Please help me- Im getting really dpressed and I am only 15?!
Question: Please help me- Im getting really dpressed and I am only 15!?
Ok, so I am suffering from dipression quite badly!. I would like you to please answer my questions as thoroughly as possible!.
1!. My friend comes round my house that she has never been to before, and I always thought it was a special house, very loving caring and secrt like because no-one has been there before apart from my family!. My parents are split, but they still get on really well and I stay at both houses!. Now my friend came over uesterday to sleep at my house (the special one) and ever since she was here, I wanted her away from me!. It made me feel like she was making my house dirty, she wasn't physically but I felt like she was!. She wasn;t abusing my house but after she left, I felt like my house would not be the same and lost that touch!. I have got my GCSE's, so I am stressed, and problems at home such as parents splitting up!.!.!.
Why do I feel like she makes my house dirty!?
Is there a name for this condition/disease/depression!?
Please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. My friend comes round my house that she has never been to before, and I always thought it was a special house, very loving caring and secrt like because no-one has been there before apart from my family!. My parents are split, but they still get on really well and I stay at both houses!. Now my friend came over uesterday to sleep at my house (the special one) and ever since she was here, I wanted her away from me!. It made me feel like she was making my house dirty, she wasn't physically but I felt like she was!. She wasn;t abusing my house but after she left, I felt like my house would not be the same and lost that touch!. I have got my GCSE's, so I am stressed, and problems at home such as parents splitting up!.!.!.
Why do I feel like she makes my house dirty!?
Is there a name for this condition/disease/depression!?
Please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
There are some things to think about here:
Your parents are splitting up: I know what that feels like because my parents split up when I was 15, and it was totally horrible!. I was sad, and angry, and scared, and confused, and it made me think about relationships a lot!. It made me feel insecure!. It made me need my friends more than ever, and I especially wanted them to say all the right things (and of course they didn't, because they didn't really understand how I was feeling)!. It sounds like you've also had to cope with a house move, and even if it's a lovely house, moving is also unsettling!. Plus you've got your GCSEs!.
I don't think you have got a condition or a disease or a depression!. I think you're feeling sad, stressed out and probably pretty angry!. Even if you understand why your parents have split, and you don't blame them etc!., you might also be feeling pretty angry because what you REALLY want is both parents happily together so that you can get on with your GCSEs and not have all this disruption and hassle at home! (And then you might feel guilty for having those thoughts and so you try to squash them down!.!.!.)
I think that when your friend came to visit your house, it made the house into a 'normal house' - like, just a house where friends come and everything's just ordinary!.
But then you had to face the fact that it ISN'T ordinary, because your parents have split, and you live in two different houses, and you wish it wasn't like that!.!.!.!. Until your friend came round, the house had been 'special' because you hadn't been living in it normally - does that make sense!? It had been just you and your new family structure!.
Although lots of families split up these days, I think it's one of the hardest and most painful thing that children - especially teenagers - have to go through!. The parents often don't realise just how upsetting it is for us: my parents definitely didn't!. My mum used to bend my ear about all her divorce problems, and my dad used to complain about the money side of things! It was a nightmare, and I now think they were both very selfish!
Do you have a counsellor at school!? I think that you need someone to talk to through this!. I don't think anti depressants would help because it's perfectly normal that you would be feeling unhappy and distressed under the circumstances, and I think you need some kind, caring support all of your own!.
Don't worry about your friend making your house feel dirty: It's just a symptom of your stressed feelings!. I would do your best to find a counsellor that you can really talk to: your doctor will find one for you, if you don't have a school one!.
But you're not ill - just unhappy, and it will get better, I promise!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your parents are splitting up: I know what that feels like because my parents split up when I was 15, and it was totally horrible!. I was sad, and angry, and scared, and confused, and it made me think about relationships a lot!. It made me feel insecure!. It made me need my friends more than ever, and I especially wanted them to say all the right things (and of course they didn't, because they didn't really understand how I was feeling)!. It sounds like you've also had to cope with a house move, and even if it's a lovely house, moving is also unsettling!. Plus you've got your GCSEs!.
I don't think you have got a condition or a disease or a depression!. I think you're feeling sad, stressed out and probably pretty angry!. Even if you understand why your parents have split, and you don't blame them etc!., you might also be feeling pretty angry because what you REALLY want is both parents happily together so that you can get on with your GCSEs and not have all this disruption and hassle at home! (And then you might feel guilty for having those thoughts and so you try to squash them down!.!.!.)
I think that when your friend came to visit your house, it made the house into a 'normal house' - like, just a house where friends come and everything's just ordinary!.
But then you had to face the fact that it ISN'T ordinary, because your parents have split, and you live in two different houses, and you wish it wasn't like that!.!.!.!. Until your friend came round, the house had been 'special' because you hadn't been living in it normally - does that make sense!? It had been just you and your new family structure!.
Although lots of families split up these days, I think it's one of the hardest and most painful thing that children - especially teenagers - have to go through!. The parents often don't realise just how upsetting it is for us: my parents definitely didn't!. My mum used to bend my ear about all her divorce problems, and my dad used to complain about the money side of things! It was a nightmare, and I now think they were both very selfish!
Do you have a counsellor at school!? I think that you need someone to talk to through this!. I don't think anti depressants would help because it's perfectly normal that you would be feeling unhappy and distressed under the circumstances, and I think you need some kind, caring support all of your own!.
Don't worry about your friend making your house feel dirty: It's just a symptom of your stressed feelings!. I would do your best to find a counsellor that you can really talk to: your doctor will find one for you, if you don't have a school one!.
But you're not ill - just unhappy, and it will get better, I promise!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
simply put
you beleived your house to be your haven
when some one else came round you didn't think it would be the same because no one knew what it was like!.
i bet their were places she didn't go so try to stay to those rooms because they arn't "dirty"Www@Answer-Health@Com
you beleived your house to be your haven
when some one else came round you didn't think it would be the same because no one knew what it was like!.
i bet their were places she didn't go so try to stay to those rooms because they arn't "dirty"Www@Answer-Health@Com
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try to relax and remember there are always people worse of than you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
U r on the right track!. See a Doctor soon!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Dear U must see Dr!. as early as possible u have some depressionWww@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe your friend really does make your house dirty!.
You could be dealing with a Obsessive Compulsive type disorder!. If you go to the doctor to get a diagnosis they are most likely just going to medicate you with some sort of drug that is probably very bad for you (Ritalin, Prozac, Zoloft!.!.etc)
Unless you are thinking scary thoughts (homicidal, suicidal!.!.etc) I would suggest that you relax and have some introspection time and try to get to the root of the problem to solve these issues!. Sometimes we can get manic about things and they are attributed to issues we would never think they could be connected to!. If your depression gets worse and you ever start contemplating hurting yourself then first, don't! Seek help and do whatever the doctor tells you to do!. If it makes you feel better to talk to a counselor then you should!. Again I would just encourage you to avoid being medicated!. It's been shown that those drugs can actually cause suicidal thoughts in people, especially young people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You could be dealing with a Obsessive Compulsive type disorder!. If you go to the doctor to get a diagnosis they are most likely just going to medicate you with some sort of drug that is probably very bad for you (Ritalin, Prozac, Zoloft!.!.etc)
Unless you are thinking scary thoughts (homicidal, suicidal!.!.etc) I would suggest that you relax and have some introspection time and try to get to the root of the problem to solve these issues!. Sometimes we can get manic about things and they are attributed to issues we would never think they could be connected to!. If your depression gets worse and you ever start contemplating hurting yourself then first, don't! Seek help and do whatever the doctor tells you to do!. If it makes you feel better to talk to a counselor then you should!. Again I would just encourage you to avoid being medicated!. It's been shown that those drugs can actually cause suicidal thoughts in people, especially young people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
obsessive compulsive disorder - you are obsessed with cleanliness - that could be one thing or you have been insulated from people and having someone in your house finally is a new experience and takes some getting used to -Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you need to go to the doctors and talk to someone!.
You do not necessarily have to tell your parents at this stage as you just need some guidance!.
Other people feel like you, i know i did when i was younger and i felt like i was the only one - i attended therapy groups which are not as bad as the media makes them out to be, i gained a lot of confidence!.
I think the reason you felt like that when your friend came around is because you feel that your house is your safe place and became fearful that it was no longer safe when she arrived!.
Please do not suffer in silence, i know how hard it can be and its nothing to be afraid or ashamed of - Talk to your doctor, even if he doesn't issue you anti depressants which i would not recommend he will suggest other things which you can do and refer you to someone who is knowledgeable in your problems and they will be able to help you!.
Best of luck xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
You do not necessarily have to tell your parents at this stage as you just need some guidance!.
Other people feel like you, i know i did when i was younger and i felt like i was the only one - i attended therapy groups which are not as bad as the media makes them out to be, i gained a lot of confidence!.
I think the reason you felt like that when your friend came around is because you feel that your house is your safe place and became fearful that it was no longer safe when she arrived!.
Please do not suffer in silence, i know how hard it can be and its nothing to be afraid or ashamed of - Talk to your doctor, even if he doesn't issue you anti depressants which i would not recommend he will suggest other things which you can do and refer you to someone who is knowledgeable in your problems and they will be able to help you!.
Best of luck xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think you do need to talk to someone, you dont need medication, that is always to be used as a last resort!. However from reading what you so!.!.!.it would appear to me!.!.!.that you are putting your home as your safe special place!. A place where you feel safe and nothing can get to you, then when you invite someone in!.!.!.its like your space is being taken away from you, that it is now un-clean etc!. I think this is more to do with what you hold dear to you!.!.!.you said your mum and dad still get on great, and I'm sure they do!.!.!.but your appear to be missing something, and you are using your room/space/house as your own inner sancturary!.!.!.!.and should not be invaded or used by anyone other than your immediate family!. All I can say to you sweetheart is that there is a great big wide world out there and on the grand scale of things your house is just that!.!.a house, you have so much to deal within the coming years!.!.!.!.boyfriends, jobs, bills, holidays, marriage, children, schooling, running your own house, families, grandchildren!.!.!.!.!.!.are all ahead of you!.!.!.you will put this aside and forget all about your feelings!.!.!.you just need to start focusing on something else other than your home!. Good luck to you, hope everything works out well!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com