Can you tell me why I must continue feeling this way?!
Question: Can you tell me why I must continue feeling this way!?
Five years ago I lost my six month old baby daughter to SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) I found her when I went to wake her for her morning bottle and cereal!. I've been through grief counseling and I'm mostly okay most of the time now!. But there are times like tonight when my mind is flooded with memories and I find it hard to keep going!. I have no other choldren due to fear of it happening again!. What can I do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Being mostly okay most of the time is about the most you can hope for!. Losing a child is something that you never fully 'get over!.'
Every now and then, the enormity of your loss washes over you!. It is not a reason, though, to discontinue participating in life!.
Losing my son 7 years ago when he was 16 has been extremely traumatic for our entire family!. It has changed my perspective and experience of life dramatically, and caused severe mental trauma to my wife!.
I sincerely hope nobody has tried to comfort you by suggesting that you can just have another one!. When it comes to family and relationships!.!.!.!. nobody is replaceable!.
If you ever choose to have another child, it will not be a replacement for your baby daughter, but intsead will be a new member of your family!.
My advice at these difficult times, is to allow yourself to have the grief, and do your best to accept it for what it is!.
I have come to believe that the people we have loved strongly in life, never really leave us, even after death, but remain close to us, trying to influence us, make us feel better, and sometimes trying to communicate with us somehow!.
I believe that when I do eventually die, I will get to be with my son again, my parents, my brother, and others!. I hope to be reunited with him and believe it will happen!. I remember that at one time, I feared death!. But now I do not!. I welcome it, when it is my time!. My fear is that I will have to wait a VERY long time before I am called, and that I will first lose my wife and other family members!. I do not want to outlive any more of my children!.
I recommend talking to your daughter as if she's in the room with you during your hard times!. You don't need to be loud and make people think you're nuts!. Trust me, you have much more company than you'd think!. I also recommend that you work hard to keep your fears from controlling your life!. If you don't want to have another child then don't pursue that!. But don't let fear keep you from it!.
My very best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Every now and then, the enormity of your loss washes over you!. It is not a reason, though, to discontinue participating in life!.
Losing my son 7 years ago when he was 16 has been extremely traumatic for our entire family!. It has changed my perspective and experience of life dramatically, and caused severe mental trauma to my wife!.
I sincerely hope nobody has tried to comfort you by suggesting that you can just have another one!. When it comes to family and relationships!.!.!.!. nobody is replaceable!.
If you ever choose to have another child, it will not be a replacement for your baby daughter, but intsead will be a new member of your family!.
My advice at these difficult times, is to allow yourself to have the grief, and do your best to accept it for what it is!.
I have come to believe that the people we have loved strongly in life, never really leave us, even after death, but remain close to us, trying to influence us, make us feel better, and sometimes trying to communicate with us somehow!.
I believe that when I do eventually die, I will get to be with my son again, my parents, my brother, and others!. I hope to be reunited with him and believe it will happen!. I remember that at one time, I feared death!. But now I do not!. I welcome it, when it is my time!. My fear is that I will have to wait a VERY long time before I am called, and that I will first lose my wife and other family members!. I do not want to outlive any more of my children!.
I recommend talking to your daughter as if she's in the room with you during your hard times!. You don't need to be loud and make people think you're nuts!. Trust me, you have much more company than you'd think!. I also recommend that you work hard to keep your fears from controlling your life!. If you don't want to have another child then don't pursue that!. But don't let fear keep you from it!.
My very best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Five years is a long time!. You need to pursue two avenues!.
Quite probably all those around you are now impaient with you and have no more patience to allow you to talk it out!. But talk it out you must!. If you have acesss to a computer, talk to it!. Writge in your feelings today, then tomorrow you will read what you have written and have to add new feelings, doubta, anger that it happened, etc!. Since no one else is going to be able to read it, be open and frank!. Very soon, you will find your own answers and lose the guilt!.
You must also have more children!. Since you have lived over what happened to the last over and over again, you will know what to avoid and instead freely enjoy the new children!.
Take an interest in other things!. Fight for other issues!. If you still need help our website http://www!.heartseren!.com will provide you with more help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Quite probably all those around you are now impaient with you and have no more patience to allow you to talk it out!. But talk it out you must!. If you have acesss to a computer, talk to it!. Writge in your feelings today, then tomorrow you will read what you have written and have to add new feelings, doubta, anger that it happened, etc!. Since no one else is going to be able to read it, be open and frank!. Very soon, you will find your own answers and lose the guilt!.
You must also have more children!. Since you have lived over what happened to the last over and over again, you will know what to avoid and instead freely enjoy the new children!.
Take an interest in other things!. Fight for other issues!. If you still need help our website http://www!.heartseren!.com will provide you with more help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i'm sorry for your loss!. sometimes god needs another little angel in heaven, so he took your!. i know we dont understand why!. we never do!. and we will always wonder why and greive!. i understand your fear of not having another baby;, but this would help with your sadness!. life is a chance!. you will be glad you did!. sometimes god has a way of making things right when we least expect it!. you know your baby is with god!. take the risk and have another!. this will unburden your soul!. i know this is true!. god bless and good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have my sympathy!. Losing a child is one of the worst things that can happen to a person!. I think you're going through this simply because you loved her!.!.!. she was your child!. But when it's interupting you life and you feel like you might hurt yourself seek help!.
I know this isn't a quick fix but it's all I can do, I'm sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know this isn't a quick fix but it's all I can do, I'm sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
omg, I cannot tell you how sorry I am that you are having to feel such a dark, alone, sad feeling!.
I have 7 kids and 2 grandkids, I have however lost many, many people to death that I loved!.
I understand the death of a child is different for many reasons, I lost a little boy when I was 5 months pregnant with him, he lived for two hours but was to young to make it!. This was back in 1995 and there is not one day that goes by that I dont miss him and think of him!. We all talk about him, I have pictures of him and being I had his lil body cremated we have him in a lil case!. Im sure you are sick of hearing how it will get easier to go on, because sometimes it doesnt but you have to remember that YOU are alive, you have to grab ahold of life and live it now!. We are not going to be here forever either, so please dont let your life be pulled down by sowrow and pain!. I can understand ur fear of having another child because of what might happen, I have allowed myself to become afraid of life period!! I am agorophobic and hardly ever leave my house, I have now also become afraid of death itself, everything I do I am wondering if today with be "my day"!. That is sick and I pray and wish so hard that I could go back to being normal, but I dont see that happening!. You have to hold on and stay strong, live this life that God (or ur other higher power) has given to you!. You only have this one life, JUST ONE, grab what you and love it with everything that you have inside of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have 7 kids and 2 grandkids, I have however lost many, many people to death that I loved!.
I understand the death of a child is different for many reasons, I lost a little boy when I was 5 months pregnant with him, he lived for two hours but was to young to make it!. This was back in 1995 and there is not one day that goes by that I dont miss him and think of him!. We all talk about him, I have pictures of him and being I had his lil body cremated we have him in a lil case!. Im sure you are sick of hearing how it will get easier to go on, because sometimes it doesnt but you have to remember that YOU are alive, you have to grab ahold of life and live it now!. We are not going to be here forever either, so please dont let your life be pulled down by sowrow and pain!. I can understand ur fear of having another child because of what might happen, I have allowed myself to become afraid of life period!! I am agorophobic and hardly ever leave my house, I have now also become afraid of death itself, everything I do I am wondering if today with be "my day"!. That is sick and I pray and wish so hard that I could go back to being normal, but I dont see that happening!. You have to hold on and stay strong, live this life that God (or ur other higher power) has given to you!. You only have this one life, JUST ONE, grab what you and love it with everything that you have inside of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com