Help! My friend is hurting herself?!

Wow!. That's intense!. I can only offer you my help through what I've been through!. I've been clinically depressed for most of my life, have attempted suicide a few times, had serious anger problems, and used to cut myself and pull out my hair (but not as bad as your friend)!. Recently I decided that the only way I could solve my problems was to drop out of my high school, move out of my house with my parents and in with relatives across the country and try to live a normal life there!. Here I made my first progress in moving towards mental health!.
Back at home, my parents had tried to force me to go see shrinks, which just made me angry and didn't help at all!. Here, I made the decision to go see a therapist on my own!. I found someone that I really liked and could relate to, and enjoyed talking to!. I'm now on anti-depressants, have stopped cutting myself, am in a healthy relationship, and am the happiest I've ever been in my life!.
Please, please, please try to get your friend to seek help!. I know that she is opposed to the idea, but I said the exact same things she is saying to you now!. I never thought I would take a pill to make myself feel better!. And I never thought that paying someone money to tell you things that you already knew could possibly help!. But it really, really does!.
Your friend is lucky to have you, and to have a positive adult in her life!. Please go talk to your youth pastor and tell him what you think should be done about your friend!. Then the two of you should sit down and have a serious conversation with her!. She needs your help!. Don't let her sink down farther!.
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What would i do!? i will ask the pastor to please tell her mother !.They could do a check on her like they dont know she done it again and find out surprisely!.!.!.!.so you wont loose your friends trust!.!. she needs help seriously !.!. needs theraphy ,her mother support and probadly medication and mostly friends like you around that can trust!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Well someone needs to tell her mom, so that she can go to counseling!. In my opinion, it's not the cutting that's the problem, so much as it's the symptom of the problem!. She is in great psychological turmoil!. This youth pastor doesn't sound like he/she's helping all that much!. Your friend needs a trained professional!.
Also, she and her mom need to shop around for a therapist that is right for the job!. Keep trying different ones till she finds one she likes and can help her!.
The problem is that the current situation will likely progress and get worse unless there is a competent intervention!. Sometimes you have to do things that your friends will "hate" you for but it's in their own best interests!. That's really being a friend!. I think the youth counselor should meet with the mom and talk to her, and be informed about self-mutilation before he/she speaks to the mom!. This is not exactly suicidal behavior, it's indicative of mental crisis though!. Then let a PROFESSIONAL handle it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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You need to tell her mother immediatly, she could easily cut herself too deep and bleed to death!.!.!. and although she is opposed to shrinks, she needs to go back, if anything, she needs to go to a rehab of some sort!. I know that sounds a bit rational, but this is serious!. She also needs to be taken to the hospital, because she could get tetnus!. Also, tell your parents, and see what they think!. My friend went through this, and she eventually stopped cutting when she got help!. PLEASE remain friends with her, it sounds like you're all she's really got right now!. I know losing a family member is hard, but tell her that her dad wouldn't want her to do this to herself!. I know that might "hit below the belt" but maybe it will finally get through to her that this is wrong and dangerous!. It's attempted suicide, whether she believes it or not!. Let her read this answer and your question, so she can see how much you care about her!.

Also, she can go to this website I just found for you guys,
http://www!.getconnected!.org!.uk/

and she can call them or email them or whatever, and her emails will be answered within 24 hours!.

I really hope I helped you, and especially your friend!.


You sound like a wonderful and caring friend, and there will be a special spot in heaven waiting for you, dear!.

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Okay let me start by saying, I know exactly what you're going through!. Furthermore, I had a friend that cut herself (two actually, one stopped of her own will, other didn't)!. All over her wrists and up her arms!. She did it for years before she even met me (I didn't know until later when he confided in me and showed the scars)!. I told her she needed to stop and it was bad for her!. She said she was trying, and I was like okay as long as you're trying!. That wasn't enough!. I found fresh scars two weeks later and went to our school counselor and stabbed her in the back (as she says)!. She got help ("shrinks" and medicine), and is now much better!. Although we don't really talk much anymore (a little talking is progress considering she apparently "hates" me), I know from a mutual friend that she's stopped!. And from how low on her arms she was getting (on her wrists), I was glad I told!. Sure, I lost a friend, but I saved her life!. I know I did, and someday (I think she's starting to), she'll realize why I did what I did!. You need to tell her mom!. If counseling isn't working, she needs medicine!. Although she thinks it will "warp" her mind, it really helps!. I've had to do anti-depressants, and they really help you stand up then all you have to do is the walking!. Her youth pastor is right on the whole losing the trust thing, but if it helps her, then no matter about it!. Tell!. Her!. Mom!. If you're this worried then obviously she is sinking deeper and deeper!. Dear, if you don't get her help, then she's going to eventually kill herself, one way or another!. There are so many veins and arteries that she could puncture and die!. There are helplines out there (for you and her check on the web and give them a call), if you don't want to go public just yet!. But I assure you, they are going to tell you the same thing!. Right now, she needs you, her friend, the most!. And despite how she's pushing the help away, she needs it!. Go to her mom, and tell her what has been happening!. Tell her the "shrinks" aren't working, and that she needs real help, like pills!. Because honestly!? If she keeps going the way she is, she's going to be admitted into a psych ward!. You think I'm kidding!? I'm not!. The girl I mentioned!? Her mom admitted her to one for I believe two days or so (until she got out of her huge moment of I'm going to kill myself)!. They will admit you if you are a danger to yourself or others!. Your friend seems to be the first!. Help her, please, before you regret it!. If you lose her friendship, so be it!. You will have saved her life!. And what is more important!?

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