Why did he have to die?!
Question: Why did he have to die!?
For the first time in my life I was so happy and completely in love!. One morning I got up and went to wake my partner but couldn't!. I tried hard to revive him but I failed, he was already dead!. I can't stop feeling guilty!. I am being treated for PTSD for this and some other traumas!.
I try to tell myself there was nothing more I could do, there was no sign that it was going to happen, but my mind just keeps going over it again and again!. I see his eyes staring at me when I turned him over!. I can't get that image out of my head!. I wish he was still here!. I just don't know what to do to get through this!.
Will I ever stop feeling so guilty!? How do I ever get through the grief!? He died just over 3yrs ago, but it feels like only yesterday!. How can I face life without him when I hurt so much!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I try to tell myself there was nothing more I could do, there was no sign that it was going to happen, but my mind just keeps going over it again and again!. I see his eyes staring at me when I turned him over!. I can't get that image out of my head!. I wish he was still here!. I just don't know what to do to get through this!.
Will I ever stop feeling so guilty!? How do I ever get through the grief!? He died just over 3yrs ago, but it feels like only yesterday!. How can I face life without him when I hurt so much!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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TJ - I am sorry for ur loss as I can only imagine ur pain!. I am always here for u if u need to talk!. I understand how u feel but it was never ur fault!. I hope u find acceptance and hope in ur life during this painful time!. Love ya JJWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sorry for your loss!. It's a normal part of grieving to feel guilty when someone dies!. The circumstances are so traumatic it's completely understandable that you can't get the image out of your mind!. It's good you are getting treatment for PTSD but maybe Bereavement Counselling would also be useful!. You will get through this and there will be a time when the pain starts to diminish, I wish you better emotional health!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Unlike a majority of people, I don't believe in Heaven or Hell, Its about as real as the boogie man or the tooth fairy!. Think of it as sleep, you never remember falling asleep; he's in his own world now, and you should not feel guilty about it because it definitely WASN'T YOUR FAULT And you should start thinking about what you really feel!. It might sound harsh, but you are feeling sorry for yourself - Its natural for humans to feel this way so you are just going to have to give it some time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Guilt and anger are part of the grieving process - even after 3 years - for a loved one, you will never forget them!. I am so sorry you had to go through such a heartbreaking experience!.
I would advise the help of a counsellor who specialises in bereavement!. Depending where you live, there are some good bereavement charities such as CRUSE in the UK!. They are to listen and no to pre-judge!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would advise the help of a counsellor who specialises in bereavement!. Depending where you live, there are some good bereavement charities such as CRUSE in the UK!. They are to listen and no to pre-judge!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
omg that is awful!. :(
i can't imagine the pain you're going through!.
i'm sorry but i don't know how to help, i just wanted to say that my thoughts are with you, and i wish you strength and courage to get through this!.
((((HUGS))))Www@Answer-Health@Com
i can't imagine the pain you're going through!.
i'm sorry but i don't know how to help, i just wanted to say that my thoughts are with you, and i wish you strength and courage to get through this!.
((((HUGS))))Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do you like being alone a lot!? Do you seek solitude!? If so, try becoming a part of something or being with friends!. It might help take your mind off your bereavement!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It was not your fault although I understand how you feel!.
I'm SO sorry for your loss!. I hope you have many friends to help you during this terrible time
Much Love
XWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm SO sorry for your loss!. I hope you have many friends to help you during this terrible time
Much Love
XWww@Answer-Health@Com
time is a great healerWww@Answer-Health@Com
That's a sad story - my heart goes out to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Time helps!. Eventually it stops hurting so much and turns into memories!. You know you are going to be OK when you can understand that this is part of your past, something that is part of who you are now!. I can't really explain it better than that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am really sorry for your loss!. It was an awful time for you and one which you will never forget!. You dont need to feel guilty!. Your partner wouldn't want that, I'm sure!.
Try to occupy your time!. What are your interests/ hobbies!. Maybe join an evening class - start to get a social circle!. You dont have to get into friendships or relationships but it will do you good to be around others!.
Everyone is different in the ways they react to grief and loss!. Three years is not really that long when you consider the tragic circumstances surrounding the loss of your partner!.
I know it's the age old saying - but it's true!. Time is a great healer!. You'll never forget but gradually the pain will become less!.
God bless!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Try to occupy your time!. What are your interests/ hobbies!. Maybe join an evening class - start to get a social circle!. You dont have to get into friendships or relationships but it will do you good to be around others!.
Everyone is different in the ways they react to grief and loss!. Three years is not really that long when you consider the tragic circumstances surrounding the loss of your partner!.
I know it's the age old saying - but it's true!. Time is a great healer!. You'll never forget but gradually the pain will become less!.
God bless!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com
dying is part of living and all of us will go the same way sooner or later!. although i'm sorry for your loss there is little comfort i could give you as long as you cling to your guilt even though there is none!. i relate to you on a personal level because i had a simular thing happening to me:
about 8 years ago i received a call from my brother in germany (where i'm from but i live in the US) to let me know that our mother was dying!. so i tried to get a flight to germany and at the time i did not have the money to get a ticketwithout borrowing some cash!. about 2 hours after the first call i received a second one!. this time it was my younger brother!. he told me that he had talked to the doc and was told that all our mother needed was a pacemaker and she would be alright!. of course i was exedingly happy over the development until i got another call about 8 hours laterthat let me know that my mother had died!. i had alot of questions and i felt consumed with anger against the doc's!. "why the hell did they not save my mother like they said they would" was one of the questions i had!. come to find out there was another woman in the hospital who happened to have the same name as my mother and that's how the mix-up came about!. i did not get to say a last good bye nor did i get to tell my mom how much i loved her nor did i get to anything!. what helped me the most was the memories of my childhood and all the things good about her!. it was very hard to stay there with so many things to say but not being able to when we buried her!. i carried anger in me for a long time but i knew that no matter how much anger i had i could not get my mom back!. you should think about the good times you had, the fun and most of all the laughter!. embrace those good memories and you will see it will help you!.
sincerely, jedimasterWww@Answer-Health@Com
about 8 years ago i received a call from my brother in germany (where i'm from but i live in the US) to let me know that our mother was dying!. so i tried to get a flight to germany and at the time i did not have the money to get a ticketwithout borrowing some cash!. about 2 hours after the first call i received a second one!. this time it was my younger brother!. he told me that he had talked to the doc and was told that all our mother needed was a pacemaker and she would be alright!. of course i was exedingly happy over the development until i got another call about 8 hours laterthat let me know that my mother had died!. i had alot of questions and i felt consumed with anger against the doc's!. "why the hell did they not save my mother like they said they would" was one of the questions i had!. come to find out there was another woman in the hospital who happened to have the same name as my mother and that's how the mix-up came about!. i did not get to say a last good bye nor did i get to tell my mom how much i loved her nor did i get to anything!. what helped me the most was the memories of my childhood and all the things good about her!. it was very hard to stay there with so many things to say but not being able to when we buried her!. i carried anger in me for a long time but i knew that no matter how much anger i had i could not get my mom back!. you should think about the good times you had, the fun and most of all the laughter!. embrace those good memories and you will see it will help you!.
sincerely, jedimasterWww@Answer-Health@Com
I sound crazy, but you can see him again!.
Order a book from the watchtower bible and tract society, type it into google, the book is called what does the bible really teach!.
if you miss him that much, you may think this is crazy, but what have you got to lose by ordering a free book!?
Everything makes senseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Order a book from the watchtower bible and tract society, type it into google, the book is called what does the bible really teach!.
if you miss him that much, you may think this is crazy, but what have you got to lose by ordering a free book!?
Everything makes senseWww@Answer-Health@Com