IM being shallow and i feel so bad can someone help me through this?!
Question: IM being shallow and i feel so bad can someone help me through this!?
i have very bad intimacy problems, i will be very attracted to a guy until i find out he likes me then it totally turns me off, i don't like him anymore, but theres this guy i've been seeing who i was really attracted to and i was kinda unattracted to him when i found out he likes me but something about him i like and it keeps me wanting to see him even though i don't feel a thing but i get jeallous if he's with other girls and i get ancy if he hasn't called but anways, im starting to notice his phyisical flaws and im really starting to hate this because im trying to take a risk and get past my problem with him but i can't because all i see are flaws! and im being sooooooo shallow i feel so bad can you help me plz! and don't say go to thearpy i need opinions!.
thanks!Www@Answer-Health@Com
thanks!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Ok here's the deal!. Everyone has flaws and nobody is perfect!. Everyone will also have little "things" that bother you!. Part of love is asking yourself the following question: Who's flaws and crap will you put up with the most!? Never try to change him!. If you do, he is the wrong guy!. On the flip side, if you try to change him, he will leave!. Think about what drew you to him in the first place!. The last thing I have to say is (sorry to say this) grow up!. You can't be that picky because you will be lonely for the rest of your life!. Please don't take that personally!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think its because you hold yourself so high in your mind, so maybe if you just remind yourself of your flaws you can begin to accept others'Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like your playing a game!.!.!.!.!.!.Seeing who you can "get" or "attract" but once you get what you want!.!.!.!.!.their attention!.!.!.!.you lose interest!.!.!.!.you don't want them !.!.!.!.but you don't want anyone else to have them either!.!.!.!.!.grow up!. Respect their feelings as you would want them to respect yours!.!.!.!.!.!.!.are maybe your just afraid of being in a relationship!.!.and that's OK, your young, enjoy being young, do good in school have fun with your friends and don't worry about jerking people around giving mix signals to guys!.!.!.!.that's called a tease!.!.!.!.!.!.!.sorry if my response hurt your feelings!.!.!.!.was meant more to open your eyes and see whats going on!. If you conscious of your action!.!.!.!.!.try and not do it anymore!.!.!.!.!.22 is young!.!.!.todays "young" adults are immature for their age, I have a 22 yr old and a 24 yr old!.!.!.!.!.not totally your fault!.!.!.!.!.alot of parents fault for babying our babies (I'm guilty too) and society too (not making kids being accountable for their actions!.!.!.!.making excuses for their choices)Www@Answer-Health@Com