How do I help a friend who is severely depressed?!


Question: How do I help a friend who is severely depressed!?
She is depressed and she mentions going to the doctor!. But her mother ignores all that she says!. She say she's just acting stupid!. She once told her mother to kill her!. What can I do to help!? I don't like seeing her like this!. She doesn't like to talk or do anything she used to do anymore!. Everytime she tries to tell her mom that she is sick and need some professional help, her mother ignores it!. Even her grandma!.Do I have to wait until she kills herself before they really get her some medical help!. I try to cheer her up!. And sometimes it work!. Most of the time it don't !. I know one thing for sure!. She is happier when she's with me!. When she goes home around her mother and grandma!.!. She gets these feelings again!. This is her summer break!. She has begged her mom to let her stay with her grandpa for a week or so!. She wouldn't let her!. She say she feels like a prisoner in her own body!. I looked up stuff on the internet to try with her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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First thing I say is OMG!

This is a tuff one, especially at her age! If you really like this person you will have to make a few sacrifices yourself and do something to pull her out of this!.

KC makes sense however I believe that in her situation (not able to get out of the house) we have a major problem here and you should go to her place and fight through this with her!.

Be wise in front of her mom, don't challenge her becuz she seems very strict and full of herself!. She's no help right now and Old fashioned in thought!. Try doing things with your friend at her place and EARN her moms trust! MOM is the key to that door so earn the trust so her mom will let her go out with you!.

If she stays locked up, things will just go downhill!. She has to get out and socialize!. If you really see her falling fast, go to a medical professional or councilor and report it! This could turn out as a drama if left the way it is!.

If you pull together, she'll be your best friend and the bond you will have created with her will last a lifetime and that is so rewarding!. You seem to be in a position to do something for her and that is the most important mission you can have in life!. These situations are extreme situations and sometimes they require extreme measures!.

The best thing would be professional help so look it up in your area and since she can't go, you go!. Tell them what you see happening and it just might make all the difference!. Meanwhile, give her a few hours of cheering up every day you can manage to!.

I wish you both the best of outcomes in this!. I know it's difficult, but life has brought you two here, so do as best you can!. A life is the most precious thing on this planet!. Give this your hardest try sweetheart!.

R!.D!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

talk to her mom about it, and tell her its serious!. depression is nothing to joke around about!. trust me, i know what depression feels like!. maybe you could get her to see a natropath, you could try some homeopathic medication, it really does work, and no, its not drugs!. you could also just sit down and talk with her and ask her whats really bothering her!. i hope everything goes well for her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Talk to her Mom!. Maybe have your friend talk to a guidance counselor or something and they can tell your Mom that she needs assistance!. Maybe she'll believe her if a professional tells her!. It's really good that you're accepting of her!. When I'm depressed I like to write in my journal!. Maybe she can do that when you can't be around!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

take her to the theripist, it may have somthing to do with the house!. some people can pick up dead spirites!.and how they died!. idk i am catholic!. but, it may have something to do with the wiring in the house, or the electric box in the basment or laundry room!. then if not take her to the doctorWww@Answer-Health@Com

You Need to talk to a someone responsible that can take immediate Action!!~

Don't Wait!!!~

If you have to get the cops involved!!~

she will hate you at first but trust me later she'll thank you!~Www@Answer-Health@Com

good luck !.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

don"t your state have a place where teens can go to talk to somebody or maybe a counselor at schoolWww@Answer-Health@Com

bring her to a counsler/theripist/doctor!. make conversation!. be nice!. make her laugh, that's alway good!. go to amusement parks together!. buy her something!. talk her her everyday!. always remind her that u are there for her, even though she will know that, it's always a good reminder!. ask her what she wants to do!. be on her side!. txt eachother a lot!. call her to make sure she's ok!. tell her she could sleep over at your house a lot so she doesn't have to be with her grandma and mom!. most importantly, show her that you care, respect, and understand her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Always tough dealing with someone in a negative frame of mind!.

1!. Check their diet!. I know this sounds silly, but sometimes food can be the cause (often 'diet' drinks and sweet junk food)!.

2!. Encourage them to do something where they are not the focus of attention e!.g!. do some volunteer work for a charity, for instance help with sorting clothing for Myanmar/Burma or China!. That way she will not be able to concentrate on keeping herself unhappy!.

3!. Pay no attention to her negative comments!. They may reduce and your friend will feel better because she is not reinforcing the feelings!.

4!. Go to a concert of a band you both enjoy!. The high energy and great music will lift her mood to!.

5!. Only refer to good things in your conversations with her!. You may sound a little odd at first, but this can help tremendously!.

6!. If things continue, other intervention may be needed!. Perhaps even a medical professional - but you generally want to avoid a lifetime prescription of 'tranquilisers'!.

Remember that you have a life too!. If you take on too much and too personally, you could end up being exhausted from your obvious desire to help!. Make certain you can do some activities away from your friend so you will be able to maintain balance, perspective and good health!.

Wishing you both well!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Buy him a gun, and a few razor blades!. He will thank you for that :]Www@Answer-Health@Com





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