Ok so i grew up in a very negative environemnt....?!
Question: Ok so i grew up in a very negative environemnt!.!.!.!.!?
I am an Indian and grew up in the capital New Delhi, my mother died when i was 10 and was left with my father and 3 year old brother!. I had no emotional contact or affection with a female member while growing up (not to my fault) beacuse all my relatives never cared!. I lived ina joint family where my dad's brothers wife made my life miserable, she always used to ignore and made me feel that i am worthless, she would make my relatives hate me and took them on her side, she always hated my dad!. I think she had apersonality disorder and was always jealous, uncaring and me feel wothless!. I was made to feel worthless by each and every person!. My father never cared or showed affection towrads me, my brother was always the center of attention!. I was ignored!. growing up i always felt that there is something wrong with me and i dont deserve to be loved!. I was always left alone at home because dad didnt really like being with a daughter, i was not taken out and socialised!. I felt like an alien
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I neither got to socialise with men nor with women, i was just always left alone!. I cried myself to sleep sometimes!. My father made me feel worthless in front of my maid servant (who used to cook food), and took her side instaed of mine!. she was actually having an affiar with my married uncle, n i never liked her for that, but i was made to feel that i am the one who is wrong!. I have seen life like this!. My mother died of motor neuron disease (the same that stephen hawkings has), nobody understood my cries, i was left all alone and now i have developed Borderline PD cause of that!.
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I neither got to socialise with men nor with women, i was just always left alone!. I cried myself to sleep sometimes!. My father made me feel worthless in front of my maid servant (who used to cook food), and took her side instaed of mine!. she was actually having an affiar with my married uncle, n i never liked her for that, but i was made to feel that i am the one who is wrong!. I have seen life like this!. My mother died of motor neuron disease (the same that stephen hawkings has), nobody understood my cries, i was left all alone and now i have developed Borderline PD cause of that!.
What should i do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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And kids in North America think they have it tough!.
First of all, I'm sorry that you had to go through all that - it wasn't fair, but sometimes life is like that!.
It's important to remember that all of this is in your past!. It sounds like you're out of the house now, so these people can't continue to bother you unless you let them!.
Cut off all contact with your dad's brother's wife - she is absolutely toxic to you!. The same for any relative that gave you grief!.
Then tomorrow morning, your life starts with a blank sheet!. It may have a few smudges on it from the past, but YOU get to write what's going to happen to you in the future!.
I did this with a person that had problems similar to yours and it worked very well!. In the hopes that it will help you, I'm detailling what was done if you want to copy it!.
We humans are a patterning animal!. By this, I mean that we learn through "monkey see, monkey do"!. We see something that works and then we copy it and make it part of our lives!.
That's what will help you now!.
You should find a room-mate to move in with, female preferably, that's reasonably normal!. She's normal because she's learned how to do things in her life that work!. You want to copy these things!.
I would suggest that you advertise locally for such a person and see what comes up!. Be honest with them without using the BPD label - you had an abusive childhood and you're not socially skilled, that's what you tell them!. You want to learn how to make your life work by seeing how their life works and copying it!.
It may take you a while to find such a person but you might pick up some friends along the way!.
Your choice of friends will be important - the person you live with is your anchor, but you want your first friend to be a little different than your anchor, so you get a different point of view!.
Then you want another friend that is slightly different from your other friend and your anchor, so you get yet another point of view!. And so on, for 3 or 4 friends!.
Each friend acts as a reality check on the other friends and your anchor, so you get a number of options!. That keeps you from going too far off track!.
If you see your anchor or friends doing something and you don't understand why they're doing it, ask them to explain!. Then ask the other people in your life how they would handle the same choice!. Pick the best answer and copy it!.
This is going to take a while to fix ( think in years), but it did work in my friend's case!. She went from being in 2 abusive relationships, alcohol addiction so deep that her family had given up on and zero self esteem to a point where she now has been alcohol free for 8 years, holds a responsible position at her church, has the respect of her friends and family back and is a lot happier with her life!.
What happened in your past is terrible, but it IS in the past!.
You have nowhere to go but up!.
You may email me at any time if you need more help!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of all, I'm sorry that you had to go through all that - it wasn't fair, but sometimes life is like that!.
It's important to remember that all of this is in your past!. It sounds like you're out of the house now, so these people can't continue to bother you unless you let them!.
Cut off all contact with your dad's brother's wife - she is absolutely toxic to you!. The same for any relative that gave you grief!.
Then tomorrow morning, your life starts with a blank sheet!. It may have a few smudges on it from the past, but YOU get to write what's going to happen to you in the future!.
I did this with a person that had problems similar to yours and it worked very well!. In the hopes that it will help you, I'm detailling what was done if you want to copy it!.
We humans are a patterning animal!. By this, I mean that we learn through "monkey see, monkey do"!. We see something that works and then we copy it and make it part of our lives!.
That's what will help you now!.
You should find a room-mate to move in with, female preferably, that's reasonably normal!. She's normal because she's learned how to do things in her life that work!. You want to copy these things!.
I would suggest that you advertise locally for such a person and see what comes up!. Be honest with them without using the BPD label - you had an abusive childhood and you're not socially skilled, that's what you tell them!. You want to learn how to make your life work by seeing how their life works and copying it!.
It may take you a while to find such a person but you might pick up some friends along the way!.
Your choice of friends will be important - the person you live with is your anchor, but you want your first friend to be a little different than your anchor, so you get a different point of view!.
Then you want another friend that is slightly different from your other friend and your anchor, so you get yet another point of view!. And so on, for 3 or 4 friends!.
Each friend acts as a reality check on the other friends and your anchor, so you get a number of options!. That keeps you from going too far off track!.
If you see your anchor or friends doing something and you don't understand why they're doing it, ask them to explain!. Then ask the other people in your life how they would handle the same choice!. Pick the best answer and copy it!.
This is going to take a while to fix ( think in years), but it did work in my friend's case!. She went from being in 2 abusive relationships, alcohol addiction so deep that her family had given up on and zero self esteem to a point where she now has been alcohol free for 8 years, holds a responsible position at her church, has the respect of her friends and family back and is a lot happier with her life!.
What happened in your past is terrible, but it IS in the past!.
You have nowhere to go but up!.
You may email me at any time if you need more help!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sometimes biological families aren't our real families!. You have a family that disrespects you, ignores you, and you don't have to put up with it!. Do yourself good and get an education, work hard to make yourself proud, and find friends that accept you and you will feel like you really are in a family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It your family issue!. You are all let alone!. It may be hard to lie normal life there so may be you can have a great time on internet!. Join communities and socialize!. You know you can meet your friends online!. Also you can make new friends online!. If not distant then obviously someone near you too!. Atleast that will keep your mind off horrible things happening with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Developed BordelinePD!?
You must be pretty educated to know that!.
You!.!.!.didn't hurt yourself now!.!.!.did you!?
I hope not!.!.!.
Okay, why don't you try a women's aid organization!?
Like this one!.
http://www!.jagori!.org/
Hope this helps!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You must be pretty educated to know that!.
You!.!.!.didn't hurt yourself now!.!.!.did you!?
I hope not!.!.!.
Okay, why don't you try a women's aid organization!?
Like this one!.
http://www!.jagori!.org/
Hope this helps!Www@Answer-Health@Com
WOW! this is a deep letter!. What is Borderline PD!? Honey, you need some therapy and need to get counseling immediately!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
"What doesn't kill us makes us stronger!. When you understand what this means you will then know what to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Leave them if you are still with them!. You deserve better because you are important!. I'm making a suggestion so don't feel as if I'm trying to force anything on you when I say this!.!.!. Read the bible!. Because it can really help you!. Just please try it, it helped me!. And even if you don't do that I just wish you the best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I grew up in a negative environment as well but I'm not going to explain the whole thing since it's gonna be a long one!. My dad was dead and my mom never really cared for me!. Anyways, what I did was I ditched them after I graduated from high school and cut off my connections because I don't want to remember every single of it!. And now life is good, in school and currently working!.!.!.it'll get better :) hope that helpsWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well!.!.!. I just hope that a liscened therapist diagnosed you with Borderline Personality Disorder, because if you diagnosed yourself, it might not be that!.
[if they did, visit this site www!.bpdcentral!.com]!.
I understand fully what you're going through!.!.!. I sort of have the same history!.!.!. but don't let it affect you that much!. Try to get away from them if you're still with them!. Become independent, and don't try to be with them!. If they treated you like that when you were a kid, they don't deserve to even speak to you!.
Go forward to your hopes and wishes!.!.!. Hope for better days!.!.!. Keep your head up, and don't worry about a thing!.!.!.
I'm very sorry for your mother!.
If you need to talk to someone, feel free to send me a message:), I'll be glad to help you :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
[if they did, visit this site www!.bpdcentral!.com]!.
I understand fully what you're going through!.!.!. I sort of have the same history!.!.!. but don't let it affect you that much!. Try to get away from them if you're still with them!. Become independent, and don't try to be with them!. If they treated you like that when you were a kid, they don't deserve to even speak to you!.
Go forward to your hopes and wishes!.!.!. Hope for better days!.!.!. Keep your head up, and don't worry about a thing!.!.!.
I'm very sorry for your mother!.
If you need to talk to someone, feel free to send me a message:), I'll be glad to help you :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
hey!.!.!.hi!.!.!.!.!.
i know its terrible wht happened to u !.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
but u hav to overcome tht!.!.!.!.!.u cannot prevent wht had happened but u can change the future!.!.!.
either u can make ur life terrible by crying or make it happy by just having fun!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
forget ur worries!.!.!.!.!.!.go out see the world!.!.!.!.see the trees , birds, animals!.!.!.!.!.watch every small thing tht give u happiness!.!.!.
then each drop of happiness will change into a ocean and will change ur life!.!.!.!.!.!.
first of all!.!.!.!.!.believe in urself !.!.!.hav confidence!.!.!.think u r special!.!.!.!.u hav the ability 2 change the world!.!.!.!.
persue a hobby!.!.!.!.show the world ur real talent!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
BEST OF LUCK FOR UR NEW LIFE!.!.!.!.!.TAKE CAREWww@Answer-Health@Com
i know its terrible wht happened to u !.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
but u hav to overcome tht!.!.!.!.!.u cannot prevent wht had happened but u can change the future!.!.!.
either u can make ur life terrible by crying or make it happy by just having fun!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
forget ur worries!.!.!.!.!.!.go out see the world!.!.!.!.see the trees , birds, animals!.!.!.!.!.watch every small thing tht give u happiness!.!.!.
then each drop of happiness will change into a ocean and will change ur life!.!.!.!.!.!.
first of all!.!.!.!.!.believe in urself !.!.!.hav confidence!.!.!.think u r special!.!.!.!.u hav the ability 2 change the world!.!.!.!.
persue a hobby!.!.!.!.show the world ur real talent!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
BEST OF LUCK FOR UR NEW LIFE!.!.!.!.!.TAKE CAREWww@Answer-Health@Com