I was sexually abused as a child and as a result feel dirty down there no matter!
Question: I was sexually abused as a child and as a result feel dirty down there no matter how much I bathe!?
I have gone threw counseling but all I gained out of that was a lot less money due to co-pays and no help!. I think it has also affected me as far as relationships go and to be honest my self asteem!. I find it hard to trust all men feel like they all just want the same thing to use me for sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
A book I read turned me inside-out and changed how I feel about myself and my body!. "THE WOUNDED HEART" by
Dan Allender!. It's for adult victims of childhood sexual abuse!.
Due to the content of the book, it can draw-up intense feelings!. I would recommend being in a support group or meeting weekly with a counselor while going through it!.
Usually the "feeling dirty" even though bathing does not last with that much intensity for years!. You must have been very traumatized!. Life just isn't fair that children would be so damaged by someone else!. For myself, I found inner healing through reading this book along with counseling &
I also found that the damage within actually changed my body chemistry!. I needed anti-depressant medication to function!.
You can ask at this website about finding genuine healing help for the trauma and abuse!. And you can also get the book there!. http//!.newlife!.com or call the 24-hr number 1-800-NEWLIFE!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Dan Allender!. It's for adult victims of childhood sexual abuse!.
Due to the content of the book, it can draw-up intense feelings!. I would recommend being in a support group or meeting weekly with a counselor while going through it!.
Usually the "feeling dirty" even though bathing does not last with that much intensity for years!. You must have been very traumatized!. Life just isn't fair that children would be so damaged by someone else!. For myself, I found inner healing through reading this book along with counseling &
I also found that the damage within actually changed my body chemistry!. I needed anti-depressant medication to function!.
You can ask at this website about finding genuine healing help for the trauma and abuse!. And you can also get the book there!. http//!.newlife!.com or call the 24-hr number 1-800-NEWLIFE!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sexual abuse is a very debilitating experience!. It effects a lot of people the same way as it is affecting you right now!.
It is not unusual to feel "dirty," be distrusting, have low self-esteem, etc!.
It sounds as though you have had a very bad experience with couseling!.!.I don't personally know your counselor, so I can't make any real judgement, but it sounds as though he or she either didn't have much experience working with sexual abuse survivors or was trying to heal from a textbook!.
A good counselor can walk you through your traumatic experience slowly and help you peel back layers!. Over time, you are able to understand that the abuse was not your fault and are able to forgive your abuser and lay the problem on his or her shoulders, so to speak!.
I would suggest to seek another counselor with more experience in dealing with survivors of sexual abuse!. It may take some time to find the right counselor, but it is well worth the time and effort!. (And your recovery is PRICELESS!.!.so don't worry about the price too much, because in the end, it's worth it!)
!.!.and I swear, that one day you will be able to have normal relationships and a normal life!.!.!.
take gentle care!.!.!.(You are not a victim, you are a SURVIVOR!)Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is not unusual to feel "dirty," be distrusting, have low self-esteem, etc!.
It sounds as though you have had a very bad experience with couseling!.!.I don't personally know your counselor, so I can't make any real judgement, but it sounds as though he or she either didn't have much experience working with sexual abuse survivors or was trying to heal from a textbook!.
A good counselor can walk you through your traumatic experience slowly and help you peel back layers!. Over time, you are able to understand that the abuse was not your fault and are able to forgive your abuser and lay the problem on his or her shoulders, so to speak!.
I would suggest to seek another counselor with more experience in dealing with survivors of sexual abuse!. It may take some time to find the right counselor, but it is well worth the time and effort!. (And your recovery is PRICELESS!.!.so don't worry about the price too much, because in the end, it's worth it!)
!.!.and I swear, that one day you will be able to have normal relationships and a normal life!.!.!.
take gentle care!.!.!.(You are not a victim, you are a SURVIVOR!)Www@Answer-Health@Com
The first thing to accept is that IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! You have done nothing wrong!. You have probably been told that already, but it is something you must accept before you can move on!.
Have you reported the abuse to anyone!?!. It may be hard, but you must report them to the police, even if it was your father, to stop them doing it to someone else!. The police will provide a counsellor who is really used to your type of case, so please go to them!. You will find the perpetrator will deny it, or say you were willing, but stick to your story and don't let him win!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you reported the abuse to anyone!?!. It may be hard, but you must report them to the police, even if it was your father, to stop them doing it to someone else!. The police will provide a counsellor who is really used to your type of case, so please go to them!. You will find the perpetrator will deny it, or say you were willing, but stick to your story and don't let him win!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi,
you need find a good counseller/social worker i found a fantastic one at the local church and she is free she is brillant maybe you could try that also!.!.
i was sexually abused as a child and have been carring this problem around too but my social worker does Cognitinive Behaviour Therapy and diary writing and drawing my feelings into books!. it really is good to find a great social worker,
things do get better trust me i wouldn't let my husband touch me over a month ago and now we are intimate!.
and remember its never your fault!.!.!. and never hush up about and stay positive and be strong! and report it to police if you haven't already done so!.!.!.this person is a nasty person!.
Best of Luck!
Secret P :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
you need find a good counseller/social worker i found a fantastic one at the local church and she is free she is brillant maybe you could try that also!.!.
i was sexually abused as a child and have been carring this problem around too but my social worker does Cognitinive Behaviour Therapy and diary writing and drawing my feelings into books!. it really is good to find a great social worker,
things do get better trust me i wouldn't let my husband touch me over a month ago and now we are intimate!.
and remember its never your fault!.!.!. and never hush up about and stay positive and be strong! and report it to police if you haven't already done so!.!.!.this person is a nasty person!.
Best of Luck!
Secret P :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would sincerely recommend that go fine another counselor in your area and see if you connect better!.
Also try searching for a local support group as they are likely to just be able to give you an understanding ear!.
It's not unusual for you to be feeling the way you do!. You're not aloneWww@Answer-Health@Com
Also try searching for a local support group as they are likely to just be able to give you an understanding ear!.
It's not unusual for you to be feeling the way you do!. You're not aloneWww@Answer-Health@Com
That's terrible!.
It's also a series of statements rather than a question so I'm not sure how to answer it!.
There are different schools of counseling so it might be worth finding out what methods your previous counselor used and looking into one that takes a completely different approach!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's also a series of statements rather than a question so I'm not sure how to answer it!.
There are different schools of counseling so it might be worth finding out what methods your previous counselor used and looking into one that takes a completely different approach!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Dont feel discouraged with finding professional help!.
Make sure you find someone who you can really open up to and feel comfortable with!.
Showering won't make that feeling go away, it is something that you can't and shouldnt have to do yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Make sure you find someone who you can really open up to and feel comfortable with!.
Showering won't make that feeling go away, it is something that you can't and shouldnt have to do yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know that can be very hard!. You can find a guy the you KNOW does not use you for sex!. You will know when you find him too!. Try not to think about even though it is hard!.
Hope it helped, and good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hope it helped, and good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Were you never referred to a psychiatrist!? Pills can help with your obsessive compulsive symptoms and are much less expensive than therapy!. Sadly, the trust issue is common among abused patients and can only be helped with psychotherapy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Please quickly see a psychologist in your area!. You can try the Yellow Pages or see a general doctor for recommendations!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
so far you have recieved some good advice which I will reiterate: find a new counselor!. Often we don't connect with one person and may connect with another!. Also it takes time to work through a deep pain like this one!. Scripture says that when someone is sinned against sexually that they are sinned against in their soul! You are NOT BAD!!!! Even if you had any pleasure of any kind from the abuse (like, liking the sexual feelings aroused or like liking to be the special one or like feeling special to have a secret!.!.!.even if it also felt horrible and yucky at the same time it can be very confusing and create a big split inside) you are STILL NOT BAD!!!! You are a normal person who had something bad happen to you and it made you feel different!.
Ways to find a new counselor: contact your local rape crisis line!.!.!.they deal with long ago abuse too!. call 1-800-SUICIDE even if you are NOT SUICIDAL over this but especially if you are! They will put you in touch with your local crisis line and they can refer you on!. If it was incest then contact Incest Survivors Anonymous (ISA PO Box 17245 Long Beach, CA 90807-7245) w a self addressed stamped envelope requesting meeting locations for yourself and stating that you are an incest survivor (this is to protect as much as possible from perps coming to meetings)) or Survivors of Incest Anonymous at PO Box 190 Benson MD 21018 (410-893-3322) with 2 stamps and a check of m!.o!. for $6 and they will send packet of info!. or Incest Survivors Resource Network PO Box 7375 Las Cruces, NM 88006-7375 (505-521-4260) if it was not incest then try Sexual Abuse Survivors Anonymous PO Box 241046 Detroit, MI 48224!.
Meanwhile: Pray out your rage at God!. God is love!. And God will love you and keep loving you even if you can only feel steely hate for Him!. He is the only human being who can stand and take everything you can throw at Him and never walk away and always be ready to wrap you in His SAFE gentle arms and wash all the pain away forever!. Other people will be afraid of your anger or you will be afraid that your anger is too big for them and thus hold it back or turn it inward, but God can take it and will take it and wants to take it from you!.
Of course this has affected your relationships and self esteem!. It couldn't not!. And of course you don't trust men!. A great self-help book and workbook are: "Wounded Hearts: Help for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse" by Dan Allander (Allender!? Alander!? Allendar!?)!.
And: You can write me through yahoo answers and I WILL write you back!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ways to find a new counselor: contact your local rape crisis line!.!.!.they deal with long ago abuse too!. call 1-800-SUICIDE even if you are NOT SUICIDAL over this but especially if you are! They will put you in touch with your local crisis line and they can refer you on!. If it was incest then contact Incest Survivors Anonymous (ISA PO Box 17245 Long Beach, CA 90807-7245) w a self addressed stamped envelope requesting meeting locations for yourself and stating that you are an incest survivor (this is to protect as much as possible from perps coming to meetings)) or Survivors of Incest Anonymous at PO Box 190 Benson MD 21018 (410-893-3322) with 2 stamps and a check of m!.o!. for $6 and they will send packet of info!. or Incest Survivors Resource Network PO Box 7375 Las Cruces, NM 88006-7375 (505-521-4260) if it was not incest then try Sexual Abuse Survivors Anonymous PO Box 241046 Detroit, MI 48224!.
Meanwhile: Pray out your rage at God!. God is love!. And God will love you and keep loving you even if you can only feel steely hate for Him!. He is the only human being who can stand and take everything you can throw at Him and never walk away and always be ready to wrap you in His SAFE gentle arms and wash all the pain away forever!. Other people will be afraid of your anger or you will be afraid that your anger is too big for them and thus hold it back or turn it inward, but God can take it and will take it and wants to take it from you!.
Of course this has affected your relationships and self esteem!. It couldn't not!. And of course you don't trust men!. A great self-help book and workbook are: "Wounded Hearts: Help for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse" by Dan Allander (Allender!? Alander!? Allendar!?)!.
And: You can write me through yahoo answers and I WILL write you back!.Www@Answer-Health@Com