I cant stop crying and im really scared! the past is haunting me..?!


Question: I cant stop crying and im really scared! the past is haunting me!.!.!?
Hi!.!. im 18 years!.!. and ive been really stressed out, crying so much and im really emotional!.!. when i was 3 years old my uncle molested me and he was sent to jail because of drug cases!.!. when i was 5 my cousin who was 15 stripped me and molested me!.!. he even tried to have sex with me by rubbing his penis around my privates!.!. he used to wake me up around 3 in the morning!.!. he did this till i was 7 years old!.!. my other cousin who was slightly younger than my other cousin pinned me down and tried forcing his penis in me!.!. sobs!.!. but i managed to get up and run out!.!. when i was 12 my cousin who was 20 tried raping me and locked me in a room and i couldnt escape!.!. all i could do was cry and scream!.!. but i was saved by my sister!.!. and when my sister asked he lied and said he was playing hide and seek with me!.!. he wouldnt let me talk!.!. it was so difficult!.!. and recently my mother's boyfriend molested me!.!. i told my mum and she didnt believe me!.!. im so scared and im always trembling!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
The trauma of sexual abuse has taken its toll on your body, mind, and emotions!. It is so unfair that people in this world treat others so badly!. It does terrible and lasting damage, as you are now experiencing!.

I will recommend a website to you, where you can find help and support and a book that radically changed my life!. The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender!. It was written for adults who were sexually abused as a child!. Strong emotions arise while reading it, and it would be good to have a counselor that you meet with during the next few months while you consider what is said and consider your own story!.

http://newlife!.com is the website!. In the USA there is a free phone number 1-800-NEWLIFE They have a 24-hr number and someone to briefly help you know which way to address you problems!.

To address your trembling, I would suggest you begin by seeing your family Dr!. he can recommend how you might be treated best in your area!.
You can also seek help in one of the larger Churches in your area!. Sometimes they have counselors who understand the issues you deal with!.

I know how upsetting this can be, as my own daughter was treated like this - I never knew until years later, and I feel so badly about it all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

There is nothing wrong with you, you are just around horrible people!. You are 18 and need to leave your family behind, you deserve better!. I'm sorry that I can't be of any real help, would suggest councelling but I doubt it would help you to ever forget or cope with what you have encountered!. I wish I could help, if you need someone to talk to you can write me, we shall never meet or anything, but I'm good at listening!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Sounds like a messed up past!. If you can, move out of the house, live with some friends or something, and find people you can confide in!. Your mom should definitely believe you over her boyfriend, it is bullcrap that she doesn't!. You definitely have good reason to cry and be sad!.!.!.!.I feel for you!. Good luck, try to find a solution, and I know you can make it through this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

u have 2 break this pattern that u r attracting in to ur life!.love urslf !.forgive the perpetrators!. even tho its difficult!.focus only on positivity!.affirm"i am perfectly safe ,and this is a safe universe!." or other affirmations that help!.read louise hays book heal ur lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com

Get help, don't let this continue!. Who ever you can talk to or trust , get help!. If you don't get help keep reaching out until you do!. God does not want you to be hurt like this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Go to the policeWww@Answer-Health@Com

Hi My friend,as you need help badly,I think your father is the best person,tell him all this what is happening with you,and your father can take help of police,and on place of crying and trembling,make you self a strong person mentally,Mental power is stronger then physical power,do every day meditation it will bring confidence in you and make you mentally strong person,because now you are 18 and strong girl,If you like you can help yourself and ask your father to help you,and if forget about your mother and family living there!.Good luck and face it now a brave girl,create a confidence in you and your fear will be over,good luck!.lots of love and hugs baby be brave!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

wow how awful for you!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.get away from those people!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.your 18 can't you choose where to go!? don't your country have laws on molestation/rape!? You sound like your suffering from post traumatic stress and a reasonable fear of it happening again!. I don't know what has happened between your mom and you but obviously there is a lack of trust there or she is in some serious denial!. Tell your dad and tell him what your mom will say <keep it to the new boyfriend otherwise it may to much for him to handle> but tell him you don't know what else to do and your frightened, may work or may not but you have to try!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

what happend to your dad!?
(honest question)
Tell your dad anyway!. Even if your introuble with your mom your dad is still your dad!. he might be able to help you!. would you be able to live with him!? and do you know why your parents broke up!?
(probably seems off topic but its not!. it may explain why all those horrible men preyed on you :( !.)

yea!.!.!. your moms bf needs to be reported!. call the police!. if you have bruises from that time in the pool or other wise be sure to show them!. it will help your case!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

no, go ahead and tell your father who cares what your mother thinks, you should save the evidence in you and report it to the police without him knowing it !.glad to know your uncle went to jail for something any way!. My grand father anally abused me when i was 6 and a half and my stepfather took over there and sold me to a next door neighbor a few times when i was 9 who had also molested a friend of mine but we moved away and i was afraid to tell anyone so God knows how many were molested after that, then i think my stepfather went on to molest another step daughter of his by something odd that she said to me once, if you can walk to the police station start talking to them or tell your school,if nothing else call 1800 999 9999Www@Answer-Health@Com

My dear, I'm so sorry to hear that such a thing is happening!. You have to do something about this if you want all these to stop!.

I found these websites that can help you!.
http://www!.wao!.org!.my/
http://awam!.org!.my/en/

Call the helpline!. Now !! You shouldn't be living anymore of this hell!.

If you're afraid to call the police or tell someone you know, you will get help at those websites!. They should be able to help you!.

Tell them you need protection!.

For the record!.!.!. you SHOULD tell your father!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

My dear
I cant say don't cry because i myself as a girl cry a lot!.I hope you are a Muslim as I am!.Return to ALLAH !ask him to have his mercy on you !.If you are not a Muslim I'm sure you have someone which you can depend on(god)!.PLEASE go to a doctor,A psychologist, HE WILL HELP YOU! BELIEVE ME !.I live in Iran !. The atmosphere in my country is similar to yours!.Don't care about what people say about talking with a doctor!.I myself have been consulting with a trustworthy doctor for 3 years and i am doing it till now and I'm using his medicines!.THEY ARE REALLY HELP FULL!.Please my friend go to a doctor (if your not comfortable with a male doctor , go to a female one)!.Try to do prays,do YOGA,meditation!.
If you have the time watch 'The kite runners' movie It will you calm you down!.
I will pray for your health and peace of mind!
**If you can buy Sami Yusuf CDs and listen to them they will calm you and will strength your hope in God**{I am 19 too}

GO BACK TO YOUR FATHER
REFER TO THE LAW AND THE COURT !.I AM SURE THE JURAL WILL HELP YOU
AT LEAST THE POLICE CAN STOP THEM !!!!

DONT BR SILLY!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!?!?!?!?!?!!!!! UNDERSTANDWww@Answer-Health@Com





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