Why do I need to have therapy just because I was physically abused?!


Question: Why do I need to have therapy just because I was physically abused!?
My father was very strict with me!. I used to get 'punished' for every little thing and it was sort of a way of life for me and I lived with it the best I could!. The beatings I got from him were always really extreme (I still have scars on my back and backside) and part of his way to discipline was to humiliate me, which included having my sister or whoever from family was present to witness my 'punishments!. I always knew this was abuse but I decided that I have a better chance for a normal life if I just put up with it, rather than call the CPS and be put through 'the system'!. I still believe I was right about that!. I have done pretty well for myself and I consider myself a normal individual!.
The problem is my sister who I have always been really close to!. She keeps wanting me to talk about all the beatings and the way it was back then!. (hard to describe here, but let's say I completely understand how my sister would be traumatized by witnessing everything, eventough dad never touched her) I can talk about it all she wants, although I don't see the reason to!. She thinks I need to go into therapy although I am fine!. I am aware of what happened to me and no therapy is going to change that!.
My sister has a 4 year old son whom I love to death!. However, she won't let me stay alone with him until I get into therapy!. She thinks I may harm him!. She doesn't believe that I am OK, although she acknowledges that I seem OK, but she is sure that I am bound to 'snap' eventually!.
She's been telling people about our father and how he raised me and now she has 15 people telling her I am not normal including her boyfriend!.
I had a girlfriend of one year who left me after she has spoken to my sister!. She told me that after she's heard about what my dad did (which I agree is a terrible thing to hear) that I am way too OK with it and that I am far too 'normal' to be normal!. I just don't see why I would need to dwell on it all the time!

I am not denying what happened, I am not detached from it !.!.!.I just choose to get on with my life!.How can that be so wrong!?
Does anyone know a way to explain to my sister that not everyone needs therapy to be over childhood abuse!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
There's nothing wrong with your observation skills! That said!.!.!.therapy is not the end of the world!.!.!.and you might gain some insight into what makes your SISTER tick!. From what you say, she's the one with the problem; there's all sorts of couples therapy!.!.!.not just marital counseling! Perhaps she might be interested in ATTENDING therapy WITH you!.!.!.to sort out why she can't let go! Good luck to all of you!Www@Answer-Health@Com

a psychiatrist is no better than a friend!.

if your not bothered about something, then theres no need to discuss it, or if your not ready to talk about something, again there is no need to discuss it!.

explain that to your sister!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I went through the same thing as a child and i am completely normal also!. Your sister has no reason to think that you would ever hurt anyone!. Some people think that abused kids grow up to be abusers!. It's not always true!. I think that growing up being abused gives me more of a reason not to hurt anyone else becasue i know how it feels!. I would never want a child to have to feel that kind of pain!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You are an amazing person to be so strong!.
You are the best person to know if you need help!.
As long as you are happy with your life now, so be it!.
Your sister definitely need to see a therapist!.
It is hard for her to imagine that you might be OK in spite of what happened to you growing up!. Something inside held you together!. You are very fortunate to come through those experiences and be able to carry on a normal life!.
Best Wishes and stay well!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

when ever someone is abused it is embedded into your thoughts!. You say that you are ok but without therapy who is to say that one day all of the feelings you have hidden about your father will come out!. We as humans face a day to day battle with our emotions and feelings!. Do you ever say something you regret later!. well your sister just wants to make sure that if you are alone with her son, something that you are unaware of will not surface and at that moment and you lose it!. this has happened to a many people who think that all is ok so please if not for yourself for that little boy who needs to have a uncle in his life!. You never know you might learn something about yourself!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

I totally understand!. I self-injured for almost 2 years and then stopped without the help of any therapist or anyone!. No one could believe it!. Some people just dont need "professional" help!. They are there to make money and make you feel bad!. They bring up horrible times that you have already worked through and don't need to bring back up!. I think you're sister needs to understand; it's your life!. You could try to sit her down and talk; but she is the way she is and she isn't going to change!. I'm sorry about that!. Some people believe that therapists are the way to go; I would never go to one!. I'm glad that therapy has helped many, many other people!. If it helps some; thats great!. But your sister needs to understand that people heal in different ways; and you have healed in a different way than her!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

your sister is over reacting but still looking out for you!. As long as you are not showing aggression or being overly rough or angry with the boy I don't see a problem as long as can deal with it and no its in your past and you know when you have children you will not beat themWww@Answer-Health@Com





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