Alone all the time, depressed should i end my life???? :-(?!


Question: Alone all the time, depressed should i end my life!?!?!?!? :-(!?
my hubby;s at work mon-sat 9am - 7pm and im at home wid our baby, i aint got many friends coz we've just moved areas my family and me arent exactly close as far as im concerend they dont giv a toss about wot happens 2 me, when ma husband does get home he's either too busy watchin telly, or talkin on da fone 2 his friends or he goes 2 his mates house afta work like dis eveing or his mates r ova here!. we neva spend any time together, we neva go shoppin 2gether im always goin out alone wid ma baby, ma hubby neva used 2 do dat b4, he used 2 always spend time wid me but now he's neva here!. i suffer from bad depression and im on anti depressants, i was gettin better a few weeks ago but now i feel really depressed and suicidal, i believe i mena nothin to any1 and im not just sayin dis coz i want sympathy coz i dont im goin back 2 work next monday as ma maternity leave has finished i dont wana go, dats y im on da net coz i feel alone i just feel like ending ma life even now is dis da end 4 me!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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You need to feel loved and appreciated, so that you can love and appreciate in turn!. You are not feeling this!. Some people need to feel this more than others, and it seems you are one of those people who need constant reassurance!.

The problem is that other people tend to shy away from those who demand attention, especially those who are always on about how they are hard done by, It makes other people feel wonderful that you feel wonderful, and you are sharing it all with them!. Happy people make people happy!. Moaning people just get on people's nerves!.

It is not big things that count but it is those small steps!. Taking things one day at a time, maybe even one hour at a time!. You must understand that other people would give and arm and a leg to have what you have!. You have a baby, a husband who is working, a home!. There are others who are desperate for a baby, for a partner, for work, for a home!. Start by counting your blessings and realise that you are a part of what makes that work!. Without you there would be no baby, without you there would be no home, and what you have to realise is that those we love the most we tend to take most for granted!.

Now and again demanding a little attention doesn't hurt!. In fact, if you don't do it he'll probably be unaware that you need it!. It is just the case of striking the right balance!.

Another step to take is be pleased to greet your baby and your husband!. When you are feeding, changing, or picking your baby up after a sleep, show that you are happy to see it!. It can become so routine and they are rarely cooperative!. The effort will be worth it!. A child that feels valued is a treasure!.

When your husband get's home you take the phone off his ear, and say he's busy now!. If it is that important the person will wait because people do realise how important relationship between a wife and her husband is!. Be happy to see him, be happy that he's there!.

Please don't be put off by some sharp words Despite being married and in love and all the rest of it, a husband and wife living happily ever after together are rarely, if ever, on the same wavelength !. However, I'm sure that what you will find is that if you give happiness out you will get happiness back!.

If you find it at home, your confidence will grow, you will find more things to do, and that life is worth living!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Honey go get a job, even if your baby has to go to daycare!. You will feel alot better plus your husband needs to do his part and if he doesnt you need a back up plan!. You need to take care of you, just because you had a baby doesnt mean you have to stay at home all the time and be treated inhumane!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

ah honey no!.!.!.it's NOT the answer!.!.think off youre little baby!.!.just talk to youre husband say how you feel be honest and say you feel lonely!.!.check out some local baby and mother clubs make some friends!.!.things WILL improve just hang on in there we all go through bad times but it is worth it to watch youre little one grow up!.!.lolWww@Answer-Health@Com

well dont feel that way have u tried talking to ur husband about it!. suicide is never the answer specially cuz u have a baby now going back to work would probably be the best thing here so u can keep ur mind occupied on something else but my concern would be "who is the baby gonna stay with" if u dont have many friends and ur family doenst live near by!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
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Go to your Gp or talk with your health visitor, the can sign you off work sick and look at ways of helping!. don't act on your feelings, think how taht wee baby would be without you!. things will get better for you, you are just very tired and in need of supportWww@Answer-Health@Com

No You Shouldn't End Your Life, If You End it You'll Just Be More Upset And In More Pain Then EVER!! Once You Kill Your Self Or Make Something Else Kill You Then Trust Me You'll Go To Hell!.!.!.i Can See your Not Christan Obviously And So I Really Think You Should Go To Church and Find God I'm Sure you'll never be this depressed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

u shud talk to ur hubby tell him how u feel about this dont keep it to urself!. instead of going to his mates he shud spend his free time with u and do things together!. if he doesnt make any effort then i dont see why u shud be with him!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

nooooo!!!! tell your husband how you feel and start to talk to him more!. you have a baby!!!! that would be horrible for he/she to grow up with out a mother!!!! and think about how your husband would feel!. trust me its just a phase!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

don't ent your life! it's just gonna end up making other people depressed and then your husband will be alone!. and what about the baby!? he'll/she'll have 2 grow up knowing his mom commit suicide!. trust me its NOT worth itWww@Answer-Health@Com

you have a baby!. committing suicide would be incredibly selfish

you complain that your family doesnt give a toss about you!. surely committing suicide would be like saying "i dont give a toss about my baby" !?Www@Answer-Health@Com

HECK NO!.!. DON'T END YOUR LIFE IF YOU HAVE A KID!. THAT WOULD MAKE THEM DEPRESSED WHEN THEY ARE OLDER!! i can't see my parents but im not depressed!. SO DON'T DO IT!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Dont end your life!!! Tell your hubby how you feel!. But their is no need to comite suicied!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think it will do you good to go back to work, then you won't feel so lonely!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if you had to ask you arent gonna do it

youre a mother!.!.go look after your babyWww@Answer-Health@Com

i'm not good at other peoples problems but i know their is no need to end your life xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com

See if you can call a suicide hotline and talk to a trained professional!.

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dont be nasty and leave your hubby alone with kids!Www@Answer-Health@Com

no<33 dont dieWww@Answer-Health@Com

Did you really think someone here will tell you go kill yourself!? Ofc not!.!.if nothing else you have a baby!. Sure its easy way, but from what i have read from you , your depression is quite normal from what your life sounds like!. You need to find something to do on your own, not to depend on your husband!. FInd a job, get some course, go to gym, anything that will get you among people!. You are lonely beacuse you dont do anything!. Sitting at home alone with a baby for days and days would make anyone depressed!. So sort out your life, just because you have a baby doesnt mean you need to give up on your life!. But does mean you are renspoable for that child!.!.!.think what it will do to that child if you kill yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you where suicidal you would already of done it so youre just in a rut!. Your hubbies probably just picking up on your feelings and doesnt know how to cope so he keeps a wide berth!. Youre almost thinking yourself into depression!. Just think how youll feel when little junior starts walking/ talking!? Think vividly about going to the university to watch juniors graduation or their wedding day!. Try to imagine it vividly and feel the happy emotions!. The mind doesnt have a very good capacity to differenciate between real and imagined responses which is why youre feeling so low!. Dont let it lower you down but use it to build you up! Imagine yourself a year from today, all happy (juniors sleeping now) and after getting that promotion, everything on the up!. Imagine climbing into that you and then think about what you would say to yourself now!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

depress and u thinkin about ending ur life!? how about ur baby!? feel better!.!. ur husband might be stressed and maybe thats why hes reacting like this!. u should make time !. try to talk to him at night!.!. or whenever u have time alone with him!. why dont u watch tv with him!. have a beer with him and talk about what u did at home with ur new baby!.!.!.!.!. feel better~~~~

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maybe u dnt need help from us!.!.so many people tell u not to do it but u just dont care about thoese people who actually took time and type u something nice and so for u to see its wrong but u dont see that!.!.like u dont care about what we say!? like u think ur husband is doing to u!? listen!.!. ur whole family need u!.!.!.its just that u dont see it cuz u thinkin of urself only cuz u dont wan to get hurt!. dont do it!.!.i know its hard but if u realy love ur son i will never think of that!! if u took time to write down how to die!.!.why dont u sit and think about what u can do for ur baby!.!. how to make ur baby happy with a caring mother!!

you should read the comment that u left for others!.!.and read urself what u told them!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Please dont do it , think of your baby!. I get lonely too sometimes so i know exactly how you feel!.

Are there any groups in your area or maybe you could set one up!. I bet there are lots of mums in your position!.

You have to make your hubby listen or tell him to leave!! You need support as being a mum is the hardest job in the world!.

Why not get a babysitter and go out it will spice your relationship up, stops you from just feeling like a mum!.

Please go and see your gp regarding your depression!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

tbf you have a child! dont kill your self, can you imagen her farther explaining to her that when she was small her mum couldnt handle life so she killed herself!?
what will that would do to your child, im sorry but killing yourself is selfish!.
just tell your husband that you feel drawn apart from him, make him spend more time with you!.
but by killing your slf your effecting everone you love about, and your child will grow up with out a mumWww@Answer-Health@Com

Go to evening class,

Do GCSE English

You will make friends and learn a life skill, which you are seriously lacking!Www@Answer-Health@Com

your baby needs you!. and your baby loves you!. I think going back to work will help you alot!. just hang in there!. You may not want to go to work but you will start to feel better by not being stuck int he house!. I'm a new mom aswell!. My son is 3 months old!. I also stay at home!. I'm lucky that I didn't get depression after the baby came!. please don't leave your baby motherless!. just hang in there, it may not seem like it but this will not last forever, and your life is worth save!. every human is worth something!. And people do love you!. Maybe you should get a new husband, sounds to me like he isn't being very supportive!. you need to open up to him and tell him whats going on!. Good luck!. and remember!. you are worth living and your baby needs you to hang in there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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