOPLE IN RECOVERY)Does anyone have experiance and know how for do!
Question: (question FOR PEOPLE IN RECOVERY)Does anyone have experiance and know how for doing a fourth step!?
i dont have access to meetings!. i dont have a sponsor!. i'm not drinking or using!.
i just need to clean house!. i think i remeber it!. 1 you list the people whose offended you 2you list what you feel hapened
3then you list whether it affected(what!? thats the part i'm struggling with!.!.
also theres like three more steps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i just need to clean house!. i think i remeber it!. 1 you list the people whose offended you 2you list what you feel hapened
3then you list whether it affected(what!? thats the part i'm struggling with!.!.
also theres like three more steps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Its about taking an inventory of past resentments and how it affected you (anger, self esteem, security, FEAR, etc!.) and also what your part in it was!. Thats the most important part!. Looking at our bags of **** hidden in the closet b/c I know I still have plenty that surfaces as time goes by!. In order for this to be effective :recovery, its ESSENTIAL to have; meetings, a sponser, a big book and a fellowship of sober people!. Thats my foundation and many others!. My sponser told me these were essential!. My fourth step was all about letting go of these past resentments, moving on and then looking at MY PART in it!. There was an amazing weight lifted after!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's a long time since I did my fourth step, but I agree with Bonz!. When you make a list of those you have harmed etc, look at the part you played in this event!. Don't even think about blaming the other person!. The point is to take responsibility!.!.!.not the blame, but to learn to be responsible!. Once you have learned this lesson, then you can move on with your life!. I was in a treatment center when I did my fourth step and we actually took our lists to a garden area and made little bonfires with them!. It was like a fresh start!.
I would also suggest going to meetings if you can!. It's a hard thing to do on your own!. If that isn't possible (i!.e you live in the South Pole), then send to AA for the literature!. There is the Big Book and another called Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (I think)!. These books will help you immensely!. Best wishes for your future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would also suggest going to meetings if you can!. It's a hard thing to do on your own!. If that isn't possible (i!.e you live in the South Pole), then send to AA for the literature!. There is the Big Book and another called Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (I think)!. These books will help you immensely!. Best wishes for your future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com