Why do i get so scared?!


Question: Why do i get so scared!?
the thought of my partner dying scares me so much!. He is 32, fit and well, but i often worry that something awful will happen to him and he will die!. I think about how i will cope without him and get so upset i cry!. He is aware of my fear but there is not alot he can say to make me feel better!. I have similar fears about my nan dying (she bought me up so i class her as my mom)!. I have lost my Mom already and my grandad so its not like i haven't gone though losin someone!. Why does this worry so much and so often!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Well losing someone you love is extremely hard to cope with!. I think we have all lost someone we love!. The difference is that when you lose your partner it's much worst because you feel as though your heart has been stabbed a gazillion times with a sharp knife!. The best advise that I can give you sweetie is that you have to accept the fact that life has an inevitable turn for the worst for some!. Destiny will have her way regardless of how much we cry, protect or be strong for someone else!. Instead of crying and being fearful of what MIGHT happen to him, LOVE, ENJOY AND HOLD HIM as close to you as you possibly can so that you can spend every moment possible with him!. Do lots of things together because at the end whether if you or him go first, all you will have left are the beautiful memories that you have both shared!.

Think about it this way!. There are people that spend their entire lives together and then one dies!. Well, soon enough the other will die soon after if their love was strong because they can't live without each other!. Either that or the remaining partner will end up in a loony bin!. It happens everyday!. So the greatest advice that I can give you at this moment is do not cry because of the inevitable, cry for the joy of the moments to come and for the reasons why he makes you happy!.

Best of luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

its a natural response to death to fear losing someone u love, but at the same u should learn to live with, i'm 16 and i've already accepted that the people i love and care about will die and even my self, its not nice i no but death is everwhere to have a peacefull life learn to live with it, u'll cope much easier, after all its outta your control when someones dies, there is religion, which may help you out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

it is called the abandonment life trap!. counseling can really help, but i would reccomend you buy the book "reinventing your life" it will explain what you are dealing and give you some reasons why!. you can get it at barnes and noble!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

A lot is two words!.

If you want to stop worrying, then stop, chaos is the progenitor of the universe, you can't tell what will happen, but worrying about it won't help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

uve already lost 2 people in your life whom you really love!. u are scared that ur gunna loose someone else!. your just scared 2 loose one more person in your life that u love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Don't worry, try and think about the hear and now and not to dwell on bad thoughts!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think about thinks like this too and what i'd do if it happened - worries like this are normal death is something that is real and is on our minds at one time or the other!. |The question for ou is how much time!? No one wants to lose the ppl they lve but are able to put that thought to the back of there mind and live for the day!. The other thing to consider is how long ago your Mum and Gdad passed away - if this was a short time ago then you will fell like this and although its raw now in time it will get easire!. The other opion is to seek medical advise - a counseler etc brevement counsiling is there for a reason - if you lose someone you love you need help it hurts for a long time but it will get easier - good luck sweetheart xWww@Answer-Health@Com





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