How to deal with the loss of my only sibling?!


Question: How to deal with the loss of my only sibling!?
i lost my only sibling, my brother, last year on may 9th 2007!. many of my reletives who attened his funeral say i didnt cry at all, i just "stared into space" at the service!. looking back i admit that i didnt grieve at all!. this year though has been hard!. my mom says i am depressed, and my depression is causing anxiety!. Roy(my brother) died suddenly after a stroke,he was only 25!. I am 22 now!. How do i cope with his death!? i miss him so much! i cry everyday until my eyes hurt!. can anyone help me!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
You should cry, it helps to get it all out!.

It sounds like you have repressed your feelings and your grieving is happening now rather than when you lost your brother!. There is nothing wrong with being sad and missing your brother, it's normal and right!.

It might help to talk to a grief counselor or even someone who is apart from the situation!. Try talking to them about all the things that you loved about your brother, the things that you miss and how it makes you feel!.

You shouldn't try to hold it in anymore, a terrible thing has happened and you're allowed to be sad about it!.

Just make sure that it doesn't take over your life forever, that would be a waste and your brother wouldn't want you to mourn him forever!.

Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I'm sorry for your loss!. I know what your going through!. I had someone really close to me die and its' hard to move on!. Remembering him is a good thing but your brother would want you to be happy and not worry about him because he is peaceful now and is in no pain!. Its' ok to be sad about your brothers' death but it may be time to move on!. Something that might help is to keep a picture by your bed and look at it every morning but don't be sad because he is not in pain anymore!.Try the best you can to get through this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

The only thing I can recommend is remember the good things about him!. Try not to think of how he died, just think of all the good things he did!. I know that is easier said than done!. Think about it like this though!. Your brother wouldn't want you to mourn his passing, he would rather you rejoice in the life he had!. Eventually the pain will subside, it will never go away completely but it will slack up!. As long as you keep your brother's memory alive he is never truly gone!. If you are worried about having a stroke as well schedule a doctor's appointment and have a complete physical, blood work or whatever it takes!. I hope I helped you at least a little!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I am so sorry about that!. I know that it is really hard to lose a sibling!. Even though I haven't lost my only brother!. But we did separate for quite a while!. I was bored everyday, and when he would come back on the weekends I would have fights with him, but even when he left, I felt really sad, and I couldn't stand it anymore!. So I told my parents and they understood how I felt!. so maybe you should just talk to somebody about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i am so sorry!. i am only 14, but i just lost my grandma and i know how hard it is!. Undertstand that ur brother lived a happy life, and had great family, and a great sister!. Death is a tragic part of life, and understand that millions deal w/ the same depression u do!. to beat it, run in the sun, and talk to your brother!.!.!.he is in heaven listening!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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