Childhood abuse memories?!
Question: Childhood abuse memories!?
i was abused for years by my dad and his friends, both physically and verbally and i can not stop the memories!. I can not sleep with out dreaming about it!. I just want to forget it all, the memories make me angry and have caused me to cut myself in the past!. is there a way to supress the memories so i can move on!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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When I was just a young one I was tied to a chair and forced to watch my mother be beat and raped!. I couldn't even turn my head!.!.!.it too was tied!. I too had nightmares for years!. I thought of suicide and running away!. I cried many tears over it!. My mother and I had each other to lean on with that situation and we helped each other through it!. I am still haunted by it!.!.!.but I've grown to not let it control me!.
You'll never forget it, sweety!. :( But if you can find some support and you force yourself to get through every day, and learn to hold your head up high!.!.!.you'll get through it!.
I'm sorry it happened sweety and I really do wish you all the best in the world!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You'll never forget it, sweety!. :( But if you can find some support and you force yourself to get through every day, and learn to hold your head up high!.!.!.you'll get through it!.
I'm sorry it happened sweety and I really do wish you all the best in the world!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sorry to hear that!.!.!.but i don't think you can forget it!.!.!.just keep your mind occupied on something else that's the only way and since it happens when your going to sleep play music any songs that make you feel good!. (take away the pain)
i would reccomend wearing headphones because if the music is the only thing good that's happening your gonna want to play it as loud as possible!. (without bothering everyone else of course)
Hope there's a jump in medical science!. "The anti-memory pill"
it can't come soon enough right!.
update!.!.!.
To Big T- your past does influence who you are at whatever specified point in time!. (to much evidence)
update!.!.!.
what do you get out of cutting yourself!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
i would reccomend wearing headphones because if the music is the only thing good that's happening your gonna want to play it as loud as possible!. (without bothering everyone else of course)
Hope there's a jump in medical science!. "The anti-memory pill"
it can't come soon enough right!.
update!.!.!.
To Big T- your past does influence who you are at whatever specified point in time!. (to much evidence)
update!.!.!.
what do you get out of cutting yourself!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't suppress them they will come out in some way or another!. I was abused as a kid, I had a really crappy childhood!.!.!.You need to look at these things in a positive light (I know its hard to do and easier said than done) Everything you have been through has made you a stronger person and made you who you are today!. Put the energy you are putting into your sorrow into something good!.!.!.for example, the way I fought back!.!.!.!.when I was hit or mistreated as a kid I told myself I would NEVER treat my kids like that and I will be the best mom there is!.!.!.!.!.I fought back by breaking the cycle, adopting a little girl and raising my 2 children with my heart and soul to the best of my ability!. I can say that I no longer get sad when I think about my childhood because i took my situation and raised my children opposite how I was raised and made a fantastic life for two little people!.
If you let yourself drowned in your sorrows thats exactly what you will do!.!.!.they are abusing you even after the abuse stopped!.!.!.!.YOU NEED TO WIN!.!.!.!.YOU WANT TO WIN dont give them one more tear! Pick your chin up and be proactive!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you let yourself drowned in your sorrows thats exactly what you will do!.!.!.they are abusing you even after the abuse stopped!.!.!.!.YOU NEED TO WIN!.!.!.!.YOU WANT TO WIN dont give them one more tear! Pick your chin up and be proactive!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is a way to suppress them, and there is a way to move on, but there is no way to do both!. I was abused and the only way 'out' is 'through'!. You have to deal with them!. It's like pulling out a thorn; it hurts more briefly, then you can heal!. Otherwise it hurts a moderate amount FOREVER!. No contest, really!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ou cant conciously supress memories(im pretty sure you cant) you mind does it automatically, trying to supress them only recalls them!. more than that though is that to supress your memories will cause more harm it denys you past and yourself its always better to face the past than to hide from it!. this from someoen who ran and hid for a great deal of my life!. if ya want to talk email me via my profile!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.napac!.org!.uk/survivors/suppor!.!.!.
http://www!.aest!.org!.uk/helplines/uk_surv!.!.!.
http://www!.hiddenhurt!.co!.uk/Resources/he!.!.!.
Those sites will give useful links and phone numbers for you!. I REALLY reccomend 'napac'!.
You will eventually be able to sleep at night, with help that is right for you!. The right help might take a while to find but it's worth the struggle!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.aest!.org!.uk/helplines/uk_surv!.!.!.
http://www!.hiddenhurt!.co!.uk/Resources/he!.!.!.
Those sites will give useful links and phone numbers for you!. I REALLY reccomend 'napac'!.
You will eventually be able to sleep at night, with help that is right for you!. The right help might take a while to find but it's worth the struggle!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't think so!. i would suggest counseling!. What I really want you to know is, that
1!. this horrible thing that happen to you is NOT your fault!. Don't EVER blame yourself for the actions of others!.
2!. you can be bigger than what has happen to you!. your past does NOT determine who you are today, or who you will be tomorrow!.
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(praying for you)Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. this horrible thing that happen to you is NOT your fault!. Don't EVER blame yourself for the actions of others!.
2!. you can be bigger than what has happen to you!. your past does NOT determine who you are today, or who you will be tomorrow!.
p4u
(praying for you)Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to see a therapist, they do have a forget pill out but I haven't heard too much about it!. Sometimes, we have to be stronger than our problems!. Giving into cutting your self just shows that you have as little self control as your Father!. I hope you can overcome your psychosis!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi,
I think you should go for councelling its the best way!. It will really help you it helped me as well!. when you trust somebody and talk freely its help you!. I know you wont forgot what happened to you but it will diffentely help you!. I will pray to GOD 4 u that u get help soon!. No need to harm yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you should go for councelling its the best way!. It will really help you it helped me as well!. when you trust somebody and talk freely its help you!. I know you wont forgot what happened to you but it will diffentely help you!. I will pray to GOD 4 u that u get help soon!. No need to harm yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was molested once as a young child and I remember!. There is no way to forget but if you try to do more things and if you can find something you enjoy doing the mind some how temporarily leaves the bad memories at bay and we feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
release your anger don't repress your feelings!.!.thats really awful you have a right to be really angry but you don't have to destroy yourself
i know that you can't forgive them now but do the first step let them know what the did to you was despicableWww@Answer-Health@Com
i know that you can't forgive them now but do the first step let them know what the did to you was despicableWww@Answer-Health@Com
It's not healthy to suppress them, however you do need therapy to help you deal with them and move on!. Go to your doctor and ask them for a referral to a "good" therapy that specialises in your particular abuse!.
It does get better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It does get better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am not sure that suppression of your memories is what you need you should get therapy talk to someone trained to deal with this kind of situation!. Ask your doctor to recommend a good therapist!. Good luck to you I am sure with help you will be OK!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try going to a therapist,
I never thought it would help but it did help me a lot!.
You can also talk to friends about it trust me it will make you feel a lot better!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I never thought it would help but it did help me a lot!.
You can also talk to friends about it trust me it will make you feel a lot better!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe concentrate on an athletic life!.!.!. or concentrate on something that can relieve you or makes you happy
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Something like this needs therapy to address the past and move you on!. You won't get an easy answer to this one I'm afraid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go see a psychiatristWww@Answer-Health@Com
yes, I woulld recomed seeing your doc or a counselorWww@Answer-Health@Com
There are things you need to do to be able to rest and sleep without dreaming about it all the time!. I'll list them in no particular order for your consideration--and feel free to add anything you think I missed!.
1!. go to a counselor!. You need someone to talk to who can be objective, won't judge, and with whom you can leave your stuff behind!.
2!. cry--you need to grieve and allow yourself to feel the full depth of pain and heartache to let it go!.
3!. forgive them--this is not for them, this is for you!. to understand what it feels like to forgive, you need to understand what the opposite is!. The opposite is revenge or vengeance!. To seek revenge or vengeance means you seek to hurt or injure them, or to seek satisfaction--for the person to pay a penalty!. to forgive means you let go of the penalty, or to give up resentment or claim!. In order for you to allow good in, you have to let bad out--and to let bad out, you have to let good in!. Forgiving someone is not the same as forgetfulness--it is a choice to abandon getting even and hurting the other!. For example, when someone insults you, rather than insulting them, you choose to return a compliment or a smile!. This is a way of forgiving or blessing them!. Being able to do this is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength!. It will allow you to move on!.
4!. do the activities your therapist suggests--for instance, writing down your feelings/thoughts/pain may sound useless and silly, but is actually very theraputic and helpful!. If you follow this particular activity until its end you will find it does actually help!.
5!. find 5 things about yourself/your life for which you are grateful today--and everyday!. This will be very hard but very powerful!.!.!.
6!. be patient with yourself!.!.!.and forgive yourself!. What happened to you was not your fault!.
Good luck, I hope this helps you in some way!. dealing with these things is difficult and painful!.
PS--the memories have to be dealt with, not suppressed!. Your body will manifest the memories in illness/stress if you do not!. It's better to face this head-on!. It's never as bad as it seems!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. go to a counselor!. You need someone to talk to who can be objective, won't judge, and with whom you can leave your stuff behind!.
2!. cry--you need to grieve and allow yourself to feel the full depth of pain and heartache to let it go!.
3!. forgive them--this is not for them, this is for you!. to understand what it feels like to forgive, you need to understand what the opposite is!. The opposite is revenge or vengeance!. To seek revenge or vengeance means you seek to hurt or injure them, or to seek satisfaction--for the person to pay a penalty!. to forgive means you let go of the penalty, or to give up resentment or claim!. In order for you to allow good in, you have to let bad out--and to let bad out, you have to let good in!. Forgiving someone is not the same as forgetfulness--it is a choice to abandon getting even and hurting the other!. For example, when someone insults you, rather than insulting them, you choose to return a compliment or a smile!. This is a way of forgiving or blessing them!. Being able to do this is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength!. It will allow you to move on!.
4!. do the activities your therapist suggests--for instance, writing down your feelings/thoughts/pain may sound useless and silly, but is actually very theraputic and helpful!. If you follow this particular activity until its end you will find it does actually help!.
5!. find 5 things about yourself/your life for which you are grateful today--and everyday!. This will be very hard but very powerful!.!.!.
6!. be patient with yourself!.!.!.and forgive yourself!. What happened to you was not your fault!.
Good luck, I hope this helps you in some way!. dealing with these things is difficult and painful!.
PS--the memories have to be dealt with, not suppressed!. Your body will manifest the memories in illness/stress if you do not!. It's better to face this head-on!. It's never as bad as it seems!.Www@Answer-Health@Com