Help, self esteem issues!?!
Question: Help, self esteem issues!!?
I am 38 years old, I have a great kid, a wonderful husband and a decent home and car!. I just graduated college and am getting ready to start my dream job on Monday!. The problem is, I have NO self esteem!. I used to be confident in myself, but I don't know if this is just a midlife crisis or what-should I talk to a doctor about this!? The problem is my weight!. I feel so fat!. I don't want to look in the mirror and I hate my picture being taken!. My husband wants to take me out on the town this weekend to celebrate my new job, but I don't want to go because I know that no matter what I wear I'm going to hate how I look, especially if we're at a club and there's plenty of prettier women around me!. I plan on trying to lose weight but in the meantime what can I do to boost my self esteem!? I'm also concerned I won't be able to do this job and I'll get fired!. I've never felt like this even as a teen I was confident! What's happening!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
allright miss thing-good thing I read your question!.
I too am 38, almost!.
I'm fat
I've def noticed that we doubt ourselves as we get older, and I dont think its lack of confidance, well maybe it is, but is also from learning from our arrogant younger selves that we dont know everything--you know what I mean, I'm sure you were over confidant as a kid, all kids are!.
So, the over confidance is gone, and an openess to learning is there!
You are my inspiration, I've been wanting to go back to school, but I think I'm too old and I think about the cost!.
Did you go to online school!? What school!? You're my hero!.
You better let your hubby take you out, life is short!.
You are going to need some clothes for your new job! So get a few things and go out with your hubby!.
You cant start it with out a new outfit!. Do you have a Macy's near you!? You will find something great there!. I'd be happy to help!.
Dr Laura,( do you listen to Dr Laura!?) says too much self esteem is dangerous, and I agree!.
Anyway, your question struck me because I'm just like you, married to a great guy, no kid yet, but I too should be very happy!.
If you want to loose weight together, I'd love a partner!.
Until then, you have some things to do!. Get a haircut, get some make up, and a few nice outfits!. You will feel so much better!.
Email me if you want!.
KateWww@Answer-Health@Com
I too am 38, almost!.
I'm fat
I've def noticed that we doubt ourselves as we get older, and I dont think its lack of confidance, well maybe it is, but is also from learning from our arrogant younger selves that we dont know everything--you know what I mean, I'm sure you were over confidant as a kid, all kids are!.
So, the over confidance is gone, and an openess to learning is there!
You are my inspiration, I've been wanting to go back to school, but I think I'm too old and I think about the cost!.
Did you go to online school!? What school!? You're my hero!.
You better let your hubby take you out, life is short!.
You are going to need some clothes for your new job! So get a few things and go out with your hubby!.
You cant start it with out a new outfit!. Do you have a Macy's near you!? You will find something great there!. I'd be happy to help!.
Dr Laura,( do you listen to Dr Laura!?) says too much self esteem is dangerous, and I agree!.
Anyway, your question struck me because I'm just like you, married to a great guy, no kid yet, but I too should be very happy!.
If you want to loose weight together, I'd love a partner!.
Until then, you have some things to do!. Get a haircut, get some make up, and a few nice outfits!. You will feel so much better!.
Email me if you want!.
KateWww@Answer-Health@Com
hey cheer up !!! there r many people like you thinking what will happen next but they dont know that they r special !!! if anyone stares you dont feel heavy feel u r special !
dont miss these great oppoturnity coz if you missed it naow you will pay for it whole your life that "why u missed it !?" so go for it ! tell them u r SPECIAL ! ! ! ! ! ! !!! !Www@Answer-Health@Com
dont miss these great oppoturnity coz if you missed it naow you will pay for it whole your life that "why u missed it !?" so go for it ! tell them u r SPECIAL ! ! ! ! ! ! !!! !Www@Answer-Health@Com
May be a midlife crisis!. Try not to inflict this impression on your children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Challenge your negative thoughts!. Write them down!. "I'm so fat!. Anyone who sees me will be grossed out!." or "That girl is thinner than I am, and prettier!. I'm such a loser!." Etc!. After you identify your negative thoughts, challenge them by telling yourself what you would tell someone else if they told you those things!. "I may have some extra weight, but so what!? I am going to lose it!." "People probably aren't even paying attention to how I look!. Most people care more about their own appearance!." or "That girl may be thinner than I am, but so what!? It doesn't make her better than me!."
Try it!. It really helps!. You have to write it out, though!. If you just try to think it out in your head then your mind will just go back to its old way of thinking!.
This is not a cure, but it does help you put irrational fears into perspective, which is empowering in itself!. Good luck!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try it!. It really helps!. You have to write it out, though!. If you just try to think it out in your head then your mind will just go back to its old way of thinking!.
This is not a cure, but it does help you put irrational fears into perspective, which is empowering in itself!. Good luck!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are just scared!. It will all be alright though because THIS IS YOUR DREAM JOB! You have trained for this and went to school for this!. Your going to do great! They wouldn't have hired you if they didn't think you were more than capable of doing the job!. So go in there and just remember everything you have learned don't worry about what you don't know yet because it is a new job and you will learn more and more things the longer you are there!. They don't expect you to just walk in and know EVERYTHING!. The only people that don't make mistakes are the ones that don't do anything! Right!?
And about your weight, thats going to be okay too!. As long as you are motivated and dedicated to losing weight it will seem like no time before you are down to the weight you want!. When you feel this bad about it, it really means you are ready for a change and willing to do what it takes!. I don't think you need to worry about all the "prettier girls" because i think your husband married you because he loved you for your personality not just what you look like physically but if he wants to take you out then he obviously isn't ashamed of you!. So you should go out and celebrate with him and have a great time then on monday start your new job start working out and basically do a new beginning!. Just remember that your husband loves you for you and so does your child & Your new job is just waiting for you to climb the ladder of sucess!
Go be happy =]Www@Answer-Health@Com
And about your weight, thats going to be okay too!. As long as you are motivated and dedicated to losing weight it will seem like no time before you are down to the weight you want!. When you feel this bad about it, it really means you are ready for a change and willing to do what it takes!. I don't think you need to worry about all the "prettier girls" because i think your husband married you because he loved you for your personality not just what you look like physically but if he wants to take you out then he obviously isn't ashamed of you!. So you should go out and celebrate with him and have a great time then on monday start your new job start working out and basically do a new beginning!. Just remember that your husband loves you for you and so does your child & Your new job is just waiting for you to climb the ladder of sucess!
Go be happy =]Www@Answer-Health@Com