Aspergers diagnosis is coming for my hubby...maybe?!
Question: Aspergers diagnosis is coming for my hubby!.!.!.maybe!?
I went to see a psychologist to talk to someone abuot my ongiong marital problems as me and my spouse couldnt work it out on our own/ I was feeling at the end of my rope, wanting to leave him but wanting to stress all avenues of trying to fix it before reosrting to leaving, which honestly isnt something i really want to do, though i dont want to live in misery for the rest of my life either!. anyways, I was talking to the pshycologist (my husband will join me in a couple more sessions to talk to her too) and after talking about my husband she suspects he may have aspergers disease!. she explained to me what its about and we will go into more detail at the next session but she said that you have to know that you will be a broken person if you are living with a person with ASD!. and that after hearing all the facts, I decide to opt out of the marriage she will not judge me!.this has really freaked me out though now slot of the things that my husband does are explained!.also we have a son andWww@Answer-Health@Com
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To put it simple your doctor has a strange view on aspergers syndrome!. People with aspergers are almost always at least average IQ, and in many cases have a high IQ!. They have motor skill problems meaning you might notice strange movement from the person, almost as if it is forced, on top of that introversion is one of the main components of it, although your doctor or yourself may not see it that way, intvoversion describes an aspie by the aspies need for social belonging, but lack thereof, and thus isolation and few friends causing them to have passionate hobbies and limited interests!. You would also see a tendency to be clumsy and goofy, which is simply them trying to connect socially by starting conversation in one of their well known passions!. Aspergers syndrome in my opinion has its pros and cons, but its def!. something that can be handled by two understanding people!. Persons who form social ties with aspies, tend to be more accepting of others and understand that we must learn to accept eachother for who we are, not try anf label and point out the "flaws" in others, because what you might consider a flaw now, might be considered a gift 10 years from now!. I consider Aspergers Syndrome a gift, and despite the isolation I face, my life was meant for a greater purpose, and that is something I will chase!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
is it another name for autism!?!. your husband probably is introverted and need to be coaxed out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would never make a diagnosis like that without in depth assessment of the person involved - in person!. Most people with Aspergers can function fairly well!. It sounds like your psychologist has preconceived ideas!. I commend you for getting counselling!.Aspergers is overdiagnosed, like autism syndrome is!. There are several reasons for this - lots of people have to have a label and in school age children this qualifies children for special education!. It also gives parents an excuse for their child's behavior which doesn't reflect on them!. Adults are not usually diagnosed with this - but again, many people use ADHD for example as an excuse for their behavior, and now Aspergers!. ConnyLWww@Answer-Health@Com
I guess you didn't really mean it when you took the vow " In sickness and in health"!. Get rid of the quack and keep the husband!.
I have aspergers disorder!. Its a social LEARNING disability and not a disease!. It is not a mental illness either!. Your husband isn't a spammer (I hope) and you can't just opt out!. He will always be a part of your life and a divorce will be devastating to your son and will cause permanent scarring!.
Having a spouse with aspergers can be a challenge!. If he does actually have aspergers, you can minimize the disorders negative effects by both of you getting aspie training!. He needs to know about what personality traits are actually symptoms!. If he hurt you, its not because he wanted to, its just another symptom!.
Tolerance is not the answer, it makes things a lot worse!. Alcohol and drugs make things more worse!. Once he learns what the symptoms are, he can learn to eliminate them!.
I didn't know I was an aspie until two years ago!. If I had known from when I was little, I would have not made as many bad decisions that I have!. If there is a chance that he has aspergers, then you need to get him officially diagnosed and not go by the ramblings of a marriage counseling quack!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have aspergers disorder!. Its a social LEARNING disability and not a disease!. It is not a mental illness either!. Your husband isn't a spammer (I hope) and you can't just opt out!. He will always be a part of your life and a divorce will be devastating to your son and will cause permanent scarring!.
Having a spouse with aspergers can be a challenge!. If he does actually have aspergers, you can minimize the disorders negative effects by both of you getting aspie training!. He needs to know about what personality traits are actually symptoms!. If he hurt you, its not because he wanted to, its just another symptom!.
Tolerance is not the answer, it makes things a lot worse!. Alcohol and drugs make things more worse!. Once he learns what the symptoms are, he can learn to eliminate them!.
I didn't know I was an aspie until two years ago!. If I had known from when I was little, I would have not made as many bad decisions that I have!. If there is a chance that he has aspergers, then you need to get him officially diagnosed and not go by the ramblings of a marriage counseling quack!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i know that this will be hard for you to do;, but now is not the right time to leave him!. you should have left him before he got sick!. you dont kick a dog when he is down!. what are you going to tell your 6 yr old--when he asks;, mommy, everyone says you left daddy because he was sick!.!? do unto others as you would have them do unto you"!. if he gets violent, you may have to put him in a mental ward!. your son dont need to be around violent behavior!. try to get him some help fast!. i hope everything works out for you!. i'll pray for you!. dont have another child untill you know for sure where aspergers came from!. god bless good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Aspergers is the most highly functioning form of Autism!. It tends to affect social interaction more so than intelligence or ability to focus!. With proper treatment it is entirely possible that things will not be anywhere near as bad as your psychologist is making it out to be!. To be honest I find it a bit disconcerting that your Dr is willing to not only practically diagnose your husband having never met him, but also basically encourage you to leave your husband!. My personal opinion, for what it's worth, is if your husband fits the symptoms of Aspergers he should definitely seek treatment to help him better adapt to it, but perhaps this particular Dr is not the one to stick with!.(!?) I do however commend you for seeking another option as opposed to just walking away and I hope everything works out well!.Www@Answer-Health@Com