I have really bad anxiety..?!


Question: I have really bad anxiety!.!.!?
and I'm really close with my boyfriend, Jon!.
I'm scared of everything, so when I'm in the shower, he sits outside the shower on the toilet while I shower, then when I'm done, he passes me my towel, and sees nothing!. My friend, well I should say ex-friend, found out about this, and told everyone in school that I shower with my boyfriend everynight, but i don't, I'm just terrified that something is going to come and get me!. I'm only fifteen, and now the whole entire school thinks I "shower with my boyfriend" when we don't!. Even the teachers know, when they see us in the hallways, they give us dirty looks!. This is getting me really depressed, because I also sleep with him, but we do not have sex!. This girl also found out about that too, and also told everyone that after we get out of the shower, we have sex in my bedroom!. When, we really don't I just can't sleep by myself, or I'll go crazy from thinking someone else is in my room!. I really don't know what to do, someone help!?
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ok I know this seems like it will never end but it will, im talking about the rumors honey, believe me they will get over themselves and decide to criticize another person because they themselves obviously have major insecurity issues!. As for the teachers they can mind there own damn businiess,by the way hun you shouldnt care what people think, but dont worry that confidence will come with age!. Also I do see that you have major anxiety issues and I do think you need to talk to a doctor about it!. If you are close with your mom grams!.!.someone; you should get them to take you to a dr!. or counselor be ieve me it will get you back on track and really help you!.
I do have anxiety issues also and I take medication that helps me alot but if you dont believe in taking medication then im not sure what I can help you with!. It seems to me overall that you are just very concerned with the rumors right now i know you dont believe me at the moment but this raincloud will pass!.
well good luck with life and dont take yourself to seriously!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you should continue doing what your doing!. going to school seeing your therpist and seeing your bf!. after a while the your school will talking about something else!. why don't you try and focus on other's people problems and you'll see that yours is not not bad!. hey at least you have a loving and caring bf that is willing to wait for you while you shower!. not a lot of guys do that!. I bet that is better than what people think at school!. smile you beautifulWww@Answer-Health@Com

I too suffer with anxiety however, not as bad as you!. All I can suggest is that you TRY to tune out these people because they're negative and you're doing nothing wrong! I sympathise with you and I hope people knock of this nonsense!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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First, if you have that much anxiety, you should probably go and talk to a professional about it!. I know it's difficult to take that step, but I think in the end it would help you overcome your anxiety problem!. As far as your problem at school, I know that right now it seems like the end of the world, but it WILL pass!. You could probably talk to your principal and have him/her address the faculty!. They should not be involved in the student's personal lives like that in the first place, so it should definitely be addressed!. As for the kids, you can't really do very much to make them stop talking, but I would be open about the truth!. If you hear people talking or someone says something to you, be honest!. You know the truth!. And who are they to talk poorly of you!?!? Even if you were having sex, it's none of their damn business!. You have no reason to feel bad because you're not doing anything wrong!. You know that and just try to remember that that's the most important thing!. Five years down the road, you won't even know most of these people!. Just try to keep your head up and keep things in perspective!. I know it's hard, but try to be strong!. Also, I would seriously suggest talking to someone about your anxiety!. It might help the situation too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i slept with my oldest sister untill i got married--because i was also afraid!. i had severe anxiety and panic attacks!.just keep going to your therapist, stay on your meds, and tell your therapist about this fear you have!. he can prescribe an anxiety pill for you to take!. i
ve been on xanax for years for this!. mine started when i was 16!. there is meds to help control this!. i know how you feel!. dont let people make you feel bad;, they are just jealous ortrying to hide their own inadequaices!. god bless take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Im 15 too and i have anxiety too and an eating disorder and i understand too what your going through people in high school can be so immature and the teacher geting involve in high school problems is even more stuiped, any how im sorry people have said that crap, and how everyone hears about it will get better people will forget also true people will ask you if its true other people don't care enough too so don't spend your energy worry about what they think, i see a therapist weekly and im on medication i suggest you tell your parents your irrational fears and ask for help so that you can be more independent and free your self from confindment, on the other hand im so impressed with your boyfriend he sounds like a sweetheart so you got one thing going for you even if your friends are being unsupportive!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Limit or eliminate your caffeine intake, also try to eat right and get plenty of sleep!. Some times anxiety is caused by a build up of adrenaline, so when you feel really anxious do something physical, work out, jog, or even just do some house work, anything to use up that nervous energy!. I have to have some noise when I am sleeping!. I leave my t!.v!. or a radio playing all night and have for years!. Without the distraction of them, my mind goes a hundred miles an hour!. The best way I can describe it is, its like someone has a remote and keeps changing the channel every 2 seconds!. The funny thing is, my t!.v!. shuts off every night at 3 a!.m!. for the satelite to reboot, and when it does I wake up every time!. So even when I am sleeping my mind is still tuned int to the t!.v!.
There are some good medications out there, but I would try to deal with your anxiety other ways first!.
As for the ex-friend, or teachers / school mates, the heck with them!. If they had lives of their own, the wouldn't be talking about yours!.
Hope this helps you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Anxiety: (1!.) Generalised Anxiety Disorder: There is a saying in the mental health field: "if the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail"!. So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage a large list of patients, with very limited time for each!.

With anxiolytics (anti-anxiety medication, such as Lexapro, or Paxil, which treat both anxiety and depression) you are only addressing the symptoms, and even then, often only temporarily, as your system becomes used to it, and you have to accept the risks of an increased suicide/homicide rate, aberrant behaviour, and side effects, such as possible sexual dysfunction, (common) or weight fluctuation!. For those reasons, I recommend first trying the alternatives, (which only treat the symptoms, using supplements like inositol, and SAMe, or herbal remedies, such as c(h)amomile but the cause, as well) using the EMDR variant, EFT, and relaxation techniques!. The anxiolytics/antidepressants will still be there, should the alternatives prove insufficient for you, but give them a tryout period of several weeks, first!.

See anxiety treatments, at ezy build (below) in section 6 (read the full post, in page N, first)!. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; around three quarters of an hour, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life!.

You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I!?"!. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!.

When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.

Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself!." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, (which is not for use if depression is also present) passionflower, St!.John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect!.

(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.

Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!. ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ Visit your school counselor, and see section 13, on surviving high school, and related topics!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Appear that you Anxiety is hampering you daily living would suggest you go back and see your professional (psychologist) and cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)would help!. If you feel you don't want to consult with you therapy just yet!. Just read up on CBT and work on your!. I definitely can help you!. Have provided you with a couple of links blow for your reference!.

www!.nacbt!.org/whatiscbt!.htm
www!.nacbt!.org/
www!.mentalhealth!.about!.com/cs/psychoth!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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