What do I do with my schizophrenic sister?!
Question: What do I do with my schizophrenic sister!?
My older sister is schizophrenic since 1980!. Our mom lives abroad and I'm all she has!. I'm married +3, work,and live 2 hour drive from her!.
She has been off her meds for 10 years and refuses to go back on or get help!. She lives in a filthy hut that I wouldn't even put my dogs in, she's filthy and dresses worse than a homeless person!. All this and she has the money to live and dress well (She got sick serving in the IDF and gets money from the ministry of Defense)
I told her she can't come to my home until she gets back on her meds but she refuses, says she's healthy and doesn't need them!. I 've tried to hospitalize her, but she's neither suicidal nor a danger to others!.
Everyone in the system keeps pushing for me to become her legal gardian, but the truth is, my hands are full with my own life!. Also, this sounds horrible, but I can't spend more than an hour with her I get too stressed out!. She has someone from the army help her that she gets along with
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She has been off her meds for 10 years and refuses to go back on or get help!. She lives in a filthy hut that I wouldn't even put my dogs in, she's filthy and dresses worse than a homeless person!. All this and she has the money to live and dress well (She got sick serving in the IDF and gets money from the ministry of Defense)
I told her she can't come to my home until she gets back on her meds but she refuses, says she's healthy and doesn't need them!. I 've tried to hospitalize her, but she's neither suicidal nor a danger to others!.
Everyone in the system keeps pushing for me to become her legal gardian, but the truth is, my hands are full with my own life!. Also, this sounds horrible, but I can't spend more than an hour with her I get too stressed out!. She has someone from the army help her that she gets along with
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Answers:
There is a book called "I am not sick I don't need help"!. The author's last name is Amador!. It has very practical advice about dealing with the exact problem you are having!. And don't feel bad when you need to limit your time spent with an unmedicated schizophrenic!. You have to protect yourself or you will never be able to help your sister!.
Don't let anyone pressure you into a guardianship you can't manage!. It would only hurt you both!. It would force you to put yourself in a stressful situation you already know you can't handle!. You have to protect yourself!. The court will assign a guardian for her if she needs one!. Your local probate court might have some answers for you about your county/state guardianship resources!. You don't live near enough to get there quickly in case of an emergency!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't let anyone pressure you into a guardianship you can't manage!. It would only hurt you both!. It would force you to put yourself in a stressful situation you already know you can't handle!. You have to protect yourself!. The court will assign a guardian for her if she needs one!. Your local probate court might have some answers for you about your county/state guardianship resources!. You don't live near enough to get there quickly in case of an emergency!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is a limit to what one person can do!.
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference!."
My advice is to do nothing!. If your sister BECOMES a threat to herself or to others, then--and only then--should you consider becoming her guardian!.
It is, indeed, terrible to watch someone you love in pain!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference!."
My advice is to do nothing!. If your sister BECOMES a threat to herself or to others, then--and only then--should you consider becoming her guardian!.
It is, indeed, terrible to watch someone you love in pain!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just think for a minute if the table were turned , what would you want your sister to do for!.!.!.you two are sisters and remember she was the one who lucked out with this disorder, it could have easily been youWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think that you should become her legal guardian!. It might help her!. It's bad enough that she's stuck with this disease so why not make it easier for her!. i understand how you feel and how it's hard to have a sister like that but i think that having help from her sister would be healthier for her!. Maybe if you spent more time with her you might be able to convince her to go back on her meds and use the money to help herself!.
That's all the advice you can get but the rest is in your own hands!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's all the advice you can get but the rest is in your own hands!.Www@Answer-Health@Com