Depressed teenage daughter?!


Question: Depressed teenage daughter!?
My daughter is very popular in school and has the same friends all through her childhood!. Last weekend they were mean to her and rude and I yelled at them!. Since then they wont talk to her, her best friend has turned her back on her and my daughter is severely depressed!. She hasnt gone to school all week because she is throwing up, upset stomach and migraines!. I took her to the doctor and they couldnt find anything physically wrong with her!. I think its depression!. What can I do to help her!? I am so sad and hurting for her!. I cant believe friends can be so cruel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Well, firstly, I think she should get new and better friends!. Of course friends can be cruel!. People ARE cruel!. And chances are, at some point they'll reconcile and be friends again!. She might not realize this because she's still young, but people, especially teenagers, can often take horrible advantage of their friends and other people!. I'd talk to her about it to make sure that she never associates with those people again!. High school in general can be a more stressful place than parents realize!. You should always take interest in her life (to an extent that is) and make sure she always feels like she can confide in you as her mother!. I was always feeling awkward to do so with my mother because she had no clue what was going on at school!. Things were very different when she went to school and I knew she wouldn't understand, so I just didn't bother!. Your daughter's lucky that you do try to help and associate yourself with her problems!. This is the most stressful time of her life and you need to be there for her!. As for her current situation, take her to a psychiatrist!. She could be depressed!. The only way to find out is to get her diagnosed and treated!. If it's been a week and she's still having problems, you should definitely do something about it!.

Edit: You weren't wrong for stepping in!. You should always give your daughter her privacy, but when it comes to a situation that she doesn't know how to deal with (ie!. someone who can hurt her and take advantage of her) you do, as a mother, have a right to step in!. Only if she ever tells you not to and that she wants to make her own mistakes, should you leave her be, because that will only drive her away from you!. Otherwise, you were right in doing what you did!.

And although depression, in most cases, does take a long time to develop, there are factors that LEAD to depression, and what happened to your daughter is one of them!. So, even if she doesn't get diagnosed with depression, she still clearly needs help so that it doesn't get worse!. Oh, and also, no one knows for sure how long this has been going on!. What if she was depressed before this situation occurred, it just never escalated to this point!? So you don't know for sure how long it took to develop, anyway!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

How old is your daughter!? Is she old enough to fight her own battles!? Sounds like you owe your daughter and maybe even her (so called) freinds an apology for stepping in when you shouldn't have!.

As for her and her drepression - the situation is probably horrible for her but depression takes more than one week to work into someones life!. She is hurting - support her through this but also make her get back to school!.!.!.life has to go on!. If months pass and she is still depressed, then I would look into medication for anti-depression, from a doctor!.

Some of the most important life lessons are learned through much pain and suffering - she will get through this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

its a little more to this han your telling you do know friends go thrrough things like this i'm sure at some point your daughter turned against one of the others like this before its teen stuff what are you doing streaming at other peoples kids if anything you should have been mature &talk to them blame yourself for this you made it so much worse than it was !.your the one cruel getting in children mess !.do you really think they should talk to her afther that they probally never will i wouldn't let my child be around your daughter because of the person you are this is how you can help her grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Maybe try contacting the school counselor, they can be very helpful!. If not, maybe some regular counseling!. If you are that close to her friends, have you tried contacting one of them yourself!? Or their mothers!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would talk to your doctor about your worries, perhaps you could talk to her friends and find out why they were mean and rude to your daughter!. Perhaps you could ask at the school if they know of any reason for this sudden change in attitude!. My daughter suddenly turned on one of her closest friends who had said that she hoped her pet rat would die as it had red eyes which was the sign of the devil, this understandably upset my daughter alot and no matter what I said to her she would not make up with the other girl!. So it could be for a reason that they have blown up out of all proportion!. Until you find out the whys and wherefores of the estrangement the only think you can do is be there for your daughter by giving her the love and support that she needs!. Unfortunately children can be extremely cruel and I think we Will;l always suffer on our children's behalvesWww@Answer-Health@Com





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