Serious answers, I am mad?!
Question: Serious answers, I am mad!?
I was laid off from my job two months ago and I haven't been able to find another one!. My boyfriend invited me over for Sunday and Monday of this week!. He helped me pay my bills last month and was intending on paying them this month!. He was drinking when I arrived yesterday about 1 pm and I had a couple of drinks with him and fell asleep since I hadn't slept well Saturday night!. When I woke up around 6 pm he was totally loaded on rum and smoking pot and acting obnoxious!. Since I can't or don't really care about pot I thought I'd have a few drinks more, so I wouldn't feel totally annoyed with him!. Then he started in on all my supposed faults, and told me I was a total loser for losing my job, and everyone hated me!. It made me so mad that I took a razor from the bathroom and slit my wrist superficially!. I am worried about how I am going to pay my bills, how I am going to find a job, and how to cover up this wrist slit!. I am so angry that I really never want to see again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Some people are just *******!. Even though it's very nice of him to help you out, the mean things he said when you were over there completely negate anything nice that he has done!. Can you imagine what it would be like to live with a guy like that!?
I don't know what state you live in, but in my state, if you get laid off you automatically get unemployment!. Check with your state's employment security office and get that check rolling!. They can also help you find a new job!.
In the meantime, you can contact your nearest emergency shelter and they will give you the contact information for all the organizations that help people pay their bills when they fall on hard times!. They can also help you navigate the system!. Usually, you can contact the local women's shelter and they will help you!. You don't have to stay at the shelter to get help from them!. They are there for ALL women!.
I know how hard it is to find a job!. I have - literally - 14 certifications and when I found myself "suddenly single" with two children after an 8 year marriage, it took me over six months to find a decent job!. No one wanted to hire me because I had spent the last few years of my life changing diapers and vacuuming!. I guess those aren't marketable skills!.
I feel for you, Sister!. I think that you also need to think long and hard about your boyfriend and what he has to offer you besides money!. If the list runs short, perhaps you should move on!. Any guy that's going to make you so upset that you do something like that - even if you have no intention of actually hurting yourself - is not a guy that you should be around!. And hell, if he still wants to pay your bills, let him!. Call it a$$hole tax and use the stepping stone to better your situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't know what state you live in, but in my state, if you get laid off you automatically get unemployment!. Check with your state's employment security office and get that check rolling!. They can also help you find a new job!.
In the meantime, you can contact your nearest emergency shelter and they will give you the contact information for all the organizations that help people pay their bills when they fall on hard times!. They can also help you navigate the system!. Usually, you can contact the local women's shelter and they will help you!. You don't have to stay at the shelter to get help from them!. They are there for ALL women!.
I know how hard it is to find a job!. I have - literally - 14 certifications and when I found myself "suddenly single" with two children after an 8 year marriage, it took me over six months to find a decent job!. No one wanted to hire me because I had spent the last few years of my life changing diapers and vacuuming!. I guess those aren't marketable skills!.
I feel for you, Sister!. I think that you also need to think long and hard about your boyfriend and what he has to offer you besides money!. If the list runs short, perhaps you should move on!. Any guy that's going to make you so upset that you do something like that - even if you have no intention of actually hurting yourself - is not a guy that you should be around!. And hell, if he still wants to pay your bills, let him!. Call it a$$hole tax and use the stepping stone to better your situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds to me like this guy is a massive idiotic a**hole!. If so, please dump him, put a band-aid on the wrist or something, and focus on finding a job!. (if someone asks, I don't know what to say, but you might blame it on broken glass, or the cat, if you have one!. Weak, but it might work!.)Www@Answer-Health@Com
What's the question!? Losing your job is one of the most stressful experiences that can happen, and I think your boyfriend's behavior was unacceptable!. Find other ways to pay your bills, and put everything you have into finding another job!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ummm no man is worth this type of reaction and if he is using drugs you need to get rid of him!. Oh, and get some counseling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get a therapistWww@Answer-Health@Com
No offence, but I really feel you're immature!. Your life isn't all about some bills, work and what comes out of a drunken man!. And NO, you are definitely not mad!.
Just get a good night's sleep, wake up and you'll feel a whole much better!. The next morning, think, think about what you're good at and take that as a point why you shouldn't give up!. And every person is unique, so there is no reason why you can't find a talent!. Go job-hunting after that, and make use of your talent!. Don't just call and send resumes to fifty companies - they won't work, trust me!. Find what you really like and you can manage!.
Your boyfriend is just drunk and he just let slip of something he didn't mean to say!. Just forgive and forget!. Your life would be something much better and you would strive to continue living!.
A lot of people lose their jobs, but only half are losers!. The other half are people with dedication and determination not to give up and continue doing what they want in life and that equals to success!.
Believe in yourself, and live life to its fullest!. By slitting your wrist, whether superficially or not, it is a very stupid thing to do!. Now, do nothing but talk to your boyfriend about your needs how both of you are going to solve it!. But if he is not of much help, turn to your family members!. Don't feel ashamed of yourself, a family is something to count on matter what happens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just get a good night's sleep, wake up and you'll feel a whole much better!. The next morning, think, think about what you're good at and take that as a point why you shouldn't give up!. And every person is unique, so there is no reason why you can't find a talent!. Go job-hunting after that, and make use of your talent!. Don't just call and send resumes to fifty companies - they won't work, trust me!. Find what you really like and you can manage!.
Your boyfriend is just drunk and he just let slip of something he didn't mean to say!. Just forgive and forget!. Your life would be something much better and you would strive to continue living!.
A lot of people lose their jobs, but only half are losers!. The other half are people with dedication and determination not to give up and continue doing what they want in life and that equals to success!.
Believe in yourself, and live life to its fullest!. By slitting your wrist, whether superficially or not, it is a very stupid thing to do!. Now, do nothing but talk to your boyfriend about your needs how both of you are going to solve it!. But if he is not of much help, turn to your family members!. Don't feel ashamed of yourself, a family is something to count on matter what happens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ok so slitting your rists is kinda crazy, but being unemployed and actually wanting to work is a major factor in this!. Its tough trying to find a job, and paying bills can seem impossible!. You didnt say where you were from but cant you apply for government help - dole, welfare!. Im sure they have bursaries for times of need like this!. Do you have family you could ask for help!.
As for your boyfriend!.!.!.!.!.well if he was slating you, thats out of order, but if you were both drunk, or high or whatever then it probably got out of hand!. Have you seen him since!?!?
Good luck and asking for help is not a fault or sign of weakness, everyone needs help eventually!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com
As for your boyfriend!.!.!.!.!.well if he was slating you, thats out of order, but if you were both drunk, or high or whatever then it probably got out of hand!. Have you seen him since!?!?
Good luck and asking for help is not a fault or sign of weakness, everyone needs help eventually!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Go with your instincts Cara!. Don't see him again!. You need people around that will help boost you up, not put you down!. Think about it, if you didn't have to worry about paying your bills would you put up with his behaviour!? I doubt it!. It's horrible when things aren't going how you want but it honestly does happen to everyone at some point and then things change again!. The last thing you need right now is a drunk, drug addled mean boyfriend!. You're worth more than that!. See if you can find someone else to help you out for a while!. Stick with people who care about you and keep on looking for a job!. You'll get one if you keep trying and then you will be able to care for yourself!. I know things are tough right now but don't let him drag you down!. And in answer to your question - no you're not mad!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com